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  • Why Coaches Matter, In Business and Beyond | Season 2, Episode 6

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    Join us for an insightful conversation with Greg Weimer, CEO, and Katie Montagazzi, Director of Marketing, as they discuss the transformative power of constant improvement and the pivotal role of coaching in personal and professional development. Greg reflects on the dichotomy of progress versus stagnation, emphasizing that in life, there is no neutral ground – you’re either advancing or regressing. 

    Through Greg’s experience with both formal coaches and informal mentors, experiences, and books  – he shares insights into the multifaceted benefits of coaching and the desire to evolve and improve. 

    Tune into this episode for an insightful exploration of the joy found in progress and discover how coaching can unlock your potential in business and beyond. 

    Greg Weimerrn00:04rnHello and welcome to the Imagine that podcast. I’m your host, Greg Weimer, founder, partnerrnand wealth manager at Confluence Financial Partners. Each month, we’ll explore new waysrnto help you maximize your life and your legacy and meet some extraordinary people alongrnthe way. So if you’re looking to get more out of your life today and legacy tomorrow, let’s getrnstarted.rnKatie Montagazzirn00:25rnWelcome, everybody. This is Katie Montagazzi, director of marketing here at Confluence,rnand I am interviewing Greg Weimer, our CEO. So welcome, Greg.rnGreg Weimerrn00:34rnThank you.rnKatie Montagazzirn00:35rnYeah. So today we’re talking about how coaches can improve our lives. And really fromrnGreg’s experience with formal coaches to informal coaches, from sports reading, books,rnpodcasts, and just how you can utilize other people’s expertise and experiences to improvernyour life. So welcome, Greg. Like I said, I wanted to start sort of with Greg’s background.rnYou’ve been in the business for 38 ish years or so.rnGreg Weimerrn01:04rn38 years, yeah, that’s it. Yeah, yeah, yeah.rnKatie Montagazzirn01:06rnWe can’t round up and say. 40. And you share a lot internally here at confluence withrnassociates, how coaching has affected your career, your family, hobbies that you’ve pickedrnup along the way. So I wanted to touch on informal coaching, how that’s impacted your life,rnprofessional coaching, maybe life business coaching, and then how you think a coach couldrnimpact people’s lives and why they should consider. Yeah, I think.rnGreg Weimerrn01:37rnI hope everybody goes and has some type of a coach that could be a priest, that could bernsomeone at the gym, a trainer that could be a coach to help you with or with help you learnrnhow to play the guitar. It could be a spiritual, it could be anything. It could be a businessrncoach, it could be a consultant, it could be a life coach. I think the single and by the way itrnwas a teacher at some point, right? If I think about the great teachers I’ve had and they werernjust bigger than their subject and they taught me something and I learned from them so Irnthink everybody and you can hire a coach. I’ve had a lot of coaches for our profession for mernto think about our business, how we can improve our business, how we can add more valuernto clients and I think everybody would benefit from some type of a coach. You have to startrnwith there’s no neutral.rnGreg Weimerrn02:30rnSo you either have drive or reverse. In life, there is no neutral. So you’re either improving orrnyou’re eroding. That’s just reality. Humans were not meant to stay the same. They werernmeant to evolve and they were meant to improve. So if you watch the, at least from myrnperspective, if I watch and I try to learn from the healthiest, happiest, actually the happiestrnpeople, they tend to be improving something.rnGreg Weimerrn03:01rnIt could be as small as golf, it could be as great as they’re trying to build a majorrnorganization, whatever that is, or it could be their health. To be truly happy and believe yourrnbest days are ahead of you, you’ve got to be improving some part of your life. And I don’trnknow how you do that if you don’t have coaches. I don’t even. I could try to count all therncoaches I’ve had that I’ve benefited from over the years. But truly hiring a coach will be thernbest. It’ll be the best investment you can make.rnGreg Weimerrn03:31rnI think if you think about making investments, the best investment you can make is inrnyourself. The second best investment you can make is in your business. Then you go tornother people in other businesses. But if that coach is 1520 or 25 or 30 or $40,000, thatrninvestment that you make on a professional coach, it’s the money that you’re going to get thernbest return on. I have a coach right now. I was on with him this morning. He’s out of London.rnGreg Weimerrn04:01rnI talk to him every two weeks. I probably spent too much money, but when I look back in tenrnyears, it’s going to be the best investment I make. Sorry for such a long answer.rnKatie Montagazzirn04:10rnNo, it’s fine. That was a great introduction. I was willing to say. I think it’s interesting you’vernshared a lot of this internally, but. Your quote, unquote, formal business coaching sort ofrnstarted with Tony Robbins. Whenever you listen to his tapes, when you were, I guess, earlyrnon in your career, and then you go through, you know, that’s evolved into, you know, we stillrnutilize his type of material here at confluence. But books, you.rnKatie Montagazzirn04:33rnI think you said you allow yourself one nonfiction book a year.rnGWrnGreg Weimerrn04:37rnI used to. I don’t anymore. I don’t do any anymore.rnKatie Montagazzirn04:40rnSo books are great.rnGreg Weimerrn04:41rnYeah. I used to allow myself one book on fiction, and everything else was, like, to improve.rnYeah. So, today, no. Like, I. And it’s not even what. It’s not even what I learned from thernbook.rnGreg Weimerrn04:53rnIt’s what the book causes me to think. So it’s not the words that you read. It’s what. Thosernwords. They almost unleash your mind to be more creative, more thoughtful, more. And so Irnthink whatever that is, and we can name a bunch of them ten times. We all just read tenrntimes better than two times.rnGreg Weimerrn05:10rnSo, like, it’s. I think it’s, by the way, reading them in a group with other people. So, forrnbusinesses, it gives you the same language to speak. So then when you start speaking thernsame language, it’s easier to just communicate. Cause you have similar vocabulary. So,rnyeah, it could be books. It could be Tony Robbins.rnGreg Weimerrn05:31rnThat was back when there were cassettes. And by the way, I think, like, I don’t know if Irnthought about. And I don’t even know if I’d like them anymore, but in that point in my life, Irnthink I probably spent. I probably spent, like, $600, which was like, a million. So. And I wentrnand I got 30 tapes from Tony Robbins, and I put them in my cassette player in the car, and. Itrnwas game changer.rnKatie Montagazzirn05:53rnYeah, I just want to start somewhere, like Tony Robbins cassettes, whatever that means.rnBooks, those are more like informal things you can utilize every single day. That’s easy torngrasp. One thing I wanted to mention was you had said, when things change in life and yournhave different seasons of life, maybe that means you invest in a coach or you listen torncertain podcasts. But you always mentioned September 11 and how you believe the worldrnchanged, which it did, and you knew you had to change.rnGreg Weimerrn06:22rn100%. Yes. When September 11 hit, I thought, okay, I need someone to help me thinkrnthrough. The market reacted, and it was very frightening time. So I thought, okay, what I did.rnSeptember 10 has to be a little different than I’m doing September 12. So I went and hired arncoach to really help me get focused so I could help people navigate through that period ofrntime that was frightening, not only from a financial standpoint, but from a safety standpoint.rnGreg Weimerrn06:53rnSo we were worried about our health and our wealth because we didn’t know, you know,rnwhat it was going to feel like to get on an airplane. So I literally went and got a coach to helprnme think through how I could behave differently through that period of time.rnKatie Montagazzirn07:05rnYeah, I just think that story is.rnGreg Weimerrn07:06rnImportant, by the way. I also think it’s important for a family or a couple. Right. So it’s reallyrnimportant that couples are on the same page. So Lori and I, my wife went to, like, a two dayrntype. Seminar in Pittsburgh on prioritization. And at that point in our life, it was very, veryrnimportant.rnGreg Weimerrn07:26rnWe did that. So I think if you can do it as a couple or as a family, it’s extraordinarily powerful.rnKatie Montagazzirn07:32rnI think that’s a really good point. When you say different seasons of life cause you to haverndifferent coaches or different ways you think about things, but it can include your spouse andrnyour family. It doesn’t need to be all about. Me, me, me, me, me. How can you improve yourrnlife? And that might mean different people.rnGreg Weimerrn07:46rnI went to this coach up in Toronto, Dan Sullivan, and it was a lot of money, and I went uprnevery quarter. And people came around from around the world. There was a small group ofrnus came around the world, business leaders, and we did. And, you know, hardly any. I got arnlot from that. It was fabulous. It was great investment, but probably the.rnGreg Weimerrn08:04rnGreatest thing I got from that was the importance of Lori and I going away for a longrnweekend. January, February, March, April, and we went away. And now you wouldn’t thinkrnbusiness coach. Trying to learn how to grow in your business and have a greater impact onrnpeople. You wouldn’t think that that would be the takeaway, but I’m telling you, that. Was arngame changer. Again, that was a moment in time.rnGreg Weimerrn08:24rnThat Laurie and I go in a way for. And by the way, if anyone wants to think about, we would.rnWe would go away. Four long weekends every single month. You’re always three weeks fromrnvacation or going on vacation. And it just. It was really important for us at.rnGreg Weimerrn08:39rnThat period of our life. So, yeah, so what you get from the coaching, it’s not all aboutrnbusiness. I went to a business coach, and personally, it was a very important moment.rnKatie Montagazzirn08:51rnYeah, that’s actually a good segue. I was going to mention, not every coach that you hire, notrnevery bookery or podcast listen to. You need to take as scripture 100%, like, I believe in this.rnI’m gonna change my life because of all these things I learned. But the one, two, three,rnwhatever nuggets you get from those experiences, that’s the investment you make. That’srnthe result.rnGreg Weimerrn09:12rnThe naysayers were like, oh, but that. Guy or that gal, you know, they do. The naysayers.rnHey, listen to me. 80% of its b’s. Yeah. The 20% will change your life.rnKatie Montagazzirn09:20rnYes.rnGreg Weimerrn09:20rnSo you just have to, like, understand, like, 80. So, like, there’s a certain portion of it that’srnneedless self promotion that makes me crazy. Like, I’m already paying. Stop trying to sellrnme. The next thing I get it. So you have, like, the needless self. Promotion, you have the littlernbit of.rnGreg Weimerrn09:33rnB’S, and then you have the Life changing. So what if it’s 20% is life changing? Focus on that,rnnot the fact that. He’S on his third wife or second. Wife or whoever these people are that arernnaysayers. Just focus on the 10% or 20%. That’S gonna change your life.rnKatie Montagazzirn09:51rnYeah, yeah, that’s great.rnGreg Weimerrn09:52rnThere’s always a reason not to do it, right? I mean, yeah, but, yeah, but, yeah, but. Or thisrnplace or. Yeah, but you had to go to. Vegas for a week. Yeah, but be careful that you havernbuts. It’s really important.rnKatie Montagazzirn10:04rnYeah, so. Something I want you to share is what do you think three or five or whateverrnamount of takeaways are important for people to know? Like, this is how you’ve experiencedrncoaches impacting your life.rnGreg Weimerrn10:19rnSo my current coach has me, first of all, the one thing they all do for you is they. And by thernway, I know the term, it’s metacognitive. It’s metacognitive. Metacognitive is. I just asked myrndaughter the word, so I was pretty sure. Metacognitive is when you think about your thinking,rnand really thinking about your thinking is extraordinarily important because the stories yourntell yourself will become your life. So you got to really think about what stories you’re tellingrnyourself because what you focus on, you will multiply.rnGreg Weimerrn10:54rnSo I think one of the things a coach does is they really help with that. So that’s one of thernthings my coach has me focused on. They also really help you focus on your goal. Tenrnyears. What is it you’re trying to accomplish? My coach said to me this morning, so are yournafraid you’re playing small ball? Another reason they’re like, let’s make sure we continue tornthink big.rnGreg Weimerrn11:16rnThink big. Think big. So they do help you clarify your goals. There’s some coaches, and byrnthe way, all coaches, they’re all good at something different, right? So, like, so I tend not tornkeep the same coach forever, but because some are really good at clarifying your goals,rnsome are fabulous at putting together the process to achieve your goals. All tend to be prettyrngood at helping you stay accountable to your goals. But in my world, it just feels like if I canrnhelp someone, if someone can help me crystallize what it’s all about for me in my life, if theyrncan help me think through some of the key activities and behaviors I need to do to make itrnactually happen, and then they can help me and sort of call B’s when it’s not true that I’m notrndoing it, held me accountable to what I said I was going to do.rnGreg Weimerrn12:04rnFor me, that’s a pretty good recipe. So I think that’s what a coach, at least for me, that’s whatrnthey do.rnKatie Montagazzirn12:12rnYeah. And I didn’t want to mention, too, a lot of people use the term business coach, but fromrnyour experience, and what I’ve heard is. You could have a coach that helps you think aboutrnyour thinking, which isn’t necessarily tied to the business of wealth management, but the wayrnyou think about your thinking does affect the business. So for people to really expand theirrnminds and think, I don’t need a business coach. I just need somebody to help me improve.rnXYZ.rnGreg Weimerrn12:37rnRight? Yeah. I mean, for me, business and life is sort of the same. So, like, it’s all the samernto me. But really, but really making sure on a daily basis, your peak, to make sure that yournare doing your best job possible for your associates, doing the best job possible for yourrnclients and your family. It’s really making sure that you have your stories that you’re tellingrnyourself. Positive.rnKatie Montagazzirn13:08rnRight? Last question. This might not be a formal answer from you, but if somebody said, hey,rnI do want to invest in myself, whether it be a coach or a book or whatever, how do you thinkrnthey should go about that?rnGreg Weimerrn13:19rnYeah, I talk to friends and say, like, hey, who do you use, coach? Call me. I’ll give you somernthoughts on who I used. This new coach is the guy out of London. I mean, I’ve only workedrnwith him for a month and a half, but I’d ask around. I also just start googling. Like, I startrngoogling and say, what’s this person?rnGreg Weimerrn13:42rnOr I get on YouTube and I’m like, okay, I’ll watch a YouTube video of a coach. I’m like, do Irnconnect with this person? Are they speaking to me? And do I think I could benefit from thatrnperson? And don’t get bothered that in a couple years you feel like, okay, I got what I think Irnneed from that person. Next coach. And it doesn’t need to be formal either.rnGreg Weimerrn14:02rnYou could say two, three associates. Let’s get together and let’s have it. Gregory. My son andrnI, we go to Dallas every four months to talk to other organizations like ours to make sure thatrnwe are thinking about the business appropriately. So it could also be, I’m doing another onernin a couple weeks in Orlando with a different group of businesses. So it could be specific tornyour industry. It could be, you’re like, hey, man, you know what?rnGreg Weimerrn14:30rnToday’s the day I’m going to get in shape and I’m going to call the gym. I’m going to get arnpersonal trainer. And that personal trainer is going to be very empowerful to you because it’llrnhold you accountable. Because if I tell the trainer I’ll see him at four, I’m more likely to seernhim at four than if I tell myself I’m going to work out at four. So the accountability. So I thinkrnsome of it depends on what you’re trying to accomplish, and then it may be spiritual. There’srnspiritual folks out there that can help.rnGWrnGreg Weimerrn14:53rnWith your faith. So first I think you have to figure out, like, what is it that I’m trying to improvernright now? It could be whatever. And then you go get a person or a group of people that arernworking on the same thing. And it is amazing over a 1020, 30 year period of time, how it trulyrndoes change the trajectory of you personally and your career.rnKatie Montagazzirn15:13rnYeah. Yeah. So. I guess to sum that up, you said in the beginning of the podcast, humansrnare most happy when they’re improving. And that’s really the impact. Yep, that’s the impact ofrnhiring a coach or just getting better. So thanks for sharing your experience.rnKatie Montagazzirn15:29rnI enjoy it. I hope everybody takes a little nugget from this coaching session, if you will. Butrnthank you, and I look forward to talking with you again. If we can help, call.

  • Tips for Raising Confident Children | Season 2, Episode 5

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    At Confluence Financial Partners, we believe in the holistic well-being of our clients and their families. We’re pleased to share our latest podcast episode focusing on the essential and sometimes overlooked area of children and adolescents’ mental health.

    This insightful conversation is not only for parents but also for educators, caregivers, and anyone committed to nurturing mental strength in the next generation. Discover valuable insights and practical application that can make a real difference.

    This podcast offers educational insights from a Licensed Professional Counselor with expertise in child therapy. It is a supplementary resource and not a substitute for personalized advice from a medical professional familiar with an individual’s health history. Confluence Financial Partners is not affiliated with or endorsing the speaker’s place of employment. Confluence Financial Partners is not being compensated for any individual who opts to seek assistance from the speaker or her place of employment.

    u003culu003ern tu003cliu003eu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003eu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ern00:04rnrnHello and welcome to the Imagine that podcast. I’m your host, Greg Weimer, founder, partner and wealth manager at Confluence Financial Partners. Each month, we’ll explore new ways to help you maximize your life and your legacy and meet some extraordinary people along the way. So if you’re looking to get more out of your life today and legacy tomorrow, let’s get started. Welcome. I’m Greg, and welcome to the imagine that podcast. I’m really looking forward to today for a lot of reasons.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996877u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn00:34rnrnSometimes the things we imagine are really positive. And I think today we can imagine and hope and pray that we’ll be actually literally able to save someone’s life or at least add some peace to some families out there. And I’ll tell you why I say it that way, is today we’re going to talk to families about something that is a real pandemic in our nation, and that is the mental health of our children today. Not to scare you with a statistic, but one of the leading causes of death in the United States of America with adolescents is suicide. And I’ll be more specific in that 18% of deaths with adolescents. Are suicide. We all fear cancer, rightfully so, but it’s only four and a half percent of the deaths in America.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996878u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn01:34rnrnI’m gonna say that again. 18% of the deaths in America with adolescents suicide. Four and a half percent of the deaths in America, adolescents, cancer. We need to do better as a nation. And there’s good news. There’s good news is. I think the good news is, I think it has our attention.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996879u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn01:51rnrnAmerica has woke up to the fact that this is a problem, and we’re talking about it, and we’re going to talk about it today with one of my favorite guests ever. And I mean that because her name is Madison Weimer, and I’m extremely proud that Madison, in her life, her purpose and her passion is to help bend the curve on the numbers I just gave you. Madison is a licensed professional counselor, and that came with an awful lot of schooling, an awful lot of dedication, and she helps families. And she used to just work with children. Now she works with more than just children. Her specialty is in OCD. And in hearing you talk about your profession, it is amazing how many people go from struggling with a mental health issue to going to suicide.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996880u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn02:41rnrnSo let’s do this in a couple components. Let’s start with, by the way, I want you to share the statistic you share with us over there about how many? Yeah. So let’s do that. And then let’s talk about, like, after you share that statistic, why don’t you give us some things that families and children can do to prevent a mental health issue? Then how do we recognize one? Then what do we do when one occurs?rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996881u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn03:13rnrnBecause I feel like people just feel lost. So I don’t know. I just feel like our goal we were talking about before we started recording, like, our goal is just to help a couple kids. Our goal is just to help a couple families. So hopefully we’re able to do that in the next period of time. Give the stat.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996882u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn03:28rnrnGive the stat. Okay, so the stat that we were talking about before this is that 20% of adolescents contemplate suicide at some point in their lives.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996883u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn03:37rnrnThat scares the **** out of me.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996884u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn03:38rnrnIt’s a lot, a lot of. Of teenagers, and it has become incredibly normal. It’s a topic that in. But wait, but wait. Yeah, so.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996885u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn03:48rnrnWhen we say normal, does that mean it’s like, almost becomes acceptable? Do you know what I mean? We were talking about different cultures, so we were also talking about different cultures. And some cultures, it’s very low. And in other cultures, my concern is because it’s considered normal. Normal. That means that.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996886u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn04:08rnrnI worry that that means that it becomes acceptable. Yeah.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996887u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn04:11rnrnYeah. So. And there is cultures that it’s not as discussed, and those are cultures also that mental health is not as discussed. So they do suffer in silence, sometimes a little bit more. But they also have different protective factors that causes them to not go to suicide as frequently maybe, as our culture does. But, yeah, it’s become a normalized topic. But it’s also.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996888u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn04:33rnrnSo wait, if it’s 20%, though, like, you know, I mean, I had four kids, right? So you think about that, right? I mean, you do. You think, like, holy cow. I mean, I was in a Southwest catholic academy. Awesome place. I was there this morning for mass.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996889u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn04:46rnrnYou know, there’s 400 kids in there. I could do the math pretty quick. Right? I mean, that’s like, 80 kids. Yeah. And so that’s big. And that’s contemplating suicide.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996890u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn04:54rnrnIt doesn’t mean that they necessarily want to act on it in that moment or are going to act on it, but it’s thought that crosses their mind of, it would be easier if I weren’t here. Something would be get. It would get better if I could just go to sleep and. Horrible.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996891u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn05:09rnrnLike, just as a parent, kids. Not true. Yeah. Like, just untrue. Like, so, like, that could be the story you’re telling yourself. Start telling yourself a different story. Yeah.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996892u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn05:18rnrnUntrue. Yeah. Okay. Mad and I think that’s what we want to work on. If it’s 20%, should parents be talking to their kids about it or. Yeah. Put it.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996893u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn05:27rnrnNo, absolutely. So I think a lot of people think that talking about suicide is going to make it happen more, and it’s actually the complete opposite. Just asking someone if they’re having those thoughts is not going to make it. Let’s do that again.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996894u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn05:40rnrnIt’s important. Right. Because I’ve heard that before. Yeah. It’s a scary thing to bring up.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996895u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn05:46rnrnRight.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996896u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn05:47rnrnBut I think a parent, if I talk about suicide, oh, my gosh, they’re going to commit suicide. Yeah.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996897u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn05:50rnrnNo, you didn’t put the thought in their head they had or they don’t. You’re giving them the ability to open up and speak about thoughts that are really scary and sometimes feel isolating and like there’s something wrong with you and that it’s never going to get better and you’re just going to suffer in that silence in your own head. All right, we’ll go back to the preventative thing.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996898u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn06:05rnrnBut I love the one time that you said, and you may not remember, we were talking and you said, if a teenager ever says to you, like, what’s going on in their life, what’s the best thing you can say to make them feel good? We’re going to talk about that, too.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996899u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn06:16rnrnAll right. We’re going to talk about that. We’ll get to that later then.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996900u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn06:19rnrnI love that. So anyhow, go to. So what can we do? Yeah. Well, I was going to say if I’m a parent, I am. You are parents.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996901u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn06:26rnrnTo all the parents out there.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996902u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn06:27rnrnWhat are some of the things. And kids, like, what are some of the children, what are some of the things we should be doing? Yeah.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996903u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn06:32rnrnSo when we look at. How we can prevent it. So there’s a way to prevent.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996904u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn06:39rnrnBy the way, this fires me up, the fact that we’re able to do this. I’m glad it was, first of all, not only like a father daughter thing, but it’s really cool that, like, we’re able to help kids. The fact that, like, we’re talking about this and actually, I think it’s awesome. Yeah.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996905u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn06:51rnrnSo let’s do ABCs of keeping yourself in a good mood. So it’s ABC plus two, because there’s two things that I think parents can be doing that are really important. Come up very frequently in sessions with teens. So the a stands for accumulating positive experiences. The more we accumulate positive experiences. It’s like a buffer. It’s like bubble wrap to negative experiences.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996906u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn07:09rnrnRight. So we should actively be doing at least two things every day, intentionally, just to put ourselves in a good mood. That can be as simple as fish fry with your dad tonight.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996907u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn07:20rnrnThat’s exactly it.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996908u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn07:20rnrnYes. I was gonna say something like the drink you have in the morning, stuff like that. And what you’ll recognize is as you intentionally do things to put yourself in a good mood. Small things, nothing crazy. And be aware of them. And be aware of them, the more you’re going to start to be aware of the other things that make you in a good mood. So the little things throughout your day that you’re thankful for and grateful for, that puts you in a good mood.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996909u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn07:43rnrnSo that gives us purpose, and it gives us hope, right? So we want a life worth living and something worth living for. Purpose. So a lot of kids lose purpose, and they’re like, what’s the point of this life? I don’t know. So just by accumulating positive experiences, we’re able to, one, kind of have, like, a buffer against negative experiences, and two, give ourselves a purpose in life and have a life worth living for. So as a dad, so.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996910u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn08:07rnrnAnd I’m not having any more kids, but. So with our grandchildren, like, you just really want them to. You want to make them aware in the moment of enjoying it instead of just like, passively going through it? Is that it? You make them present to the moment? Or maybe if it’s an adult, instead of just drinking cup. The cup of coffee?rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996911u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn08:29rnrnYeah. You’re excited about the cup of coffee?rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996912u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn08:31rnrnI love the coffee. Yeah. I can’t wait.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996913u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn08:33rnrnAt 05:00 when I say excited about it, I love it. So that’s it, like, gives you a purpose.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996914u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn08:37rnrnI’m waking up this morning because I have a cup of coffee that I’m pumped for. I can’t wait for it. It’s amazing that that’s so small. So small.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996915u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn08:44rnrnSo, so small.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996916u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn08:45rnrnBut it’s so small. So with your children, make sure they’re enjoying the moment. Doing things every day that is just for them because you also think they’re at school. They’re at school all day, and that’s stuff that’s given to them, assigned for them that they don’t necessarily have a choice over. So having things that they’re intentionally doing that they’re excited about, that they enjoy, and it doesn’t have to be anything.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996917u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn09:04rnrnSo that half hour of pushing your kid on the swing or going for the walk or reading the book and all the things that sometimes we don’t have time for. Right. It’s important. Yep. So it’s not that you’re entertaining them for a half hour. It is that you’re helping their mental health.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996918u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn09:24rnrnYou’re helping them be able to have a buffer against negative experiences. So you’re helping them buffer against that person at school that said something negative to them, that grade at school that made them upset. They’re way more easier to handle that if it’s going to be something that then by nighttime, they’re happy, they’re playing on the spring. And that’s. I love that experience. What was the a? That’s.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996919u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn09:42rnrnAccumulate.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996920u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn09:43rnrnAccumulate. I got it.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996921u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn09:44rnrnOkay.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996922u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn09:45rnrnSo then b is build mastery.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996923u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn09:47rnrnSo doing things that’s going to help you learn a skill, build a skill, doing something that is going to make you feel intentional, efficient and competent. Right. So that is going to, like, the piano lessons isn’t really about the piano.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996924u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn10:01rnrnNo, it’s.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996925u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn10:01rnrnAnd what we learn, actually, is we actually see more happiness. Chemicals go off in the brain when we’re learning something, rather than we, when we achieve what we thought we were going to like. Get to that point. You learned a lot. I know.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996926u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn10:14rnrnI know more than you think.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996927u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn10:15rnrnYeah, I know more than you think. That’s wonderful. So those.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996928u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn10:20rnrnSo that. Whether it’s a sport, whether it’s an instrument, whatever. Crafting. Yeah, whatever it is. And I think we sometimes put too much emphasis on sports. Right. Yeah.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996929u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn10:30rnrnIt’s those other things. It can be learning how to make your true for adults, too. I mean, I think adults are happiest when they’re learning to improve something. Yeah. All right, so I got that. Yeah.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996930u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn10:39rnrnSo it battles against hopelessness and helplessness, which is one of the number one things in depression that leads to suicide. Hopelessness and helplessness. Okay, so then we have the c, which is coping ahead. Coping ahead is going to be thinking about, okay, what do we do when those negative situations happen? How can I cope positively. So doing things such as breathing exercises, journaling, going for a walk, talking. This comes from a person that when I tell her to breathe, she gets mad at me, but go ahead.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996931u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn11:06rnrnOkay, so I was just gonna say teenagers, and I’m out of my teenage years, but most adults as well, when you tell them to do something in the moment, that’s okay. It might get a little bit. It might go upset about it. Be careful with that. So this is why we cope. Ahead is important. Right?rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996932u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn11:19rnrnSo when we’re calm, we sit there talking about, like, what do we do? Like, what do we do when we’re upset? What are we gonna do? What’s our plan? Right, okay, so our plan is that I’m gonna, like, nudge you and be like, it’s time for that walk. Like, this is the coping skills we talked about. So incorporating coping skills is really important.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996933u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn11:36rnrnSo in our business, the market goes down every once in a while, and we call them lifeboat drills.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996934u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn11:39rnrnYeah. Like. Like, you don’t. You don’t learn. You don’t learn about a lifeboat when the boat’s going down, the cruisers going down. You go. Cruise ships go down.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996935u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn11:47rnrnYou learn about a lifeboat when you’re. Yep. Peace of mind.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996936u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn11:50rnrnYeah. So coping.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996937u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn11:52rnrnGot it. Coping ahead. Yep. So that’s the abcs.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996938u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn11:54rnrnAnd then we have plus two important things for parents to implement. So one is communication. And this is where we get back to the thing that I told you teenagers want to hear when they’re. I love that. I said, you need to learn to just say, that’s so annoying. I got it. That’s so annoying.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996939u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn12:08rnrnSo annoying.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996940u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn12:09rnrnRight.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996941u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn12:09rnrnAnd it’s not in a way of being fake, it’s truly getting into their brain and feeling empathy for their situation, not fixing it, not solving it, not giving them. That’s important way because that’s what we try to do. Right.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996942u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn12:21rnrnAs a parent, you always try to fix it like we’re gonna make go away. Instead, it’s like, I get you. They just want someone to listen. It’s annoying.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996943u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn12:28rnrnI got it.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996944u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn12:29rnrnThey want someone to listen. Yeah.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996945u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn12:31rnrnThat person in class that was going on, that’s so annoying. Instead of saying, you should do this, they just want to hear someone listen. So communication open and honestly communicating about feelings is really important. So adults can model positive communication as well. So being able to express themselves when they are having a negative emotion in a calm. Way and asking for what they need. That is going to help children also be able to do that in the future and then offer empathy and just listen.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996946u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn13:01rnrnJust listen. I mean, most people, when you think about it, what do they want? They just want someone to listen to them. No question. They just want someone to get it and listen. And that’s why therapy is so helpful, because it’s someone that is just there to solely listen. Yeah.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996947u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn13:15rnrnAnd that’s it. We’re there to listen and hear you and really get it. So communication is one of the plus twos. And the second one is letting your kids fail with support. They need to know how to handle negative situations. Yeah. As a nation, we’re raising fragile kids.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996948u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn13:36rnrnYeah. Because we’re running around with pillows so they don’t get bruised. Yeah. So saving them is not going to help them.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996949u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn13:43rnrnRight. Being there for them, offering them empathy through it, telling them, I am here for you no matter what, I love you no matter what. So important. Right. But taking the problem away for them. Not hopeful. They learn to then think that any negative emotion is amplified.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996950u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn14:01rnrnI can’t. From a parent’s perspective, that’s the hardest of all.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996951u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn14:05rnrnYep. Because you feel your. If you’re able. New times five. Yep. Like, if you’re filling it one. Like I’m filling it at five.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996952u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn14:13rnrnSo. So, you know, and, like, I just want to make it go away. Like, make it go away. Yep. And so. So wait, summarize. Just go ahead, do it again.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996953u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn14:22rnrnOkay. So abcs, plus two. So we have accumulate positive experiences.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996954u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn14:26rnrnWe have build mastery. We have cope ahead. And then we have our plus two. So that’s communication. Big on empathy and listening. And then we have letting them fail with support. So as a nation.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996955u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn14:38rnrnAs a nation, if we could do that.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996956u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn14:40rnrnI don’t know if the 18% goes to two. I don’t know if it goes to 16, it can’t go up. If we’re doing the right things. And if nothing else, maybe we just have some stronger, more resilient, more resilient, less behavioral health issues in America. Now, having said that, and I have to say this, then we’re going to move on to that. But if, when you have a behavioral health issue, what are some things to look for? I also.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996957u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn15:04rnrnOne of the things frustrates me about behavioral health. It’s like a pet peeve. We think it’s something that these children do to themselves. We think it’s like, we don’t say, like, you know, they’ll say, oh, they have everything in the world, why are they having behavioral health issues? You don’t say, like, they have everything in the world. Why do they have diabetes? Like, it makes me crazy.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996958u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn15:22rnrnThe fact that, like, it’s almost like we act like it’s a deficiency, not a health issue. So it’s a health issue and we need to think about it like a health issue and stop acting like it’s some deficiency in this human being. They’re awesome, they’re wonderful, they’re unique. This happens to be the thing they struggle with. Yep. Yeah. Just as someone with a physical illness would struggle, it’s the same thing for mental health.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996959u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn15:44rnrnI think another important statistic is that 10% of our happiness, only 10% of our happiness. Happiness comes from our life circumstances. So, like the money we have, the house we live in, the new clothes, the new car, 10% of our happiness. That’s only. There’s other things. Yeah, that’s interesting.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996960u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn16:01rnrnOkay, so now, because somewhere along the way, if there’s this many people thinking about children thinking about people, children thinking about suicide and actually committing suicide, And having. And you said earlier, which is heartbreaking. Suffering and silence. Right. They’re suffering and no one knows. And how lonely that would feel.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996961u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn16:28rnrnWhat are some of the people the loved ones around these children can do? Or what are some of the things that the people around these children can watch for? Can watch for. So you want to look for any changes. Right?rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996962u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn16:41rnrnSo changes in appetite, so eating more or less than usual. You wanna look for changes in sleep. Then you also wanna look for feelings of isolation. So, like, pulling away from their friends. Naturally, in teenage years, that’s it. They’re gonna wanna sit in their ups and downs. Yeah.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996963u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn16:58rnrnBut at the same time, they’re probably still gonna wanna hang out with their friends.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996964u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn17:02rnrnSo.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996965u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn17:03rnrnI see. I happen to think sitting in the room thing is a bad thing. It’s not a great thing. Right.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996966u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn17:07rnrnWe need a little space sometimes. I get it, but it’s not a great thing.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996967u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn17:10rnrnSo. Yeah. Careful how much you’re sitting here. Careful how much you’re isolating. It doesn’t make you feel better. Right? So isolating is a big one to look for excessive worrying about things like, it is not normal to be having a panic attack once a week.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996968u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn17:24rnrnIt’s not normal. I think it’s become normalized. It’s not. You shouldn’t be crying at school weekly. That’s not normal. Right. That’s when we seek more help.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996969u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn17:33rnrnSomething else is going on inside their head. Let’s see what other things. But if people were just aware of that because, you know, you. And there’s.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996970u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn17:42rnrnOh, they’re in the room. Right. Or the crying at school or whatever the emotion. I mean, and I guess there’s moments of time you go through stuff like that. We all have times. Yeah, we all have those things. But just to be aware and almost just more in touch with what’s going on, it’s not normal.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996971u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn17:56rnrnIt’s not normal. Yeah. Yeah. Mood changes is a big one as well.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996972u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn17:59rnrnYeah. Teenagers are moody, for sure, but there becomes a. What about physical stuff? Like, they start doing, I was gonna say. And then there’s the physical things. Right. So, like, you also have to look at the amount of teenagers that come to me and say they have stomach issues.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996973u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn18:14rnrnConstant. Right. So, like, if there’s not, if you’re going to doctors and they’re not finding anything wrong, there’s probably mental health stuff going on that’s going on inside their head. Right. So we have, like, stomach issues, headaches, all of that stuff that’s going to be signs and that’s just from the stress in their world. Okay. Got it.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996974u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn18:33rnrnSo now when something like that happens, hopefully, hopefully we’ve prevented it. But if we haven’t prevented it, we can identify it. Now that we identify it, I talk to parents all the time, and it doesn’t, it’s almost unanimous that when it happens, there is a feeling of where do I go? What do I do? I feel totally helpless. So what are some of the things a parent can do to help? Yeah.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996975u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn19:01rnrnSo I think one of the hardest worlds to navigate is the mental health world and finding a therapist, finding support, and when you’re in that moment, it’s urgent. Right. I need help. Yeah, you can’t. And, you know, access is hard, right?rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996976u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn19:12rnrnSo you call, you know, whatever you call a therapist, and it’s like, I can see you. I can see you, May. Yeah.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996977u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn19:20rnrnWe’re all working really hard to get in as many clients as we possibly can, but we’re. So many of us are at our limit, and we’re at our max, and we can’t see any more.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996978u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn19:29rnrnWe can cut this out if you don’t want me to say it, but if you call for Maddie, where she works, they’re going to tell you she’s booked because you’re booked. But we’re going to put Madison’s. I call her Madison. The world calls her Maddie. So when you call her, she’s Maddie. But we’re going to put Madison’s contact information on our website attached to this, attached to this podcast. And by the way, for people who don’t know, our website is u003ca href=u0022https://linkprotect.cudasvc.com/url?a=https%3a%2f%2fconfluencefp.comu0026amp;c=E,1,HE6my1jjyPdzroT5Jm6uaPlxxbRM2hRfHngJXTPlZpYpu1XTqFf7ykX6hWjcKvKMp21TGcYxkqOTr_-UF_obCFL_7pGGD0D9YBbo3CcSU1Q,u0026amp;typo=1u0026amp;ancr_add=1u0022u003econfluencefp.comu003c/au003ernu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996979u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn19:59rnrnYou go to our podcast. Imagine that. You’ll see the one that we’re doing today with Madison. You can look, and I’m gonna give you some other resources. Also, you can get Maddie’s contact information, and you know, she will best. She can not be booked. You don’t have to.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996980u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn20:16rnrnYou don’t have to cut that out. But, yes, you can see my contact information if you contact me.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996981u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn20:21rnrnI do my best to move my schedule around to get people in when they’re in need. So. You can always reach out and contact me. But, yeah, so if your child comes to you or your start, and by the way, this is not a plug to you at Madison business, she’s booked. I am booked. Yeah, I am booked. But I will do my best.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996982u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn20:35rnrnBut if your child comes to you, they’re struggling, or you’re noticing signs that they’re struggling, that’s when you sit down and you have a conversation and you say, I think we need more help, and then say, I am here for you and I want to find you someone. You say, I think we need. At that point, you think that you need to go find somebody.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996983u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn20:54rnrnIt’s not like, hey, let smile in the mirror, or like, you know, no, that is at the point when we say, hey, I noticed some struggles going on, and let’s get you some extra support.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996984u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn21:03rnrnJust as you said earlier of like, hey, I noticed your physical health is wavering a little bit. You seem to have a cold. Let’s go to the doctor. Same thing for mental health. I’m noticing some struggles going on. I’m going to find you extra support. Right.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996985u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn21:15rnrnSo then looking. You can look online as well of like, people that are going to fit for what you’re looking for, anxiety, all that kind of stuff. But then there’s also crisis of, like, we are in immediate need right now. My child is saying some things that are very concerning and I need support right now because they’re in immediate danger. And at that point, then we do have crisis numbers and support to help with that, like resolve. Resolve is great one.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996986u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn21:41rnrnOkay, so for, and we’ll put all this on our website, resolve. So this is if you have a crisis going on and, like, you’re afraid something bad is going to happen, it’s amazing how many people do not know resolve exists and resolve is 1888. You can. Yeah. Is that right? Yeah. 1888, you can.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996987u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn22:03rnrnI’ll give you the 1888-796-8226 yeah. Okay. So that’s resolved. So that’s resolved. And honestly, what resolve will do as well is if you’re really struggling and they need to come to you, they will.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996988u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn22:16rnrnSo they will. They will actually take a mobile team and send them to you if you need them to as well. So this is just a passion. And I’ve learned, I’m learning more and more about this. One of the wonderful things.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996989u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn22:27rnrnAnd hopefully the rest of people are listening to this. Outside of Pittsburgh have similar. But Pittsburgh has remarkable resources. They just appear to me to be somewhat disorganized and I don’t. They’re hard to find. They’re hard to find where to look for them. But Pittsburgh is blessed with incredible resources.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996990u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn22:44rnrnOkay. So resolve.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996991u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn22:45rnrnResolve is a great one. Every county has a different crisis number as well.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996992u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn22:50rnrnSo you can find your county’s crisis number and contact them as well. Okay. I do know that children’s, because I’m involved in children’s. It’s doing remarkable work.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996993u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn22:59rnrnIn fact, we would encourage you, if you’re listening and you’re fired up about this, that we’re going to make a difference. Children’s is going to be a leader in helping in this issue. And, you know, so children’s has just started recently on the third floor, up to 18 years old. It’s a walk in clinic. So we have a behavioral health walk in clinic, so didn’t have that before. We have psychologists and psychiatrists embedded in the children’s pediatrician network through western Pennsylvania. So there are more and more resources.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996994u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn23:37rnrnWe’ll put all of this, there’s whole child, which is a new concept. So we’re going to put all of this attached to this podcast. And I do actually have friends that work for children’s pediatrics as well as therapists.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996995u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn23:52rnrnAnd they do a great job at initially, like resolving the crisis, and then they will find you someone that they think is really well suited to you as a therapist. So they can do a great job in getting you in with someone that’s going to be able to see your child long term. And I just know in talking to you and talking to others, a therapist is a personal thing.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996996u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn24:09rnrnIt’s like dating is what we say. So it’s like dating that you kind of have to shop around and see who’s going to be best suited to you.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996997u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn24:16rnrnYeah. Yeah. Because I think some people go find a therapist, there’s not the connection.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996998u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn24:22rnrnAnd they say, I’m never going to get married. And it’s like, no, it’s like you have to find the right therapist that you’re comfortable having a conversation with. So I just worry that some people, I went to a therapist, it didn’t work. Yeah, you might have to try a few. You might have to try a few.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286996999u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn24:39rnrnIt can be defeating and discouraging, but if you find the right one, it can be so special. So as a parent, don’t try to fix the problem on your own.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286997000u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn24:47rnrnDon’t feel uncomfortable about going and getting help. Listen and communicate. And the good news is I find. I don’t know, maybe just because people know I care so much about this, I find more and more people. I think everybody should have a therapist. I agree. I think everybody should have a therapist.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286997001u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn25:03rnrnAnd you have a coach for everything. You should have a therapist. But the good news is, I think the stigma of getting a therapist is definitely decreasing. I will say with the younger ones, teens, it’s trendy now. It’s cool.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286997002u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn25:20rnrnIt’s trendy to have a therapist. So, like, it’s not gonna be this big, scary, like, thing that they have going on of, like, oh, my gosh, they’re seeing a therapist. No, it’s trendy. They all talk about their therapist. Their friends know my name, which is how it is. I guess I worry. Like, I know.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286997003u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn25:37rnrnLike, I just worry that it’s, like, I don’t want it to be trendy.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286997004u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn25:41rnrnDo you know what I mean by that? Yes. But in the same way, they have someone to speak to, in some ways, I get it. I think it’s awesome. But it’s like, what’s not trendy is being mentally sick and having problems.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286997005u0022u003eMWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eMaddy Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn25:51rnrnWhat is trendy, though, is being open and honest about your feelings and having someone to support you through it. That’s cool. That’s awesome. And I think parents give your kids that gift. I mean, you may have a child.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286997006u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn26:04rnrnWorst case scenario, contemplating suicide, potentially suffering in silence. And because in some cases, you believe there’s a stigma about going to get a therapist, you’re providing them the peace and happiness for the rest of their life. And so, like, get over it and get over it, and you may provide your child peace, or you may save their life. Mad, I got to tell you, I am proud of you. Thanks. I think what you do is amazing. I think it’s very necessary.rnu003culu003ern tu003cli data-scroll-id=u002286997007u0022u003eGWu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu003cstrongu003eGreg Weimeru003c/strongu003ernrn26:38rnrnHopefully today, with some of the nuggets you shared, we’re able to help somebody out there, and if it’s just one person, we’ve achieved our goal. So thank you so much. I really appreciate it, and you are a wealth of information. Thanks. Thank you.

  • Considerations for Purchasing a Second Home

    Season 2, Episode 4

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    Join our host and CEO, Greg Weimer, for a discussion around second home ownership. In this episode, we discuss some of the considerations surrounding the purchase of a second home, from the initial expense to ongoing carrying costs like housekeeping, maintenance, and even the logistical aspects such as travel that are sometimes overlooked.

    But it’s not all about the financials. Greg also touches on the invaluable investment in family memories and the joy of creating lasting experiences. Whether you are considering an oceanside getaway or a warm cabin in the mountains, tune in to gain insight and discover if a second home is the right decision for you.

    Confluence Financial Partners — Considerations for Purchasing a Second Home | Season 2, Episode 4rnrnGreg 00:04rnrnHello and welcome to the Imagine that podcast. I’m your host, Greg Weimer, founder, partner and wealth manager at Confluence Financial Partners. Each month, we’ll explore new ways to help you maximize your life and your legacy and meet some extraordinary people along the way. So if you’re looking to get more out of your life today and legacy tomorrow, let’s get started.rnrnKatiern00:25rnHi, everyone. This is Katie Montagazzi, director of marketing here at Confluence. I’m sitting here with Greg. We were just talking about some topics that come up in conversation with clients and their families. And as of late, a lot of people are talking about buying a second home. And that sounds exciting, and it is. But as Greg’s going to share, there are a lot of pros, cons, things to think about, and we’re going to talk about that today.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnGregrn00:51rnYeah, big decision. But I would just say what if. Fun decision, like enjoy the process. We’d be happy to help you facilitate that conversation with your family about a second home. We went through that two and a half years ago, so a lot of stuff to think about, though. I would really encourage you. I’ll just give some random thoughts, go to different places to make sure you really know where you want to be.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnGregrn01:20rnHow often do you want to go there? We needed to be within 2025 minutes of an airport because we go in and out a lot, so that’s real important. Should you rent? Should you own some of these prices? I don’t know. Do you look at them?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnKatiern01:36rnFlorida. That’s about it. But yeah, I look at crazy.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnGregrn01:39rnI u003ca href=u0022mailto:look@realtor.comu0022u003elook@realtor.comu003c/au003e. Every morning to just check the prices. They’re really getting out to be outrageous. How about after you purchase the home, if you’re purchasing costs associated with the house, it is the most underestimated number of all the numbers, the carrying costs of homes. It’s just a lot. You usually have an hoa. You have to take care of it.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnGregrn02:02rnWhen you’re not there, things break. By the way, I don’t mind that we knew that going in, but I would argue for most people, the carrying costs are extraordinarily high. But I’ll be balanced on this. The carrying costs are extraordinarily high, but the moment you create with your family and the legacy you create. Spending time with your family. I’m just thinking of so many people that have done it, and I think they would almost all agree they are also very high. So you may look at it as a carrying cost, you may look at it as a price, but you also could look at it as an investment in your legacy.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnKatiern02:44rnYeah, I was going to say, our mission is maximize lives and legacies. And a lot of times that means for people doing things now while you’re living with your family, to create the legacy once you’re gone. So I know for you and your family, that’s been the case for your second home.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnGregrn02:56rnYeah. If you buy a stock, you get a dividend every quarter, and those dividends are awesome. And when you die, your family gets a stock. And by the way, we love portfolios. So we’re not saying put all your money in second homes. Let’s be really measured on this. But if you own a home or just a second place to go, or you go on vacations, whatever your thing is, you don’t get a dividend.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnGregrn03:21rnBut you do get incredible experiences. And then your children get a home that they can sell in 20, 30, 40 years. So it’s not like you’re spending giving the money away. You’re still going to get it back. But there are opportunities. I would say, though, it’s not any fun if you’re stretching, for most people, it’s better to rent, because if you’re just going to go January, February, March, we don’t go that long. We have a couple of weeks at a time.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnGregrn03:46rnIf going to go January, February, March, and you’re just going to go down three a lot of times. Renting, even for a month or two. Renting is by far financially, from a financial standpoint, a better decision. And both of them provide the incredible experiences. But you’re right, the carrying costs. Really high.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnKatiern04:06rnYeah. And I’ve seen clients financial plans where we can put into the plan. We think it’s going to cost x amount of dollars per year on top of buying the house. And we can help you figure out the math of that, too. So it’s not just the logistics, but the math 100%.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnGregrn04:21rnLike, if you’re going to buy a second home, the most valuable reassuring thing to have is to make sure you have the certainty that that second home is not going to put you in a financial pinch, period. Absolutely. So we will model out the additional cost. We will model out how much it’s going to cost you to buy. We’ll model out all that and we’ll literally show you, can you comfortably buy it? Or maybe we would recommend renting or maybe wait a couple of years. But absolutely we can help you with the certainty of that decision.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnGregrn05:01rnI guess that’s the point. It is a big decision. There’s a lot to think about. But I hear a lot of people talking about second homes. Shoot, you go down to parts of Florida now it feels more like Pittsburgh. There’s so many people that travel back and forth. So it’s a wonderful opportunity to have that.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnGregrn05:17rnWe love talking to family because at the end of the day and. Your portfolio is awesome, but your portfolio is awesome because it supports your life and your legacy. So if a second home is the right thing for you, we can help you come to that conclusion.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnKatiern05:37rnThank you, Greg. That was an interesting conversation. And like we said in the beginning of the podcast, purchasing a second home has really become a hot topic for a lot of our clients. So if you want to start or continue the conversation, we’d be happy to do that with you. Thanks.

  • Passing the Torch: Navigating Wealth Transfer | Season 2, Episode 3

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    Join host and CEO, Greg Weimer, as he speaks with our COO, Gregory Weimer, CFP® , CPA, and Director of Wealth Planning, Randy Holcombe, CFP® about the significance of planning around wealth transfer. 

    Whether you are growing and developing in your career, or contemplating the legacy you’ll leave behind in the latter stages of life, this discussion sheds light on the impact of estate planning and effective communication.

    Tune in and discover how these elements can shape not only the inheritance for your heirs, but also the enduring legacy you’ll leave for generations to come.

    u003culu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e00:04u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eHello, and welcome to the Imagine that podcast. I’m your host, Greg Weimer, founder, partner, and wealth manager at Confluence Financial Partners. Each month, we’ll explore new ways to help you maximize your life and your legacy and meet some extraordinary people along the way. So if you’re looking to get more out of your life today and legacy tomorrow, let’s get started. You. We have a really important topic today, and it’s it’s a megatrend. It’s a megatrend facing the families we serve.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e00:35u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eIt’s a megatrend facing the families in our country, and it’s a great opportunity. It’s also an incredible responsibility. And that is there’s $96 trillion that’s going to transfer to the next next generation. Unfortunately, some of those transfers will not go well, and the transfer will be viewed by the next generation as a burden and will cause controversy in a family and stress in other families. It will be a blessing. Our goal today is to give you, the listener, some ideas on how to make your family transfer your wealth in a way that it’s a blessing. So have two of my associates with me today.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e01:25u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eOne also happens to be my son, Gregory. And just to give you a little bit about their background, gregory’s a CFP. He’s a CPA. He’s also a certified exit planning advisor. I also have with me Randy holcomb. Randy’s a CFP, be, and he’s also the director of our wealth planning. So there’s a lot to think about in this transfer.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e01:47u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eWe pride ourselves in helping people maximize their lives and maximize their legacy. And by the way, there’s a balance to that, obviously, right? There’s a balance to how much of your legacy do you want to create while you’re living? How much do you want it to be inherited? Let’s open it up for a discussion. And obviously, we’re going to start with what do you want the money to do for you? What are your goals with this money?u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e02:13u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eNext, we’re going to go into, like, okay, does an estate plan make sense? What are some things to think about in the state plan? How do you communicate it to your family, and then how often should you review it? They’re just some thoughts, right? And that’s just a general framework. So you, the listener, know where we are in this conversation. Let’s start out with goals.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e02:33u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSo, Gregory, you work with a lot of families. Maybe give the listeners some things to think about as they’re and, Randy, you can chime in too, but Gregory, give them some things to think about on some of the things you should be thinking about when you put together your goals.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e02:50u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, and I think you started off with maximize life and legacy, and I think starting there is a perfect spot to start because it is a balance. And so as we’re talking about a wealth transfer, we immediately go to the unfortunate passing of one generation and passing that wealth to the next. But during the life also, how do you balance maximizing moments with your family that they’ll remember or getting involved with philanthropy or whatever is important to you, with your legacy also? So we work with a lot of clients to figure out, okay, with your planning, how much do you want to leave to the next generation? What does that mean for them? And maybe during their life, can you take that extra vacation to create memories? And a lot of times that’s important, and there’s ways we can have those conversations to really bring that out with families.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e03:36u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eMaybe we can get into that later. But it is really interesting, and everyone does have different goals 100%.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e03:43u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAnd by the way, you would think you spent your whole life thinking about it. Right, but sometimes it’s really hard to articulate. And so, to your point, we can talk about a family meeting if you want and how we help families sort of decide what those goals are. But, you know. Maybe buying the second home is really not about how you’re living, but it’s also about the legacy. I unfortunately just came back from a funeral, and we’ve all been there. When you hear them talk about the person that has just passed and let there be no mistake.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e04:11u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eThey’re talking about the legacy that person’s already created. And it doesn’t have a whole lot to do with money. It has a lot to do with moments and how they live their life.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e04:21u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eNormally, at that point, no one’s concerned about the money. The estate has to settle, right, and it has to get passed. But when you’re standing there, everyone’s thinking about the legacy of moments. So it’s a really important part of the wealth transfer. And we’re calling it wealth transfer, but it’s a bigger transfer than just that.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e04:38u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eIt is. And then when the wealth transfers, one of the things you have to consider is how much control do you want? So you’re gone. How much control do you want to make sure that money transfers the way you want it to transfer? The other thing that we should probably talk a little bit about in goals, I think it’s of the $96 trillion, there’s about 19 trillion that is expected to go to philanthropy. So how you want a charity that you really care about and make an impact on to be transferred to that charity is really important.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eRHu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eRandy Holcombeu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e05:09u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eI think it’s important to remember, too, that that 96 trillion is not all financial assets. A lot of its real estate, a lot of its businesses. So the goal depends on the asset. If it’s a business you’re passing on, that could be a whole different set of goals than money.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e05:23u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah. 100% of the 96,000,000,000,001 3rd will be in financial assets. That leaves businesses. That leaves car collections. I know your goal may be for someone to really inherit that car collection because that’s what they always wanted, et cetera. The next generation may or may not want that. So you really need to make sure under the goals, that you think about how those things should be transferred.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e05:51u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah. So every type of asset may be transferred differently also. But then even if it’s going to your children and even if it’s just financial assets, do they get it all upfront? Is it in trust? Is it not in trust? Are the beneficiaries right? Do they get it over a period of time?u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e06:06u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eThere’s a lot of different language you can put into trust and estate documents to effectuate that, but you have to make sure you have the right team around you so that that’s set up upright or it could put a burden on the next generation if it’s not written the way you intended. Yeah.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e06:22u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eI don’t want this to sound as self serving as it maybe is about to, but. It. You really need to make sure Your team of advisors is experienced in thinking through this. I mean, this is what we think through all the time with our families, whether it’s through exit planning, successions, whether it’s through philanthropy, whether it’s through helping them review Their trusts and their wills. I mean, all this stuff’s really important, and it has to really be a team. And so really spend time and ask yourself, do I have the right team of advisors? The acid test in this firm is I visualize I’m no longer going to be here maybe in 30 or 40 years.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e07:06u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAnd I want to make sure that this organization Is appropriately structured, that when my wife Is sitting in this office without me, that is here to make sure that our wealth, whatever we have, is transferred appropriately through our family. So our promise to you is we’re thinking through this. Our promise to you is we think about how to structure this family for our family and your family on a daily basis. So now that we think about the goals. Let’s think about the estate plan, because I think some misconception about estate plan. Oh, you have to have $30 million to think about that. It makes me crazy.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e07:45u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eRandy, why don’t you touch on a little bit on why would you think about what documents you need, or do you need an estate plan?u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eRHu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eRandy Holcombeu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e07:53u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, so there’s several reasons. One is, like you said, some people do have the $30 million estate, and they are really concerned about taxes. So there are certain things you can do to minimize your taxes. But more often, and I don’t care if you have a million, 30 million, your family needs clarity on your estate plan, and you need to provide that. When you put the plan together, people will fight over just about anything. If you don’t make it clear the way everything’s supposed to flow, how it needs to go. And you talked about blessing versus burden.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eRHu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eRandy Holcombeu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e08:26u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eIf they and have a clear picture of what needs to happen, it can shift quickly over to the burden side.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e08:32u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAnd when there’s a business involved. It gets a lot more.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e08:39u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah. I mean, one thing that Randy said, too, is on taxes, and obviously we’re talking about estate taxes. I think even for those who don’t have a big estate, sometimes there are situations where there’s an inheritance tax that’s coming that you could do some planning around that may not be obvious to the naked eye right. But because of the situations, there’s a big one, and because we’re in Pennsylvania, one of the three states, or whatever it is that charges inheritance, this does happen. And that’s something because we’re focused on estate taxes and what the exclusion is, and the state’s not that big, it doesn’t mean there’s not going to be a tax.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e09:16u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAnd please understand that everybody’s like, well, I don’t have as much money as exclusion. You have no idea what the exclusion is going to be when you die. We know in the next two years. It’s over 20 million or $20 million. We get it. 22 million, whatever it is. Um.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e09:30u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eBut in 2026, it goes back down, and who knows where it is in ten or 20 years? So regardless of the assets, you have to be smart. We run it all the time. I just saw this week where you see in life insurance policies not owned by trusts, you see a lot of things happen that just could save the families if they’re meaningful means. We you and I have worked on some you look, and we could save them ten, $20 million in state tax, tens of millions. Yeah. It’s remarkable.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e10:03u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAnd unfortunately, I think people say that they’re going to do this stuff someday. Going to someday. I’m going to do it someday. And you could plan a lot of things. Your death isn’t one of those. So really getting on this stuff right away, and this is front and center. I mean, this is happening now, $96 trillion, and it’s frightening how many people are really not prepared for that moment.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e10:26u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah. And I think it’s important with the communication and making sure you have the right team to make sure for your next generation there’s things you can do to make sure that when they do inherit wealth, whatever that number may be, they’re ready to live with that. And they know how to invest, they know how to plan. And so help them understand, help the next generation understand how to get started early investing so that it’s a seamless transition. And yes, the dollars are changing, but it’s not the first time that they’re seeing an investment statement go up or down and them accumulate wealth. And to the next generation, start early and do your own planning. If your parents or grandparents haven’t instilled that in you, it goes both ways.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e11:09u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAnd it helps when you do that planning along the lines how the next generation receives the money. I mean, you see, people say, I’m going to give them a third at 35, a third at 40, a third at 45. There’s another way to do it that you can make sure it goes on for multiple generations and you say they’re allowed to take a stream of income off that, but the principal goes on to the next generation. So then you, as the person passing on your wealth, has the comfort to know that your grandchildren and your grandchildren and I say that very deliberately, will benefit from your wealth over the long haul. So that’s also extraordinarily important. So one of the ways to start the conversation. On how to invest money and how to think about money.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e12:03u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eIs philanthropy. Do you want to talk a little bit about, like, a donor advice fund, for example?u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eRHu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eRandy Holcombeu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e12:07u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAbsolutely. So donor advice fund has become very popular in the last ten years, and essentially what that is, is you can make a donation to a donor advice fund. You get a charitable deduction. It’s just like giving to any other charity in that year. But then what you have is essentially a pool of assets that you can then direct to whatever charities you like. So it’s a great way. We have a lot of clients that will do that and use it as an opportunity to bring the next generation in on wealth conversations, because they say, hey, we have this pool of money that we’ve designated for our family to give to charity, and we want your input.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eRHu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eRandy Holcombeu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e12:43u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eWe want to make these decisions as a family, so let’s talk about this.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e12:47u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAnd it’s a great entree into the financial conversations, so we actually can help you think about which charity you want to really participate in. If you need contacts at local charities, we can find out what you really care about and we can connect you with those charities and then we can talk to you about do you want to put it in your estate plan and do a planned gift? Do you want to do a donor advised fund? Do you want to contribute highly appreciated securities? Do you want to think about how to help children with education through EITC? There’s so many ways to do it and do it effectively. It’s a great conversation for families.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e13:25u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSo let me back up, because I just want to recap, because then I think the next part for us to talk about is essential. Think about what you want your money to do, not only now, not only for your moments, but into the future, the next 1020 years, once you understand what it is you want to accomplish. Put together your documents to make sure that you’re doing that tax effectively so you’re not spending a bunch of money in estate taxes. And additionally, it creates clarity, which I promise you, we do this all the time. Your family wants clarity, so give them the benefit of having clarity. I remember saying to you about something you’re like, yeah, dad, that’s too vague. Make sure you clarify that.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e14:16u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eI don’t want to think about that when you’re gone. And that’s just being honest. And that was you being honest, and I appreciated it. So we made it more clear. So please be clear. Your family will appreciate it. Your family has the ability right now to see the impact you can make over philanthropy, exit planning.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e14:34u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eThere’s so many things we could talk about. But then once you decide on your estate plan, the next essential part, because, remember, it doesn’t always work out well. 90% of money that’s inherited is squandered in the second generation. I’m sorry? 70% of the money that’s inherited is squandered in the second generation. 90% in the third generation. Don’t allow that to be your family.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e15:02u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eThe reason that happens is one, something we already talked about, and that is because of a lack of structure and estate plan. Second is because of lack of communication, so not communicating about it does not help the next generation. We just had a meeting this week, but all three of us participated. There were six, seven of us. Whatever there were. You want to talk a little bit about what that was?u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e15:29u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah. And then maybe, Randy, you can provide some clarity on this, because you’re the one kind of spearheading it. But we think family meetings are extremely important in sitting down with a family and allowing them to talk about their goals, the estate plan, charity, whatever is important to them to start to communicate those values now about what’s happening now and what’s going to happen in the future. So we’re working on some modules to allow families to have structure to that conversation. So we’re putting in the work behind the scenes to make those conversations easier with family, because not easy. They’re hard, especially the first one, and hopefully it gets easier over time in our family.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e16:08u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eThe second one is that.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e16:09u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eActually the yeah, and we were probably four in or something like that, and the topic’s a little bit different every time, but it’s important, and they’re helpful, and so I don’t think they need to be over engineered, and I think that’s something that probably holds families back. What am I going to talk about? What do I want to say? What’s the kid going to learn? Don’t over engineer it. We’ll do that for you and give you the information we need and simplify it. Randy, maybe you can mention in some of the modules we’ve put together well, we’ve done several, a lot of it.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eRHu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eRandy Holcombeu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e16:38u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eWe’ve already talked about estate plan, legacy, charitable giving, investing, passing down some of the knowledge to the next generation. But we think there’s very few things that are more important than a family meeting. And if you talk to most clients and you say what’s important to you, if they have children, almost always that’s number one. And yet, despite that, a lot of times they have trouble bringing up the concept of their wealth. Wealth transfer. It’s not always a fun thing to think about, and you know how it is. If you’re uncomfortable with something, you’re less likely to bring it up.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e17:13u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eI think they’re the most rewarding, enjoyable I love those meetings.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eRHu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eRandy Holcombeu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e17:17u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eThey’re always great.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e17:18u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eThey’re always great. We’re fortunate in that most families, we serve multiple generations, so it would be unusual. There are cases, but it’s unusual that we work with the. Parents and not the children. That would be unusual. And regardless of the age of the children, we’re sitting in my conference room. There have been many 20 year olds and 25 year olds, including my daughters, in here, talking about how to invest whatever money they have so they can start to gain that knowledge.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eRHu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eRandy Holcombeu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e17:48u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAbsolutely. And just imagine yourself in a situation where your children are inheriting your money, and think of the difference. If they’re just inheriting it, they’re seeing all of it for the first time. They didn’t know how much was there. They didn’t know what all the accounts said. They didn’t know what the trust said. Imagine how difficult that situation is versus a situation where you’ve been meeting with them for the last ten years, and not only going through the structure of the estate plan, but you’ve been communicating your values, you’ve been communicating what’s important to you.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eRHu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eRandy Holcombeu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e18:16u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYou’ve been building a legacy as a family. And so that when the time comes for them to inherit it, it’s just a natural next step as opposed to a jarring event. Yeah.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e18:26u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eWe’ve had, what, four?u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e18:27u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, I think we have four in.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e18:29u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah. So I tell you that it’s really important. It’s important to do it, and we enjoy it.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e18:39u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eOne of the tools that has been used in a lot of family meetings, we’ve used it just in some client meetings also, that, I think, just gives an example of. Outside of what does my estate plan say? What’s my net worth and what could be passed down? Right? If that’s what you get into. But the other thing that is really important that people really enjoy are the picture cards. And many of you have probably heard us talk about them before, but it’s just a deck of cards with pictures on them.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e19:03u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAnd it allows every member of the family to pick out what’s important to them. And it gives people way to share their values. And so you really start to learn what’s important to the family. Do people start picking something that reflects philanthropy? Is it about vacations? But back to the beginning of Maximize Life and legacy. This can help with that.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e19:24u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eThis can make the family realize we want to do a donor advised fund and give to. Charities with animals. This could be we love vacations, and we want to spend time making memories now with vacations, whatever it may be. It’s one of the parts of one of the modules that is almost always in one of the first family meetings.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e19:44u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eIt is so much easier to find the picture that speaks to you than find the words that claire so these pictures is what, 100 cards or something like that? Probably. You pick three or four. Everybody picks three or four. You compare them, you talk about them, and it really does create a wonderful dialogue. I know our family enjoyed it. And by the way, I feel like family meetings, like, overdoing it, right.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e20:07u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAll we’re doing is really we’re facilitating a family conversation. So, like, in our family, I sent them out, like, hey, here’s ten things we could talk about. What do you think? So we picked two, and we talked about philanthropy, and we talked about trust, and every year We’ve talked about something different. But it’s really just facilitating a family conversation. So everybody’s on the same page. So wonderful.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e20:36u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eIt. The goals are important. We can help you through that. Also to say, hey, here’s some things to think about. The estate plan is critical. Find the right attorney. We’ll put you in touch with some attorneys that we think match your personality.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e20:50u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSo we work with a lot of different attorneys. We’ll find one that matches your personality. Our job is to make sure your goals come alive in those documents. US. Because so many times there’s a disconnect there, even when you find someone that matches your personality. So we’ll go through the documents they created and we’ll bullet point it for you, saying, hey, this is what the documents say. Is this what you expected them to say?u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e21:16u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSometimes it is, yes, sometimes not. Also, from a communication standpoint, we would love to help you to facilitate those family conversations. So what did we miss, guys? Anything that you think would help the listeners of.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eRHu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eRandy Holcombeu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e21:34u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eI think one thing is that we should think about, and we talked a little about businesses, but if you do have assets that are a little bit different coin collection, classic cars. Think through that. You can carve out something special in the estate. Plan to deal with those. If it’s a coin collection, for example, don’t make your children go out and find some way to sell those coins. If you have relationships with people, write that in there. Just make it real clear.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e22:00u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah. We have both of those issues right now. Right? Yes.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e22:06u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eThat? No, I think if we’re summarizing two words, I just say that are really key are communication and organization. I think communicating amongst generations is really important and we’ve talked about some ways to do that. And I think organization is also key. Some of that comes from the estate plan and the documents. Some of it comes from your assets not being all over the place. Maybe we didn’t get into businesses too much, but if you’re a business owner, it what happens, right?u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e22:34u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eIf something happens to you, who does it get passed down to? Is there a next generation ready in the business? And that may not mean family next generation, that could just be next generation. But how do you get bought out? Are the business documents in place? What does your estate plan say? If you have one person in the business, one family member in the business and no one else, what happens?u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e22:55u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eHow do you communicate that? So there’s a lot there. And so that’s part of organization of make sure all of your ducks are in a row. So that there’s no surprises or stress when that day comes.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e23:06u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eThey buy you out, right? I mean, how do they buy you out? You have three kids, one’s in the business, the other two aren’t. How do you make that not equal but maybe fair, all of those things. And we can help you think through that. And by the way, the time to think about succession planning in your business and exit planning is 15 years before you do it because that next generation needs to be prepared. So it’s absolutely seamless.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e23:36u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eWe actually are entering and no one’s going anywhere, but things happen. Every key a person, we just went through this table recently, every key person, if they get hit by the bus, are we ready for that? Just to make sure we’re overly prepared. But in family, that’s also true. So really thinking when you think through the amount of businesses that are going to go, the next generation, there’s the people that will be ready, there’s the people that won’t be ready, and there’s a group that don’t want them. So to really think through how you’re in some families, that’s their biggest asset. So making sure that transfers effectively is huge.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e24:18u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah. And if you’re the business owner, do you know the number of what at a minimum you would need to receive from the business? And that gives you some flexibility in understanding an internal transfer to the next generation. Or how would family buy me out? Or selling to a third party? That can change. I mean, if all of your wealth is wrapped up in that and you want to retire, you probably need a certain number to maintain your lifestyle.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e24:41u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSo plan for that early so you’re not surprised when that day comes.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e24:45u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSo two things just the importance of getting started and then let’s talk a little bit about the importance of review. But I really think it’s important for everyone to just hear that the biggest obstacle to having a good estate plan is the expectation of having a perfect estate plan. So get it started and then understand that from time to time, you may want to review it.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGJu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGregory J Weimer IIu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e25:11u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, I mean, you’re so right. The estate plan can change in most cases. The documents can change. As life changes, so can the documents. You may add a trust, you may change beneficiaries, you may change guardians. It can change. And so there’s nothing making it permanent in most cases.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e25:30u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eIt’s really important to get it started. If you don’t, you’re putting your family at risk and the government’s going to benefit at some point, and you’re not going to have clarity. As Randy was talking about earlier, I’m actually on my fifth reinstatement, so that’s not unusual. I’m on my fifth reinstatement of my plan, and our life changes. Fortunately, our family’s growing, so our situation changes.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eRHu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eRandy Holcombeu003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e25:52u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAnd there’s different things I’m sure most of you have heard irrevocable versus revocable trust. Revocable is obviously easier to change, hence the word irrevocable versus revocable. But either one, there’s different things you can do depending on how it’s set up. So, like Greg said, the important thing is get it started. I think. Another thing you say a lot is it’s what it’s like 100 pounds of pressure to get the locomotive moving. Only 20 pounds of pressure to keep it moving, so get it moving, and then you can always adjust it from there.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e26:23u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eTotally agree. Be. Thanks, guys. Appreciate it. And hopefully, our gift to you, and we look forward to working with you on these conversations, but hopefully our gift to you is your wealth. Your part of that $96 trillion will be transferred as a blessing, and you will avoid it being a burden on the next generation. So for the families that we are privileged enough to serve, we look forward to being on that journey with you to help you make that succession of wealth successful.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGWu003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cbu003eGreg Weimeru003c/bu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003e26:54u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ern tu003cli style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022 aria-level=u00221u0022u003eu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eFor those of you that we don’t currently work with you, if you think we would be the right advisors for your family. We would welcome the opportunity to continue the conversation. Thank you.u003c/spanu003eu003c/liu003ernu003c/ulu003ernu0026nbsp;

  • Fuel Your Body to Maximize Your Life | Season 2, Episode 2

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    Join us for a conversation with our Dietitian, Sarah Rupp MS, RD, LDN, on how to fuel your body with nutrition.

    In today’s fast-paced world, whether you’re a dedicated business owner, a loving parent, or a high-performing athlete, one thing remains constant – the need to prioritize your health. But let’s face it, navigating the landscape of nutrition can be a daunting task. Join us as we demystify the complexities of nutrition and provide practical insights to fuel your life.

    Healthcare Disclaimer: The contents of this episode are meant for educational purposes and not to be misconstrued as medical treatment advice. Please speak with a qualified healthcare provider regarding personalized guidance regarding your specific medical condition before making changes to your unique plan of care.

    u003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  0:03  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eHello and welcome to the Imagine That podcast. I’m your host, Greg Weimer, founder, partner and wealth manager at Confluence Financial Partners. Each month, we’ll explore new ways to help you maximize your life and your legacy. And meet some extraordinary people along the way. So if you’re looking to get more out of your life today, and legacy tomorrow, let’s get started. I’m Greg Weimer, and I’m here with Sarah. And Sarah has joined us. What about three months? How long? Yeah, June 1, new, new unusual associate. So that’s why it’s gonna be fun. So Sarah is a dietitian with Confluence. And that was a new thought for us. Probably not totally new in the industry, but a new thought for us. And we knew we wanted to hire a dietician for a while, actually, in fact, if you go back and listen to one of our older podcasts, you know, we were interviewing Dr. Mary Lamb. And she just said the words wealth and health and I’m like, okay, wealth and health. That’s so cool. So, we hired Sarah, to help with our clients’ health. We understand we’re 100% focused also on wealth. But Sarah is a dietitian, and Isaiah and her daughter, Addy, and he’s, what, six months now? Fresh six months, so yes. So we knew we wanted the dietician. But when we found Sarah, it became a lot easier of a decision. So welcome. We’re delighted you’re here. I think first because when we were going through the interview process, one of the things that I was very confused about was like, There’s dietician, there’s dieticians. There’s nutritionists like, and I’m like trying to figure out everybody’s just to make sure you have the right person, not only from a culture standpoint, but from a credential standpoint. So if you could just spend a couple minutes or a couple of just telling us what’s the difference between a dietitian and a nutritionist?u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  1:49  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, so that’s a really common question I get asked a lot. So nutritionists, that’s not like an accredited term. So anyone could really call themselves a nutritionist, you could take some courses online, get some certificates. So it’s not to downplay the knowledge that can be there. But dietitian, there’s credentials behind my name. So kind of the process to go through as you get a bachelor’s degree, you do a coordinated program, which is like a supervised practice for so many hours, and then you sit for the national exam. And then once you pass it, you get credentials, and then you have to keep up on continuing ed. So it’s a very, like, regimented process. Yeah, it just, it has a process to Wonderful.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  2:33  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eOkay, so you’re credible, we got it, let’s go. So our goal, actually, of this podcast, is we’re not going to change the world. But holy cow, if we could bend the curve, our goal here is just if we could just help people make more informed and therefore better decisions around their health and more specifically, around their diet. So if right, let’s try to do that together. And if we think about the mission of Confluence being maximizing people’s lives and legacies, it’s really hard for us to think about maximizing someone’s life, if we don’t help them also with their health. So for us, it makes total sense. So let me just go through a couple things. Because for one of the things I find, it’s complicated. Like I hear keto diet, Paleo Diet, water’s good, intermittent fasting. So we’re gonna have to get overly detailed, but let’s unravel some of those. So when you think about like paleo, keto, that type of stuff, what goes through your head? What advice do you have for folks?u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  3:41  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, that’s a good question. So there’s, you know, like anything because of the internet and technology, like there’s so much information out there. I think when it comes to nutrition, for most people, like getting back to the basics, you know, maybe it’s not super sexy, but the food groups have, you know, your whole grains, your dairies, your fruits, vegetables, proteins, I think eating a mix of all those foods for most people is going to be what keeps you healthy, those foods have the nutrients that our bodies need, that we can’t create on our own, to give us energy to get to give us energy to help us get through our data to have that kind of capacity. So not processed stuff. Yeah, so not processed, the more food that we can consume and whole form back to its natural state is going to be better for us. There’s a lot of food additives. Now, that can really influence like our energy levels give us energy crashes, provide a lot of inflammation in the body. So as far as like, okay, the keto diet, Paleo like looking at those individually, you know, those have been researched. Those can have some success. I think it really depends on the individual what’s actually realistic for their lifestyle, telling someone like keto to consume predominantly fat If that can be done well, and you can get into ketosis and burn fat, but it could also be done really poorly and ended up hurting your health, making it more difficult to take weight off it. So it kind of depends what your what your goalsu003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  5:13  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eare. So here’s the so let’s do let’s do, let’s do specific goals that sure someone is in business or in life or a mom or a dad and they want to be at, you know, their peak performance for the day. Yeah. Because you said, you said you know, sugar crashes and stuff like that. We don’t want that. We don’t want that in conflict. We don’t want that with our clients. We don’t want that in the world. So like, give me an ideal scenario. Yeah, I wake up. What do I eat? When do I eat carbs? window window, a protein? Just you know, I mean, just just a quick overview of what like a perfect day would looku003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  5:44  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003elike? Yeah, yeah. So it’s a good question. So I would say the perfect day would be that you are waking up drinking water. You’re staying hydrated right off the bat. So nighttime cups of coffee right away. Maybe some I would wait on that. Maybe water first. Yeah, and change. Water first. If you can, a glass of water. Just start the hydration process and then drinking your coffee. If you can drink it black, that would be the best recommendation. And then some peopleu003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  6:12  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eno matter how much coffee I drink, so I don’t know how to get through the day. I’ll promise a bit like a bit like Yeah, so like a pot could be too much. Yeah,u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  6:21  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eI think different. Like we all have different probably caffeine like tolerances. But does that count as a fluid. Yeah, so that’s good. But yeah, I would say for the normal person, focusing on your carbohydrates, like in the morning and daytime, that’s when our body is most primed to like process like whatu003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  6:38  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003edoes that mean? So like, what? Like, what is what so what do we do you do eggs in the morning? Do you like to do eggs and bacon? A lot of these breakfast bars? How do you know like which one to eat? Which one not to eat? Yeah. Right, because they all are marketed to be healthy.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  6:51  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eRight? Right. What do you look for so Okay, let’s kind of over like, let’s go back to simplifying it. So I would say with each meal, if you could eat a balance of your focus is protein. So protein foods, that’s going to be your eggs. That’s gonna be your meats like chicken, pork, beef, all the animal products. And so if you can kind of surround your plate with that is like the centerpiece focus that’s going to keep you balanced Protein helps keep you fuller longer. So if you can make that the star of the show every plate, then you’re off to a good start. So your protein foods like breakfast, specifically, big fan, big fan of eggs. Some people don’t love it, then you could go like Greek yogurt. But as long as that is your focus, and you can kind of surround it with some natural carbs. I’m talking like fruits, veggies, that would be ideal. Not everyone is doing that in the morning. Yeah, veggies. Okay. Yeah, but you can also do things you know, that add fiber, like, which is fruits, veggies, but also like your flax seeds or chia seeds if you’re making a smoothie. So in the morning time you want something that’s going to keep your energy balance. Okay, so as opposed to grabbing a croissant or like a muffin, bad, bad. processed food packaged food. Because really what that’s gonna do, right, it’s gonna, it’s just going to taste good, but it’s going to spike your blood sugar, which usually when our blood sugar is spiked, we feel jittery. And then it’s gonna crash, and then we’re gonna be hungry again. Yeah.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  8:25  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eFor all the business owners out there. Or, or, you know, mom, dad, I guess in your homes. One of the things we have Sarah doing in our firm is going through our kitchens and making sure that we’re not having crashes through the day and you can be crisp. So you’re redoing our snacks, right? Tell me about lunch. Here’s Yeah. How about that? How about our conversation about the wrap? Yeah, the wrap was bad news. Yeah, I’ll come clean on this. Here’s my view. My view is we started with the salad. Yeah, healthy right. Then if you wanted to be a little less healthy, you went to a wrap? And then if you wanted to be totally healthy, ate like bread in a sandwich or something? Yeah. So what we found was a wrap in a sandwich. You don’t like this, but it’s equally bad.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  9:14  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSo what we’ve been talking about Yeah, I don’t know if we’re not agreeing. It depends on the type of person so like, carbs get a bad rap, like, um, you know, rice, bread products, pasta, all that. It’s because those break down quickly in our body to sugar, we want to use that as quick energy. If we’re not using that as quick energy, then it’s just stored for later. And that’s how we can put on weight. So we just want to make sure we’re balancing those kinds of carb foods with high protein foods that take longer to digest and break down they’re actually keeping us full. So what we were talking about was like, if it’s a whole grain than that is in its full form, so it’s not been processed. So there’s more nutrients to it. There’s more fiber to it. Um, so I would absolutely pick a whole grain wrap. Especially you’re putting like salmon in, right? Like, that’s excellent. Yeah. And then you can fill a rap with vegetables, you know, hummus, like itu003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eUnknown Speaker  10:10  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003ejust sounds easier not to have a wrap. Yeah. Well,u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  10:13  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eif you’re, if you’re satisfied without the wrap, okay, but like, don’t be afraid of the wrap. Don’t be afraid.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  10:18  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAnd then dinner. So like, we were talking about carbs? Not as, like, be careful at dinner, correct? Yeah,u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  10:27  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSo the theory kind of getting in a little bit behind that is like, our bodies have circadian rhythms, we have a natural process that regulates our hormones that we like that the body prefers to thrive off of. So during the daytime, that is really, there’s a lot of signaling, from daylight, Sunshine like that. This is when our body processes food.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  10:49  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eWe in fact, an allergy. Like we actually had someone come in and speak to our farmer about how to slow dementia and lowering your ability, your chances of getting it. And one of the he He’s incredible. And one of the things he said is important is in the morning, it’s really important to get like natural sunlight. Yeah, in the morning. Yeah, not in natural sunlight. So So yep, exactly.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  11:10  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSo kind of going off that, like our bodies have a preferred time to process energy. So there’s something called insulin, that’s a hormone that helps the sugar get inside of ourselves to make energy. So in the evening time, our body is less insulin sensitive. So what that means is that we’re just not going to process it as well. So we probably should not be eating as many carbs in the evening, we’re, a lot of people were more sedentary, you know, you’re getting ready to go to bed. So, you know, going back to like, your plate should be surrounded by like a protein as the centerpiece and then fruits, vegetables, and then like complex carbs. Like if you want to add in some like potatoes, or some like Keane was something like that. But the closer that you can get to those types of like, eat more of these foods, the better.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  12:02  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAnd don’t eat after when like, yeah, like, what time at the in the evening? Should you stop eating?u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  12:08  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, that’s a good question. So going back to like, it has to be realistic for the person to make sense for their lifestyle. But I would say like, if you can have a cut off time of around like seven o’clock at night, that would be really good for your body. Yeah, yeah.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  12:23  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSo it’s been so much fun to have you around, because I could have like, Hey, Sarah, how about this? Like, Hey, Sarah, how about this? Hi, Mickey. Yeah, hey, sir. How about this? It’s been wonderful. One of the things we talked about is, how about intermittent fasting? You’re hearing all about it. And then I heard you say earlier in the conversation about inflammation, and how it can actually, you know, I’ve heard that intermittent fasting can help reduce inflammation in your body. Is that true?u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  12:46  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, so I’m a big fan of intermittent fasting. There has been a lot of research surrounding it. So it’s not just another fad diet, fasting has been around since the beginning of time, you know, whether, you know, not not out of, like luxury, but more of necessity, really, like in our western civilization, like we’re eating around the clock bodies, we really don’t need that we’re really over fueling ourselves for what we need. So that is contributing to the obesity epidemic. And so essentially, intermittent fasting, it can take a lot of different forms, the most popular one is probably the 16 Eight approach, which is choosing 16 hours within the 24 hours of the day, that you’re going to fast and then there’s going to be an eight hour eating window. So a lot of people include in their fasting time, you know, sleeping, so it might actually be eight hours that you’re awake, that you’re just refraining from food.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eUnknown Speaker  13:41  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSo it’s not that bad. So you skip breakfast. It’su003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eUnknown Speaker  13:43  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003enot bad. Yeah, it’s depending on how you set it up. Sou003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  13:45  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eset it up you you skip breakfast, and you go from you eat lunch and dinner, right as long as you’re done by Right, right.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  13:51  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAnd there’s, there’s ways to do it wrongly, but kind of just to get into it. Like, I like to say that the body is really smart. Some people think that like refraining from food, you’re going to go into like fat storage mode, the body’s going to, you know, freak out and turn on itself, that’s really not the case. The research that I’ve seen is that it can really be beneficial. When we are putting in food in our body for energy, the body creates energy to utilize. And then once those stores are used up or used up, that’s when you start getting into like the fat burning mode. So depending on the timeframe, usually 16 hours fasting won’t get you into like anything like ketosis, anything like that. But that is kind of like a good reset for the body that it can not be stimulated by that insulin hormone, like we said, and therefore not kind of like build up the fat stores. So we’re not stimulating insulin when we’re not putting food inu003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  14:47  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eright. What I appreciate about the way you the way you think about this is you have a realistic approach. Like in talking to you it’s not you’re not an extremist of every bread, and it’s like hey man, if you want pizza It like, don’t be afraid of the pizza. Yeah, right. Which which is, which is wonderful just to just to let our listeners understand how we’re going to be using stairs, knowledge and ability inside of Confluence is right now she’s working on content, you’re probably seeing some of that content online, that’s been very valuable. She’s going to be working with our associates internally, to make sure that we, you know, we perform for our clients at a high level, and then we’re going to start doing some lunch and learns so so you’ll start seeing some lunch and learns where we’ll invite you know, clients and friends into our into our offices. And we’ll have, we’ll have just, you know, just some, some five things you need to know about eating in the summertime, or how to eat fast food healthy, or whatever that is, or maybe we’ll dig into some local restaurants, menus. And you can say, like, Hey, if you’re gonna go out to eat in the South Hills, or North Hills, whatever, here’s what you should eat. And then ideally, we would like to make Sara available to some of our clients also, on an individual basis, so that’s the thought process behind it. So a lot of stuff on diet. We didn’t touch on what I asked, like, how do you know cuz I know, I brought in my breakfast bar for you. And you’re like, Yeah, you’re good, even though you sort of made fun of the taste a little bit. But you looked at certain things. So if you’re out there and you’re looking at a breakfast bar, what are the numbers they should look at? And what should they be?u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  16:25  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, that’s a good question. So in full disclosure, I did make fun of it, you did, and I’m sorry, I felt really bad afterwards, I gave it to you. So there’s a time and place for breakfast bars, I get it like I’m a super on the go person, like that’s easiest to grab. When you’re looking for a breakfast bar, just like protein bar in general, I would recommend at least 10 grams of protein, I don’t think it’s worth it. To do any less than that, you’re going to want to always look at the ingredient list to see just how many like additives. You know, chemicals are in it. And you know that, yeah, so it’s gonna be really weird names that like you might have trouble pronouncing. So you want to look for more like natural ingredients that you can pronounce. So one of the the bars that I’m really on a kick of right now, or those are x bars that have those four natural ingredients just really compressed together. It has like dates, maybe like walnuts, chocolate, and you know something. So if you’re eating a bar that just has a ton of chemicals in it, your body is probably not going to know what to do with that. So it would be more advantageous to get the nutrient density of that protein. What about like fats and stuff? Like you know, they what percentage of fat should the bar have? Yeah, so I don’t know about percentage. But if the bar can focus on there’s, there’s different types of fats that are more beneficial. So you want fat and the dye is helpful for keeping us fuller longer, it’s the most energy dense macronutrient we have protein, carbs, fat, it’s going to keep you fuller. So we really want to avoid saturated fat as much as possible. Mono on saturated fat is good. So mono comes from like olive oils, avocados, walnuts, and then saturated fat is what contributes kind of to heart disease. So,u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  18:16  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eso bad. Okay, so here we go. So we talked about the meals. What are the healthy snacks? Yeah, so like, like, if someone’s saying, Yeah, that’s great. But like, I need a snack. Yeah, so what, let’s go through some snacks. So if you just like instead of maybe the Doritos, and this and these things, that long term, you know, may stop you from enjoying your life later on. What are some of the healthy snacks that we could that we could have?u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  18:44  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, so depending on your goals, like if you’re trying to lose weight, or like, if you’re just trying to be healthier, I would just always recommend when you’re choosing a snack, like just be mindful of what you’re choosing, like you said Doritos, like, the bag of chips. Like that’s really not going to get you anywhere in terms of hunger and like satiety. So, I think always having a well rounded snack and what I mean by that is, so like, if you’re go ahead and do a whole fruit so like an apple that’s gonna have good fiber in the skin, a lot of good nutrients,u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  19:21  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003ea little bit of an apple. So we got to do something.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  19:25  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eOkay, it’s coming. So an apple would be great, but also combine that with with like a hard boiled egg or a beef sticku003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  19:34  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eand tell him about when you came in for an interview. The hard bone ohu003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  19:37  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003emy gosh, this was amazing. I was like who is interviewing? Yeah, oh, okay. So yeah, we were just like walking around the building after I interviewed and gosh, I’m gonna butcher this it was something like you you really like hard boiled eggs.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  19:57  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eFirst of all, let’s just acknowledge making a hard boil. bag perfect is really difficult really difficult. Just acknowledge that. So yeah, so we had some hard boiled egg makers here we gave everyone in the firm a hard boiled egg maker, which is incredible by the way best advice you’re gonna get on this podcast ever hard a boiled egg. Everything I’m saying they make them perfect their partner perfectly put together so anyhow so hard boiled eggs. We love them. We have them in our offices so great to have hard boiled eggs in the fridge. What else?u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  20:29  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, yeah. So yeah, combining those things together. I would say like we’ve talked about before. If you could do veggies like raw veggies with hummus Yeah, so we talked about what was it carrots and celery? Yeah.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  20:43  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAnd is it like there’s so many I felt like there’s all different flavors of hummus doesn’t matter. Like hummus was good.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  20:48  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, so hummus or hummus is like ground chickpeas. It’s a Mediterranean. Yeah, some people don’t like chickpeas on their own Mediterranean side that has some oil in it. I don’t know that any is better than other there’s garlic there’s red pepper. Yeah, yeah.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  21:03  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eAnd like nuts. Like which ones are good? Which ones are bad? Are they all good? Likeu003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  21:11  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eyeah, so nuts have the good fats as mono unsaturated so a handful of knots is usually equivalent to like an ounce. There was actually a study I was reading that it was like for people who are consuming at least five ounces of like mixed nuts per week. It decreased their cardiovascular disease risk by like 30% Like it was huge just by adding those in but with that being said, like walnuts are going to be really good source of Omega threes, which are anti inflammatory and actually really help your brain health. Which is important with aging and cognitive function just staying on your game. So walnuts are great pistachios, almonds. The higher like density like calorie nuts would be peanuts and like cashews, which don’t have as many benefits but are so good.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eUnknown Speaker  22:00  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, your face was like not as impressive. Yeah,u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  22:02  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eI would just say like, if you can do the unsalted and like be like note weld or like, okay, those kinds of things, keeping them natural. That would be a really goodu003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  22:12  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003euse. We’re gonna do I’m gonna give you a little warning, rapid fire sort of so like, if I were listening, I would want to know Okay, that’s all great. I got it. I got it. I got it. I think I got I got framework or my day, sleeps really important. We talked about that. We talked about that in another podcast, measure your sleep sleeps important. It’ll keep you healthy. But now give me we’re gonna go through five things bullet points, if I could only do five things. If I right, just like give me the five things you would do. If you’re thinking about our listeners. Yeah, you’re driving down the road. like, Alright, give me some homework. So we’re gonna do five things that you think they should do one?u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  22:46  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah. What can I just say this is really focused on nutrition. But you know, we’ve talked about like health. Yes. Is encompassing like you said, sleep stress management, physical activity. So plans. We talked about that quote, Oh, yeah. And he therapy too. There’s so much to talk about.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  22:59  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eBecause you want to get your Nobel Prize. Yeah. Yeah, right. We that’s like the rage.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  23:07  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, there’s, there’s some benefits to that. I don’t know that. There’s a lot of research to that.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  23:13  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eI want someone to figure it out. For sure. Before I do that, I do too, which sounds horrible. I gotta know for sure. But by the way, we should say consult your physician. We’re not trying to give medical advice. Thank you. Intermittent Fasting is not for everyone. If you’re allergic to peanuts, we’re not suggesting them. So talk to your physician. They’re just giving you things to think about. That’su003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  23:33  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003ea really good disclaimer. Thank you. So I would say the five things for someone just looking to improve their overall health. Really back to the basics of like, make sure you’re staying hydrated, drink enough water that’s going to help your kidneys flush the toxins out of your body. There was something else that I read that it’s like, you know, low grade dehydration can be really like unnoticed, like symptomless, but that can actually shrink like your brain cells. And overtime like we do something like dementia. So it’s really important to stay hydrated. So that’s one thing. I would say if you can get in 30 minutes of movement per day, like concentrated movement walking, that’s going to be great. As far as nutrition goes, we talked about like, building your play. Theu003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  24:17  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eone thing that this individual said that we were that we brought in to talk about dementia. He said the same thing. He said like you got to like move 30 minutes a day and he said if you could only do one thing, just one thing. Yes. A dance. Yeah. Why do you have a dance? He said because it’s stress relief. It’s exercise. It’s music, blah, blah, blah. So we got water. We got exercise. How many am I doing? 555 you got five. Oh, I don’t want to do 10 things.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  24:44  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eMan I was gonna struggle there. So yeah, the third thing would be Yeah, surround your How did I want to word it? Make make protein the star of your plate protein. Yeah. So every eating occasion. You Eating foods that are high in protein to keep you fuller longer, and to keep your blood sugar stable. I would say that and then number four would be, I would say monitor your alcohol intake. Really? Yeah.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eUnknown Speaker  25:18  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eCan we have a different one? Yeah, I totally agree.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  25:23  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eRight? Yeah, that’s, that’s a sneaky one. So alcohol is enjoyable as it is, you know, there’s not, it’s not very nutrient dense. It’s, it’s, you know, kind of empty calories. So, it can also like alter your sleep and just kind of the body, it’s processed in the body as a toxin. So just kind of,u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  25:45  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eif you if you drink, you can’t burn fat for some period of time, because your liver is actually working to get rid of the toxin.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  25:52  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah. Yeah, it’s true that so the liver prioritizes, breaking down the toxin, which I think the active ingredient is ethanol, which the body just doesn’t know what to do with so it breaks it down. And then that means that your the food that you ate with alcohol was further delayed. So if you drink alcohol in the evening, like most people do, that’s going to give you that overnight time to digest your food, which is probably going to lead to some crappy sleep.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  26:18  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eYeah, well for me if I if I would drink like beer or wine, I fall asleep and then at two o’clock, I wake up because sugar kicks in. Yes, that’s bad. Wait, so what did we have we hadu003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  26:28  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003edrink water, drink water, getting in 30 minutes a move 30u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  26:32  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eminutes and movement? Proteins, this protein is the star more protein Hmm. Be careful how much you drink, moderateu003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eSarah  26:39  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eyour consumption, right. And then I would say the fifth thing is really try and cut out artificial sweeteners as much as possible. So that’s like in drinks. That’s, that’s kind of like sneaky. And like syrups of coffees. It’s in packaged snacks. So I guess what, that’d be checking your food labels and just try to, as much as possible consume the whole food version of snacks.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eGreg  27:07  u003c/spanu003ernrnu003cspan style=u0022font-weight: 400;u0022u003eWonderful. Yeah. Well, we look forward to benefiting from you. We look forward to our clients benefiting from you. And as we were talking about, you know, what’s the goal? What’s the ultimate goal? Clearly, we want to help people maximize their lives and legacies. And we really do believe that helping them with their health is a big part of that. And God willing, someday you’ll be in the mall. And someone will say, Sarah, thank you. You really helped me make some great decisions and because of that, I’m leading a healthier life and a more full life. So we appreciate you. This is gonna be fun. Thanks. Thank you.u003c/spanu003ernrnu0026nbsp;

  • Living Our Mission | Season 2, Episode 1

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    Confluence Financial Partners is committed to building a firm that endures – respecting our roots and striving to live our mission today and in the future: Maximizing Lives and Legacies.

    In this episode, Greg Weimer, CEO, and Katie Montagazzi, CFP®, Director of Marketing, discuss the practice of envisioning what Confluence needs to look like in the future to serve clients and the steps we are taking today to get there.

    Greg: Hello and welcome to the Imagine That Podcast. I’m your host Greg Weimer, founder, partner, and wealth manager at Confluence Financial Partners. Each month, we’ll explore new ways to help you maximize your life and your legacy and meet some extraordinary people along the way. So if you’re looking to get more out of your life today and legacy tomorrow, let’s get started.rnrnKatie: Welcome everybody. Welcome Greg. I want to take this time to just introduce who we are. I’m Katie Montagazzi, director of marketing here at Confluence and Greg Weimer, CEO. So we just want to welcome everybody. We have taken a little time off from the podcast and we wanted to share what we’re talking about internally here and what we’re thinking about at Confluence. So that being said, we have taken a lot of time to say our mission is maximizing lives and legacies of our clients, associates, community, and what does Confluence need to look like in the future to accomplish that. So if we reverse and say what are we doing today so that in the future we are that firm. So I just wanted to pose that question.rnrnGreg: Yeah, so a lot of that question. So I’d say two things that I think about in that question is, one, there’s a lot going on in the world. So when you say maximize people’s lives and legacies, the responsibility with everything going on in the world is incredible. I mean, you have AI, you have things changing, right? And so there’s a lot going on. So we just need to embrace that. We need to embrace it and we need to prepare.rnrnSo one, there’s a lot going on in the world and we need to think about that. State true to our core values. There’s no question, but be ready to change and embrace technology and new resources that are available that help our clients. So that’s certainly something we’ve been doing. And then when you say maximize people’s lives and legacies, we’re saying, okay, and we have groups getting together saying, okay, prove it. So if we say maximize lives and legacies, how will we know in some period of time, five or 10 years that we’re actually living that mission? So as you know, with goals, you have to make them quantifiable, measurable, and they have to be time specific. So in different parts of the company, we’re spending time saying, okay, yep, we’re maximizing lives and legacies. That’s what it’s all about. But then we say prove it. And we’re all talking about what those proof points could look like.rnrnKatie: Yeah. So to that point, as far as the next generation of leaders at Confluence, we get together once a month, the directors, and we work through Confluence’s 10, five year plan and then drill that down into what we need to do this quarter, what projects do we need to do? And those are some of the meetings that are happening internally. Yeah. Do you want to talk a little bit about Project Uber?rnrnGreg: Oh, yeah. Yeah, so we, yeah, yeah, Project Uber. So the reason we’re calling it Project Uber, and I don’t know if you or if the listeners are aware of most probably are, what a medallion is.rnrnA medallion. I was not. You were not. Okay, so we should say what it is. So a medallion is what you have to own to be able to drive a taxi cab in New York City. And I remember when I traveled back forth to New York City a lot, I just remember being amazed by the price of a, the price that’s around probably around 2013, something like that, they got to like a million dollars. So to get to, to drive a taxi, million dollars.rnrnKatie: So it was And this is sort of, I, I use the analogy of after I learned about what this was, it’s sort of like a liquor license for a ride. 100%. It’s a liquor license for a taxi to be a tax.rnrnGreg: 100%. So, so a million dollars, right? And that was like, you take out a loan and that would be your, that would be your franchise. That would be your McDonald’s. That’s a, that’s, of them went up for sale.rnrnAnd I think the highest one went for like $136,000 and most of them didn’t even get a bit. And so you look at that and you go, Okay, wait a minute. What happened? Like, like having a taxi in New York City was like an awesome thing. And then the world changes, right? And then someone says, hey, there’s this thing called Uber. We have an idea.rnrnInstead of standing in the rain, you can text us that sounds better than a taxi. They’re gone. No more need for a medallion. So, and you could do blockbuster and Netflix, you could do that with a whole bunch. So, we put together this group called Project Uber, which I think is like seven of our associates. And we’re saying, okay, what does the next 10 years look like?rnrnWhat does great look like in the next 10 years? How do we for our clients make sure that we’re Uber and not taxi? And how do we continue to add services and make sure that we’re really doing a great job on money management? So, and so then we think, you know, Project Uber will lead the way in that discussion.rnrnSo, that’s one of the organizations. We also have, but we also have like AI, like AI, artificial intelligence. Okay, so we can embrace that. We can use that. We use it for our clients.rnrnKatie: I think, I just want to say, I think AI to a lot of people, it’s a scary thing. Yeah. It’s been marketed on this as a scary thing. Instead of being scared of it, we’re embracing it. 100%.rnrnGreg: Now, it can be frightening, right? I mean, if it’s out of control, but, you know, there’s a lot of information there. We want to harness it. We want to use it. So we have a group that that’s what they’re thinking about. You know, AI, how do we use it and where do we go from there?rnrnKatie: And I do on a small scale. I know a lot of associates here use it to just kind of like brainstorm. Yeah. Think about things and work through ideasrnrnGreg: and things like that matter. Yeah. And I would say to the listeners, get on chat, GPT, play with it and like say, okay, you know, what could what could the topic be? Give me a topic. What should I for breakfast? What you have for breakfast? And then you say, okay. And then it says, then you could say like, okay, give me something a little more tasty. Could you give me that? Could you take out car? Well, like whatever that is, it’s sort of amazing how you can keep manipulating it. Yeah.rnrnKatie: It’s like a friend that’s not really a person. Yeah. Yeah. So kind of coming back a little bit, the next generation of leaders, when we say leaders, we are hope is that everybody at Convloads is a leader. It’s not just the CEO, the COO and that. So what are we doing internally to build associates? Yeah.rnrnGreg: So we owe it to our clients to build a firm that endorse. And we have to respect the roots of where we come from. We have to make sure we’re performing on a daily basis on behalf of our clients at the best of our ability. But then we also need to make sure that we’re here for the children and grandchildren of our current clients. And so we are spending time thinking about how do we make sure in 20, 30, 40 and 50 years, and I think that’s so much fun to think like that. How do we prepare for that? One of the skills that’s difficult, the most difficult I think to teach is to teach people how to think strategically.rnrnSo right, how do you think about five or 10 years from now and make it happen? So we have a group of people, we call them the next generation of leaders. I’m not in that group.rnrnBut in that group, and none of us are going anywhere. But this is like, we’re thinking about 20 years from now for our next generation, saying, okay, how should we prepare for the next 10 and 20 years? And so they’re putting together plans and they’re thinking about that and they’re meeting regularly. So that’s our next gen group.rnrnKatie: I think it’s important to know just because, again, maybe you’re not in the next gen group, but you’re part of the process. Thinking strategically. We have the more seasoned associates that have perspective. They’ve been in the industry for 30 plus years and then we have fresh people right out of college. We have Sophia, she just grew up a few years ago and she’s spunky and she’s smart and we want to make sure that she growsrnrnGreg: intornrnKatie: So, I guess to wrap things up a little bit. Our goal for this podcast really is to give everybody insights as to what is happening inside of Confluence. Yeah. So, we’ll be continuing the conversation. I guess if listeners have any interesting thoughts about the future or what they think maybe we should consider, we’d be happy to hear that. We’re always wanting to hear from people.rnrnGreg: 100% and I would love to have a conversation on what we’re doing in our business in more detail if it helps other businesses. Or I mean, we would love to do that. Or I will tell you, if you’re thinking about this type of stuff in your own personal life, I would say, I just read a book. I just listened to a book. Here’s a hack for you. If you listen to a book, it’s become your future self now by, remember that one? Who wrote that?rnrnKatie: Dr. Benjamin Hardy. Dr.rnrnGreg: Benjamin Hardy, become your future self now. So it’ll be out, it’s out. But what I do, I read the books, but then sometimes what I’ll do if I’m running around traveling, I’ll listen to the book on tape and then I put it on one and a half times. So the amount of information you consume goes up. So I’d encourage you to get this book. It really helps you think about the future and really challenges you to become your future self as quickly as possible. So I find it to be valuable if this is the kind of stuff you like to think about.rnrnKatie: That’s great takeaway. That’s sort of what we’re doing with Confluence. Who’s our future self and how are we doing that?rnrnGreg: And how do we accelerate it? Like how do we, one of the things the book says, here’s another thing just for the listeners. It encourages you to say, OK, who’s your future self in 10 years? And you almost have to like separate from who you are today and really think creatively about what it could be in 10 years. Then I did this. And then that person that is 10 years older, wiser, whatever, writes a letter back to your current self. And so my 68 year old Greg wrote a letter to my 58 year old Greg. And I found it incredibly valuable. So there’s another exercise that you do, the kind of things you want to think about that I’d encourage people to do.rnrnKatie: Awesome. Well, thank you, Greg. Thanks. This was enjoyable. Enjoy it. Thanks everybody for listening. We will, we’ll be back soon. Appreciate it.

  • Developing a Winning Culture: Confluence’s Next Generation

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    In August of 2019, Confluence CEO, Greg Weimer sat down with a few of the firm’s younger associates to get their perspectives on wealth management, workplace culture, and life. Since that time, much has changed.

    In this episode, we catch up with those same professionals: Randall J. Holcombe, CFP®, Director of Wealth Planning; Katie Montagazzi, CFP®, Director of Marketing and Communication; Gregory Weimer II, CFP®, CEPA, Chief Operating Officer; and Chuck Ziants, CFP®, Wealth Manager.

    Join us as explore how Confluence has evolved, examine some of the reasons behind the firm’s success, and look ahead as we continue to improve and innovate on behalf of our clients.

    u003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnOnly 52% of millennials reported feeling empowered to drive change within their organizations. Of that 52%, 89% said they feel a sense of belonging with the organization. Imagine that.rnrn(SOURCE: Deloitte, Striving for balance, advocating for change, 2022)rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnHello and welcome to the Imagine That Podcast. I’m your host, Greg Weimer, founder, partner, and wealth manager at Confluence Financial Partners. Each month we’ll explore new ways to help you maximize your life and your legacy and meet some extraordinary people along the way. So, if you’re looking to get more out of your life today and legacy tomorrow, let’s get started.rnrnu003cstrongu003e u003c/strongu003ernrnWelcome. This is Greg Weimer with Confluence Financial Partners, and this will be an, this will be an interesting, this is like, take two. I don’t think we’ve done a 2.0 yet in our, in our podcast, so this will be fun. Some of you may remember that it was in 2019 we did a podcast with four of the millennials in our firm, and we talked about how to communicate with millennials. Well, the good news is I think we’re over that. We know how to communicate pretty well.rnrnu003cstrongu003e u003c/strongu003ernrnIn fact, the millennials in our firm teach us how to communicate even better, and they’re very good at it. And every once in a while, we have to remind them talking to someone isn’t a text or an email. But other than that we’re, we’re over that. I think the opportunity today and the reason to listen to this podcast or, or, or one is just to give you, it’s been an interesting three and a half years.rnrnSo let’s give, let’s give the listeners a peek under the tent of Confluence Financial Partners. So just what’s going on here, What’s happened in the last three years? And then, two, you know, I mean, clients should demand, and I would think they want to know how we’re building this organization for the next 10, 20, 30, and 40, 50 years. So we’ll talk about that and let’s talk about like in the last three years, some of the things we’ve done as a team to build our organization for the future.rnrnu003cstrongu003e u003c/strongu003ernrnAnd then how do you build a team? Like, like what have we done to really make sure everybody has a great work-life balance but is still really driven and passionate and fired up when they come, listen to this, when they come into the office, which is, I think, a little bit different right now. And then we are planning/goal crazy in here. So let’s talk a little bit our pla— about our planning process. And maybe that’ll help some folks that are listening think about how to plan in their lives or in their businesses.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnSo first, we have four, the same four, the same team. It’s a, it’s a, it’s an encore presentation. We have our four millennials and I’m gonna have them introduce themselves, Not that I don’t know their names or, and all about their family and by their families have grown. These, these individuals in front of me have added four children in the last three years. So I guess that’s work-life balance. And but, but if you could go around and the reason this will be helpful also, it’ll help you attach their voices to their names. So the first one’s voice would be pretty easy to distinguish from the other three. So Katie, do you want to start?rnrnu003cstrongu003e u003c/strongu003ernrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnSure. thanks Greg. My name is Katie Montagazzi. I am now the director of marketing communication here at Confluence. I’m a sort of a financial planner. And I wanted to add as well, there are more than just four millennials at Confluence.rnrnu003cstrongu003e u003c/strongu003ernrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnThere’s a lot, right.rnrnu003cstrongu003e u003c/strongu003ernrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnAfter three years.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYep. Right.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnFor the sake of this podcast.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnRight, right. And, and, and Katie is a CFP and Katie still works with clients. It’s really, and so she has a unique background in that. She’s, she’s, she certainly is in charge of our marketing communications, which is her passion, but she also knows a lot about our business and as a CFP and part of having a great team is you find, you get, you hire great people and then you put ’em where they, where, where you think they’re gonna be able to shine. So Katie has transitioned a little bit and expanded her responsibilities. Gregory?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo I am Gregory Weimer. I’m our Chief Operating Officer and also wealth manager here at Confluence now. In terms of designations, I’m a CPA, I’m a CFP like Katie, and I’m also a CEPA, so I’m a Certified Exit Planning Advisor, is what CEPA stands for.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. And so we’ve, we’ve, we’ve been blessed to have several, many, bunch, like whatever clients that have benefited from that, right? That they exit their business and we help them with, with the exits. So, so that, that has been really helpful. You have that designation. You and I should probably do one is like, what’s, what’s it like working with your dad? Right? Cause—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnThat’s a whole ‘nother story.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnThat’s, that’s another podcast. But yes, but everybody told me when we were about to do it, how hard it was gonna be. And it, I don’t know. You probably feel differently. I don’t think it’s been that tough.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo far, so good.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo far so good. It’s been great. I mean, so, but it’s really important. And Gregory runs the day-to-day operations. So, cool.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eChuck:u003c/strongu003ernrnRight. Good morning. My name’s Chuck Ziants. I’m a wealth manager at Confluence, and I hold a Certified Financial Planning designation.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. And Chuck works on our team and, and works with a lot of our, a lot of our clients. And you and I have known each other longer than you’ve been here though, so it’s, it’s.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eChuck:u003c/strongu003ernrn2013.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. So it’s been really good. And, and I’ve never seen you without a lot of energy. And so like he, everybody’s nodding. He brings energy to the game. He works really well with our clients. Very detail oriented. When you go in with Chuck, meeting with Chuck, you, you just, you, you’re gonna know every single detail before you go in. Randall?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eRandy:u003c/strongu003ernrnYep. I’m Randy Holcomb. I’m the director of our wealth planning department here at Confluence, and I’m also a Certified Financial Planner. Just carrying on the theme here.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnWe hired Randy. I kept hearing there’s these good kids out at Grove City. So how many years ago was that? Eight. Eight years ago. So I went up to Grove City on one of the recruiting deals and, and Randy was one of the people we met. And you’ve done almost everything right? So if you don’t know who does this, it’s probably Randy. Not only does he do a lot of the financial planning, but, but he’s been incredibly helpful just with a lot of the transitions, a lot of the different things. So he’s sort of like the glue of the organization.rnrnu003cstrongu003e u003c/strongu003ernrnAs a peek under the tent. Like, you know, it’s been three and a half years since, you know, we, we had one of these podcasts. If you could say the one thing in the last three and a half years that would surprise clients or you’d think clients would want to know about, For me, it, it feels the same. Like, it’s just all, it’s, it’s just all blur frankly. It’s just we keep going. Right. we don’t really slow down very often, but is there a moment that you think some of the listeners would be interested in?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah, I’ll go first. I mean, I think when you look at the resources we’ve added over the last three years, and it’s hard to believe, it’s exciting for the next three years, but we’ve brought a lot of expertise in house. So, you know, we have 401K department and Brian, our 401k specialist in house. We have insurance now we have a director of investments with a CFA. So there’s a lot of hires we’ve added that to us probably feel gradual, but for a three-year period, it’s a lot. So I, I think that’s been awesome.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. You know, you used the word, you said expertise and you said in-house. And, you know, we have a, we’ve always had a lot of expertise through our relationship with Raymond James. You know, they, they’re a custodian. We own ourselves, but they’re a custodian. But it is a blessing for us and for our clients to have the expertise down the hall, not in some office in a faraway land that’s at an 800 number, and you are totally vulnerable to the person that picks up the phone. So we, we, we have it in house. So we have it, we have a, we have a team of experts here. We keep adding to that expertise. I feel like we’re putting together a band and you just keep putting together great people and music happens. It’s what we’ve been doing. I couldn’t agree more. I think that has been, and that’s been way, it’s been fun. We we’re, we’re not adding expertise, we’re adding really good people. Anyone else?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eRandy:u003c/strongu003ernrnI think RIA has been huge for our business in terms of the things it’s allowed us to do. I know we’ve talked a lot about that with clients and communicated quite a bit about it. But just having the independence to build our business for our clients. And that’s, that’s the most important thing. I think that’s been huge.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt, it is. If you, if you watch the flow of people, if you watch a flow of expertise, you know, the banks are the banks, that, that’s a different animal, a little bit. But people tend to, people from our industry don’t go to a bank, right? So, so when you watch the flow of people there, there’s great big national firms and there’s great people at those firms, and a lot of ’em around here are my friends, so not criticizing them in any way. But those people tend to go to what’s called independent. And then independent tends to go RIA. And so it, it, it does not go the other way. And we are now at the RIA stage, and we think for our clients, that’s, that’s been wildly beneficial. It’s the difference of having an iPhone versus a flip phone. We can put whatever technology and apps we need to together to make sure that we can customize the experience that we want our clients to have, not some person in a faraway land. So Randy, I couldn’t agree with — that’s been, that’s been really important behind the scenes that, that some people may not be aware of. But it’s been extraordinarily important if we’re trying to build a future to take care of our clients for the next 30 years.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnI have two things. One, not just adding resources and associates, but we’ve moved into a new building in the South Hills of Pittsburgh. Built a building, office. Moved into the PPG office downtown. And when, now we have an office in Naples. So logistically we’ve grown—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnBy the way, by the way, two of the three were done during Covid. Right.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnRight. u0026lt;Laughu0026gt; Not great timing, but it’s great now. And then second, I wanted to mention this past year we were nominated again as one of the Fastest 50 Growing Companies in Pittsburgh. And we were the fastest financial services firm in Pittsburgh last year. So growth has been the theme.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. sometimes people say, Why is that good for our current clients? If you would see the resources and what we can do for clients today versus five years ago. It’s, it’s, it’s significantly better. So it certainly benefits new clients, obviously, and new associates, but our current associates and our current clients have benefited greatly from our growth. And by the way, you cannot keep talent and you cannot attract talent unless you’re growing. No one wants to work for an eroding organization.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eChuck:u003c/strongu003ernrnAnd I really think that people would be shocked at how much we collaborate. And we really leaned into the challenges the last, you know, three, four years.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. I was with some great clients yesterday and I said we probably do more business in the hallways than in the offices. u0026lt;Laughu0026gt;, Right? I do laps around the office and we just get a lot done in the hallways. So Chuck, I agree that the collaboration’s been a big deal.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eChuck:u003c/strongu003ernrnThe five-minute drive-bys have been invaluable.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. Yep. Fly-bys. Fly-bys. Is that what they are?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eChuck:u003c/strongu003ernrnMm-Hmm. u0026lt;affirmativeu0026gt;.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnThey’re fly-bys, Yeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eChuck:u003c/strongu003ernrnFly-bys.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. And so we do a lot of those. So anyhow, that’s great. I mean, I think that’s a great peek under the tent. And I hope the listeners just, just really hear us say clearly that we are, we are working hard to build an organization that’ll be here for their families. I’m always amazed I said, Oh, here, here a prospective client. So I work with them. I’m like, Oh, right, Really? Why? And it’s like, one or two people, they’re 60 years old and they’re gonna take care of my family. And I’m like, just do the math. They’re not gonna take care. It’s like math. This isn’t an opinion. It’s like math. They’re not gonna take care of your family.rnrnu003cstrongu003e u003c/strongu003ernrnSo the good thing about here is we have people in their twenties that are very talented. We have people in their thirties that are very talented, forties, fifties, and sixties. And so we, we will be here to take care of families. And we think it’s important that we have that diverse group. And also, it’s important that we stay private so clients can rely us, rely on us in the future. Let’s go to — I don’t know, I may be biased. I think we have an incredible team. I really do.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnNot, not to make it all about Confluence, but, but more importantly, let’s take it, let’s talk about what do you think we’ve done as an organization that allow, has allowed us to build such a truly, and this is the correct word, u003cemu003edrivenu003c/emu003e team? And I honestly don’t know the answer, so I’m fascinated to hear.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eRandy:u003c/strongu003ernrnI think we’re pretty upfront at the, from, from the get-go of here’s what the expectation of is of a Confluence associate. I have the privilege of whenever we have a new hire that comes on, I get to do the brief history of Confluence and welcome to Confluence presentation. And one of the things we talk about is the culture of goal setting, of improvement, and how we truly believe that individuals are at their best and happiest, and it’s best for our clients, if we’re constantly improving. And so the expectation is we’re gonna do a five-year plan, we’re gonna do quarterly goals, and it’s gonna be part of our DNA. And I think we end up because of that, we end up attracting people who want that, that excites them.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo be upfront and honest with what you’re trying to— when you’re hiring someone. I mean, my wife and I started dating, I don’t know, 35 years ago, and I said, Hey, here’s what I want out of life. What do you want out of life? Let’s save each other a bunch of time. So we compared notes, matched up. Good. So if, if you, so if someone wants to say like, Hey, I’m here to coast, that’s great. But there’s a great firm for you — it will not be Confluence Financial Partners. Right? So I think that’s a good point, Randy, just, and thank you for doing that. We, we are very upfront if we’re, we’re, we’re about improvement. What else?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnAnd I think even taking that a step further, it’s become part of the interview process also, right? I mean, we’re, we’re talking to people during interviews about: how can we help them succeed? And, you know, being driven, being goal oriented is part of it. And we want to it to be the right fit for potential employees too. So if they’re someone who wants to come in and just check the boxes, they realize it may not be a great fit also.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnI think that’s right. Yep. I think that’s, I think that’s fair.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo Gregory and Randy mentioned about getting the right people on the bus, as we always say. But I think once you’re, if you’re an associate of Confluence, you also, you don’t just join the organization with that growth mindset or goal-setting aspiration, but we all hold each other very accountable. If somebody’s kind of like falling behind, nobody has an issue saying like, Hey, what’s going on? Like, let’s get it together. So I think all of us do a really good job of actually being a team and carrying everybody along with us on the journey.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. And, and it is a team. I mean, and it is accountable, but it’s weird. Like not, it’s, it’s not like, you know, it’s not like in a principal way, it’s just that we, we have a standard and we create it and everybody works really, really hard to live up to it. And as I look around the room, I think I’ve texted every one of you at nine o’clock at night. I’ve texted every one of you at five o’clock in the morning. And I know that sounds crazy, but you know, you don’t always need to respond. But, you know, it gets, and we communicate that way. And it’s, it’s really amazing, you know, the communication and accountability and idea sharing. I remember this was probably 40 days ago, there was a, there was an idea that came out of our Pittsburgh office, our downtown office, and I thought it was something we needed to move quickly on. And I texted Randy and Gregory and said, How quickly can we get this done? And what do we need to do, get to get it done in the next 30 days? It was amazing how quickly you guys moved. You did it in 31, which was okay, but it was, but, but u0026lt;laughu0026gt; But it was good. I mean, we moved, right? And so it’s just how we, it’s just how the organization is.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eChuck:u003c/strongu003ernrnAnd I think too, I think the, the big thing is, is the leadership here in everyone here takes a vested interest of your success in the office and out of the office. Like that’s one thing that I’ve taken away over the years is, is they care about what you’re doing in the office and outside, which is great. They, we all take a vested interest in each one of our families. It’s great.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. It’s, it’s not, that’s— Thank you for pointing that out, because it could make it sound like it’s all about just work, work, work. And it’s not true. I mean, balance is, if you need to be home for your, for your family, you should be home. If you need to be in the office for your office, for the firm, you should be in the office. But that’s, that’s true balance. So we do look at it as a group of families. In fact, in fact, that just reinforces the whole, we don’t do, we don’t work. And this is just how we live our lives, right? We don’t work and we don’t play. We just live. And I think that’s a, that’s different than how most people think. There’s a lot of conversation out there about people not wanting to come back into the office. Not at Confluence, but there’s a lot of conversation out there about people not wanting to come into the office. And you know, you guys are like looking at me, you know, but it’s like, that’s just not — did you want to come in, why’d you come in? Has it made us better with you being in here?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnYes and yes.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnWe’ve been back in the office since — help me — spring of — no, winter 2021.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnWe went through phases.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnRight, right, right. We were very, Yeah, right. We—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnWe were—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnI mean like, like, you know, when there was a sharp spike, we’d be like, okay, we, everybody’s got to get, or even in the office, right? We had a couple breaks and, and so we’re like, okay, let’s, let’s get out of this office and away from each other’s germs for a week or two. And then at first we did, right, for a month or something like that. But yeah, so, but I was— But you’re making, go ahead.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. So there was a common theme when we were home working, you know, we were working, but I would call like Chuck, I would call Neil. I would call Gregory just to say hey, because I missed seeing them and just collaborating, whether it be personal or professional. And then coming back in the office, it was like a breath of fresh air. Being home was cool for a little while and then it was like, wow, I really, I feel like we were missing something. And we got back in the office, we were able to collaborate better, circle around the client, do meetings. There were just so many things we were missing out on being home. So I think we can all agree that we were excited to come back. And then I just wanted to add too, still to this day, it happened to me last week, somebody said, Oh, are you guys back in the office? u0026lt;Laughu0026gt;? And I wanted to laugh. I’m like, Well, what have you been doing? Right? Yeah, we’ve been back. It’s been great. Yeah, we’re, you know, it’s, nobody’s had any big issues or anything. Right. So it is interesting. I think we’re kind of the minority in the world.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnOf, and at the same time, and this is true of the fathers also, but as a mother of two young boys, there are moments that it is very convenient and necessary that you work from home.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnYep.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnAnd that’s okay.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnOkay. Yes, with children, there’s never a dull moment. I’ll say that. u0026lt;Laughu0026gt;rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnBut no, it’s great. Yeah. I mean, all of us, I can speak to all of us. We all, you know, if you have something that’s going on at home in your personal life, you are more than welcome to do what you need to do. And whenever it’s time to work and be here, we’re here.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. Our business is also about relationships, right? So for us, we want to sit across the table from our clients and I think we miss that. It’s nice using Zoom or Teams, whatever you’re using for a virtual meeting. But, you know, at some point it’s nice to look at someone in the eyes in the same room. And after a while I miss that. It’s nice to still have the tool, but that’s a big part of our job.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt is. And, and I, I, I would think the clients are listening. I would think you expect us to be in the office. It’s amazing how many people aren’t, but it’s, I would think you expect us to be in the office and we, look, we, we, Zoom has been great. We have clients 42 states, so we need to use Zoom from time to time. And that works great. But you, you, but it’s, it, it, it is nice to see people face to face.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnSo we actually are in the process of now I know this is this, by the time, hopefully this is by the time this is out, hopefully these meetings will be accomplished. But we have a challenge in here. We want to meet with, we want to do a thousand interactions with our clients. A thousand face-to-face meetings, a thousand Zoom for the people that are out of town. And because we know this is a tough time, we know this is, to Gregory’s point, we know this is a relationship business and we are gonna put that goal out there and say engage, engage with the clients. Let’s make sure that we are out there communicating with our clients in this difficult time.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eChuck:u003c/strongu003ernrnMoral of the story with that plug, let’s meet.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnLet’s meet u0026lt;laughu0026gt;, Let’s meet, let’s meet. Yeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnOh, I was just gonna add something. Doing marketing and communication internally at Confluence, a lot of my, so like clients I would say are advisors, Confluence advisors. So being in the office, the most effective communication happens whenever you’re in the office, belly to belly, eyeball to eyeball, phone calls are great, email’s, great, whatever. But to be physically in the same room as somebody is the most effective way we communicate, I would say.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnCouldn’t agree more. And there are people out there I’m sure that are saying, Yeah, but we are just as effective outside the office. We are not judging you. You may be in a different business than the wealth management business. Frankly, when we were out of the office for a little bit, we were just as productive also. But it was because of the relationships we built when we were in the office. So what I would challenge people to think about is when you fast forward to 20 years, if you’re not in the office, will you have those same relationships that if you’re forced to go outside the office, that you’ll still be productive? We are benefiting from the relationships we’ve built. When we stop building those and we have to go remote, I would, I would challenge the thought that would be that be that productive. And I think for the, the, this, this is, this is an old guy dad advice, if you’re 30 something, get in the office because you need to be around other people to learn from the mentors. We were with a partner of a law firm that will remain nameless in Pittsburgh and you know, he’s okay. I mean, he is, he’s, you know, close to retirement. But man, if I were a new attorney, I would want to be next to this attorney because he’ll just make you better over time.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eChuck:u003c/strongu003ernrnIron sharpens iron.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo earlier you all, you said we’re, we’re about goal oriented and we do think a lot about goals. And we do think, and, and you know, as I was saying it, we’re in the planning business, I would hope we think a lot about goals, it’s what we do. I’ll run into financial advisor, say what are your goals? Like, Oh, I don’t have any goals. I’m like, you’re in the goal business for goodness’ sake! Like how don’t you have any goals? You know, I’m just gonna try better. Well that’s cute, but like goals help. Or you just, you know, so— I think it’d be interesting for folks to, you know, from a planning standpoint, maybe, maybe this converts into some listeners lives. Could you talk a little bit about, when you say we’re goal oriented, when you, you know, when, when you, when you say we’re very, you know, intentional about what we do, do you want to just give a couple bullet points about what that means inside of Confluence?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnI’ll start at the firm level because I think it’s, it’s individual and from a business standpoint. So we, we start and we’re very open about what Confluence’s five-year plan is and what the goals are each of those years to get there. So we start with the five-year plan. We know where we want to be high level in five years, but then we break that down on how we’re going to get there. And I think what helps our associates is we’re open about that. And so everyone feels like they’re part of the growth and they can make their own goals to build on that. So, you know, whatever the planning department needs to do or retirement plan services, everyone’s a part of the same goal and rowing in the same direction.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnI was just gonna add in the last three years we’ve added directors of all of our different teams and within those five-year plans there’s, you know, the Confluence five-year plan and then we all have our responsibilities. Like what’s Katie owning? What’s Gregory owning? And then that filters down into our five-year, one-year, quarterly, daily tasks. So I think Greg, you always say people like 10 years from now or like, how did I get here? Well it’s probably because you didn’t plan u0026lt;laughu0026gt;, so you just ended up wherever you ended up.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnRight.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo we understand that and we’re being very intentional with not just business, but professional, professional things, personal things. I don’t know, it’s just the way to do it.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. So, so just to play on both of us and to bring ’em together, I mean, they’re all part of the same process. You know, Greg, we, we get together and, you know, at the firm level and we, we think about, okay, so here’s where we want to be in five years and we work backwards on it. Okay, so what do we have to do to get there? And so that’s quantitatively that’s, that’s, that’s qualitatively like what do we need to do to get there? And, and it’s, it’s the plan. And then we show it to all of our directors and then the directors put together their plan. And then we show it to the advisors. Then the advisors put together their plan. So, so we absolutely have a five-year plan. And, and by the way, the five-year plan is about how do we improve the experience to our clients? And so when we add this expertise and we add these services, it’s not happenstance. I mean it’s something we’ve, we’ve absolutely thought about because we’re saying, okay, if we were a client, what would we want in five years? What would we want and demand this firm to look like? And that’s how we work on our five-year plan.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eRandy:u003c/strongu003ernrnLike Katie said, to go a little more into it, you take the five-year plan and then you say, What do I need to get done in the next year, next two years? You know? And then from there you say, what about this quarter? What do I need to do in the next 90 days? What are the high-impact activities? And then boil it down even further. What do I need to do today to accomplish this quarterly goal? And you know, we have a culture at Confluence around that. And we, it’s not just something you talk about, there’s templates for your quarterly goals. There’s, there’s templates for, you know, plan tomorrow today for your daily tasks. And I think most of us use those things and that’s a big part of our DNA and it shows, you always say, Greg, it’s amazing how often you write something down and then it happens.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt happens.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eChuck:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt’s about identifying the big rocks, right?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt’s amazing when you actually accomplish goals too, right? That helps. So you continue to plan and want to plan. When we’re at the end of this year, when you look back at 2022, the rocks we had, the big goals, they’re all accomplished. And we set out a goal to accomplish them and we did. And whether that’s bringing in an in-house insurance specialist, whether that’s adding new technology, we’ve done it for this year. And so the buy-in is there. It’s not just words on a piece of paper that we hope we can accomplish.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnAt one point, the, it would’ve been adding the, the, the investment, someone to run the investment group. At one point it had been a South Hills office. At one point it would’ve been launching Naples. At one point it would’ve been, you know, becoming an RIA. And these things are all critical, but they were, they, they existed because they’re all quarterly goals. And, and by the way, I think the other thing that’s important is it also allows you not to try to do too much at one time, right? Because you break things out and say, okay, this is all great. If we try to get it done all this quarter, nothing will happen. If we do it over the next year, we’re gonna get, so we’ll move faster by moving slower.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eChuck:u003c/strongu003ernrnI mean, what do you all say if we do three really good things a quarter in five years.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnBoom, game changer.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eChuck:u003c/strongu003ernrnPeople are gonna call us lucky, right?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. Actually if you do, like, and then with the other one, right? If you do your most important thing every day, just do your one most. I call it my u0022no matter what.u0022 No matter what, I got to do this, no matter what. I got to like, call this person, you know, meet with this person no matter what. If you do your u0022no matter whatu0022 every day and every day you do your u0022no matter what,u0022 that’s aligned with your five-year goal.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. We never really do it in a vacuum either. So whenever working through our quarterly goals, we’ll share it with the team. And again, if your goals are not maybe the best of your ability, somebody will call you out and say, Hey, you’re probably gonna do that anyhow, so why don’t you think bigger?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. That’s called like breathing oxygen. That’s just living, that’s not like changing the world.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. Some, sometimes people think tasks are goals and they’re not.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnYou have to have personal goals too, right? We we’re talking about the job and work, but we do a lot of things within Confluence to help people personally. So whether it’s a fitness challenge that we’re doing the fourth quarter of this year or earlier this year, doing a wellness challenge that isn’t only fitness, maybe it’s reading a book or a spiritual ga— whatever it is. There’s a lot of personal goals too that we have and we help associates accomplish.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. So the one right now, so they, it’s, it’s, it’s around health and the winner is served dinner by the losers, but—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnOf their choice.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnOf their choice. Yeah. So, so if it’s someone that, you know, maybe if it’s one of our single individuals, you know, they may have some of their friends over and have steaks and beer, you know, whatever steaks and wine, whatever they want to do. If it’s if it’s someone that says, Hey, I just want to have a candlelit dinner with my, with my spouse. So then the, and then the other, the losers have to serve that. There’s only 15 or 20 people in this one, right?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo the losers have to serve the winner. So that’ll, that’ll be fine. And they cannot get it catered. They have to, they have to, they have to make the dinner. So that’ll be fun.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnThen coming full circle, you mentioned the beginning of the podcast, Chuck is very detail oriented.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo Chuck is super serious about this contest and he’s sitting at this table with a gallon of water that he’s supposed to consume on a daily basis.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnHow many ounces? How big is that?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eChuck:u003c/strongu003ernrnGallon. One hundred and twenty-eight ounces.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo he’s been running to the restroom so often his productivity is plummeting. So, so, but it is fun to challenge each other and I think it’s part of the team, right? It’s so it is also interesting when people say like, how, how’s everyone, so, like how as, you know, one of the leaders of the organization, how do you keep everyone so motivated? And I think it’s such a funny question because I don’t. Like, like I think what’s interesting about our team is: they keep each other motivated. Like it’s, it’s a team. And so everybody has a standard that they hold each other to the standard and you know, you just hire the right people and that, that’s very, very helpful.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eRandy:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt’s the power of a culture. It can— pushes everybody forward.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt’s everything. And by the way, I don’t know how you do a culture if no one’s in the office. I know you can do an activity every quarter, I guess that’s cool. But I don’t know how you do a, I don’t know how you do that, right? So are we have, we have a culture because we’re together, we say we’re a culture of improvement and growth. And if I’m listening to this, I’m, and I’m a potential associate, which we’re, we’re, we’re always looking for great people, I think the most important thing I do in my career is, is, is attract and retain good people. I mean that’s, that’s like what I really focus on. That’s one of the things I really focus on. So, you know, we’re trying to make all of us the best versions of ourselves.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnIt’s been three and a half years since we did the first podcast. What do you think the skill set, the thing you learned that, what benefited you the most? How are you different today? However you want to answer it.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eRandy:u003c/strongu003ernrnI’ll start. So for me it’s the ability to specialize more and more. So when I started, I think that was what the sixth person at Confluence. And so I did a little bit of everything and I, I still do a little bit of everything. I’m involved in a lot of areas, but now, being the director of wealth planning, as we’ve grown, we’ve been able to specialize in more areas and, and get people doing more of what they’re best at. And put everybody in position to win. And that’s been, that’s been phenomenal. I know I’ve enjoyed that, motivates me. And I, I’ve seen it all around the organization as we continue to grow.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt’s so cool to be able to, it’s so cool to be able to do more of less, right? I mean, and, and, and Randy with the financial plans, I mean you work with all the financial advisors. So the, the, you see way more than the typical financial advisor. So, so you just, you know, you have different expertise than someone that would do it twice a week.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eRandy:u003c/strongu003ernrnI would say mine would probably be two. I would say one would be getting the CFP, Certified Financial Planner. That was right around Covid time, which was a challenge to say the least. As most of you know. I would—rnrnu003cstrongu003e u003c/strongu003ernrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYou were about to take the exam, then they canceled the exam.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eRandy:u003c/strongu003ernrnThey canceled it. u0026lt;Laughu0026gt; The day before.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnStress.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eRandy:u003c/strongu003ernrnI actually was considering I was calling all the testing centers down the East coast. I was about to drive to Texas to take it. Ended up closing them, pushing it about six months back. So that was fun. I would say the second thing would be joining the Weimer-Wilding team and watching us continue to move and grow and break the process. That’s been invaluable to my career. And for those of you listening that don’t know, I was a solo practitioner when I started. And I would’ve made that decision to join the Weimer-Wilding team, 10 out of 10 times. It’s been awesome.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnAnd you know, it’s as far as expertise, we hired a consultant and this consultant said, Hey, how about this? And you know, we’re like, Oh, never thought of that. Now, you know, we, we have a lot of teams in the organization, the Weimer-Wilding team being one of ’em. And there is a real advantage of being a team and, and you know, everyone’s benefited, right? I mean, from that, from the team, everyone. And so we’re thankful you’re on it.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnI don’t think last time we did this, I had been around very long, so, you know, I was working with clients, doing a little bit of everything with the CEPA background. I was still working on our finances. But with the growth of the organization, I think for me the biggest thing has just been, you know, actually taking on the COO responsibility. And now, whereas before it was a little, a little bit of, hey, run this project and make it happen. And I’ve done a lot of those, but now it’s, you’re responsible for making it happen. And I love that. I mean it’s, I’m working on the finances, whether it’s our internal accounting, our billing, I’m working on interviews, I’m working with our operations and our support associates and I still get to work with clients. So for me, the day to day is always changing and that, that’s been a huge change since three and a half years ago. And then there’s been additional designations. There’s been a kid added, so it it’s been a crazy three years.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnThe difference, the difference three years makes. Yeah, right. But, but to get all that done, I know his wife fairly well. u0026lt;Laughu0026gt; and Nick will say, she’ll say like, You’re on your computer, it’s at nine o’clock at night. And I don’t, I mean, I know you are. I am too. And what’s interesting is they’re probably not that different than you guys either, right? So, but that’s a lot, that’s a lot to do. Yeah, big change. I mean, I remember when you started, actually, I remember saying to you, you were, he, he was working at EY and he said, I think, I think I’m, I think I want, I think I want to come to Confluence. And I, I thought, okay, we weren’t that big back then, remember? And I, I thought, I don’t know what the hell you’d do u0026lt;laughu0026gt;. Like—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGregory:u003c/strongu003ernrnI didn’t know either.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnBut like now I don’t know what the hell we would do without you. So that’s great.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnAlright, I think, Greg, you touched on this at the beginning, but I’ve had two children in the last three years. So, one, personally, I mean that’s great family growing and second, I think we’re all parents in this room, but I think being a parent really changes your view and makes you better professionally too because your u0022whyu0022 becomes bigger. So that’s been a big change. And I will add, I had my first son Louie in May of 2020. So was working from home, had a child, maternity leave, back to work, but it was work from home. So that, just living life in the last three years has been—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. Yeah. You said it made your u0022whyu0022 bigger and people, I mean I think everyone knows about the — we talk about that a lot, right? Whether it’s with clients, or your why, or the firm’s why, or maximize lives and legacies. You want to just touch on like what we mean when we say what you’re all about, all about, and how that is a little different and what that means to you.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eRandy:u003c/strongu003ernrnYou’re all—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnI asked like 17 questions at once, but I think they’re all the same, right? It’s good. Yeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eRandy:u003c/strongu003ernrnThe key with the, what’s you’re all about is it’s bigger than you might think initially. So sometimes people think of goal, they think, Oh, when do I want to retire? You know, when do I want to buy second home? Or whatever it is. And those are important, but the, what’s it all about is bigger. Like what drives you, what motivates you? When, when all is said and done in your life, what do you want people to say about you? What was important to you? And how do you orient your life, your finances, everything in pursuit of that why? Those are big questions. And I, I think we do a good job of helping each other and clients grapple with those.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnAnd spoiler alert, I’ve been thinking about this for a really long time. It’s a question that’s fun because you never answer it. You always have an answer, but you’ve never answered it. So, I mean, for me it always evolves and gets bigger and bigger and I was listening to some stuff over the weekend, some different podcasts and videos and I’m like, okay, wait, wait, wait. Am I clear enough about in 30 years what I want people to say or what impact I want to make? Am I clear enough? Can I really visualize it? And the more clear, the more visual you are, the more it’ll inspire you to get your uniform dirty if you have to to get it done.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnYeah, I think something, when we’re talking about motivation, I think what’s, clearly, we have motivated financial advisors. Our associates are also wildly motivated, right? I mean we have, we have associates. Whether if you, if you, you know, if you, if you think about some of the, the, the support, the, the support folks, they’re wildly motivated also, are there a couple things we do that maybe other business owners could duplicate to have motivation sort of status quo?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eChuck:u003c/strongu003ernrnI think being open about the business’s goals, right? We’ve mentioned that already, but when the whole staff understands what you’re trying to do, it’s easier for them to feel like they’re part of something. And if they don’t know what the goals are, they’re just coming into work doing the normal job, they think, I have no idea what this is really for, but hey, I’m getting my paycheck. It’s all done. But we have, like you said, really motivated associates and a lot of them, they don’t have to, but they want to study and get licensed in the financial industry and take different tests and certifications and make posts on LinkedIn. They don’t have to do that. It’s not part of the job description, but they want to and I think including everyone is part of your growth plans is why if you have a closed-door policy, people will just see the closed door.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. To touch on that I know we always say, Greg, you specifically, you always say we want everybody at Confluence to create the success, not just be a part of it. And once you say that, so many times I think people really take it to heart. And I think that is an example of why and how associates here are so motivated.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eRandy:u003c/strongu003ernrnAnd I think people feel like they have a seat at the table. We talk about that a lot. Whether it’s a new advisor coming on or one of the advantages of being at Confluence is you have a seat at the table and obviously that looks different, you know, depending on where you, where you are within the organization. But there’s been plenty of times where, you know, a support associate had an idea and said, Hey, I think we should do it this way. And everybody was like, Yeah, that sounds good. That’s, that’s a good, let’s do it that way. And that’s rewarding.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnGreat idea to action can be, can be in a nanosecond here, right? We, we don’t make, we don’t have a whole layer of people that have to make decisions. If it’s great, we’ll do it and we’ll do it quick. And it doesn’t matter who it comes from.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnHopefully you have found this podcast to be of interest, but we really want to make sure we’re given you content and having podcasts that you’re interested in. So we would love to hear from you and just like we’d like to hear from our associates, we’d like to hear from our listeners and if there’s something that you would like us to talk about and you think would be beneficial, please let us know. Would be happy to include it.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnKatie, Gregory, Chuck, Randy, thank you. We’re fired up that you’re a part of Confluence and we’re looking forward to the next 30, 40 and 50 years of continuing to build this incredible team in this incredible relationship. You know, we started out associates and we continue to build those relationships and end up being friends and I think that benefits clients, that will benefit clients for decades to come. Hopefully the listeners appreciated getting a little peek under the tent of Confluence, the importance of building a team and what talent means to building that team. And then a little bit about a growth mindset and how setting goals and planning those goals and communicating ’em and doing ’em as a team really, when you do those things together, you can really make a major difference. So thank you so much for listening.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnThank you for listening to the Imagine That Podcast. We hope you enjoyed this episode and welcome you to reach out to Confluence Financial Partners with your questions and comments. If you’d like to hear more episodes, head over to confluencefp.com/podcasts or find us wherever you get your podcasts.rnrnu0026nbsp;

  • Folds of Honor – Tiffany Eckert’s Story

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    Some investments serve a higher purpose. In this episode, you’ll learn about Folds of Honor, an organization that gives back to a community to whom we owe an unpayable debt.

    Since 2007, Folds of Honor has provided scholarships to the families of America’s killed or disabled soldiers. Join host and Confluence Financial Partners CEO, Greg Weimer, as he interviews Gold Star Wife Tiffany Eckert. Tiffany will help us understand exactly why an organization like Folds of Honor means so much, because Tiffany is a Gold Star wife. Her husband, Andy, gave the ultimate sacrifice so all of us could continue to live in freedom. Tiffany was generous enough to share her remarkable story with us and it is our honor to introduce her to our listeners.

    To all of our military heroes, veterans, and those like Andy who gave the ultimate sacrifice, we say thank you. We are forever grateful for your service to this great country.

    Greg:rnHello, and welcome to the Imagine That podcast. I’m your host, Greg Weimer, founder, partner, and wealthrnmanager at Confluence Financial Partners. Each month, we’ll explore new ways to help you maximize yourrnlife and your legacy and meet some extraordinary people along the way. So if you’re looking to get more outrnof your life today and legacy tomorrow, let’s get started.rnWelcome to the second part of our two-part episode on Folds of Honor. If you listened to the first part, yournknow all about Folds of Honor and the important work they do. We met Crystal Popella and she shared herrnexperience and why she founded the Western Pennsylvania chapter of the organization.rnToday, Tiffany will help us understand exactly why an organization like Folds of Honor means so much.rnBecause Tiffany is a Gold Star wife. Her husband, Andy, gave the ultimate sacrifice so all of us couldrncontinue to live in freedom. Andy was killed in action in Iraq. Tiffany was generous enough to share herrnremarkable story with us and it is my honor to introduce her to our listeners.rnTiffany:rnI’m one of thousands and of a group that I wish never was, but it’s my honor and privilege to be Andy’s wife.rnAnd to be the one that was left behind to carry on his light. And I can say a hundred percent, my life has, therntrajectory of my entire life has been changed because of the vision that Dan Rooney had that day.rnGreg:rnTiffany, if you could give your story just to help everybody understand, and this is one of 35,000. But if yourncould just give your story and talk about, you know, how freedom really isn’t free and the price that yourrnfamily has paid.rnTiffany:rnI met Andy Eckert on September 19th of 2002. And I’ll never forget the first time I looked him in the eye. Thernpiercing blue eyes, the same blue eyes that our children Marley and Myles have, which is the greatest gift.rnBut also some days just stings, you know? He knew from the minute we met that I was his forever. We metrnup the next day and we spent the whole evening together. And when it came time to part, we were sitting onrnhis front step and he said, Tiffany, I need to tell you something. And you might never wanna talk to me again.rnBut if you could just hear me out, I have something I wanna share with you. And the long and short of it, he,rnagain, so intentionally looked me right in the eye, and he said, I know that when I met you last night, I met myrnwife. I called my mom at four in the morning and I told her, I met Tiffany, I’m gonna marry her.rnI’ve told all of my friends that I met my wife. And he said, and I know after January 1st of this upcoming year,rnI’m gonna have to go away with the military. And I don’t know when, how, where or why, but I know I’mrngonna leave. And when I leave, you’ll be my wife. And it was really strange at that point in my life, I was sornyoung and I thought I had everything planned out. And this was 100 percent a contradiction to everything Irnthought that was mapped for me and everything I wanted. But at the same time, it felt so natural. And itrnwasn’t just because it was there. It was, it was Andy. It was as if, you know, that moment that we met thernnight previous, it was like our souls had already met. We already knew each other. There was just thisrnperfect harmony, this, this ameshed feeling that I’ve never felt with anybody besides my children. It wasrnmeant to be. And so I looked at him and I said, OK, I believe you. And he was right. Was a handful of monthsrndown the road, February 24, 2003, he got activated to go and be part of the initial wave in the firstrnoccupation of OIF which is Operation Iraqi Freedom.rnI wasn’t with him when he got the call. But I got to our apartment and I walked through the door and he’d justrnsobbing. His face was soaked in tears, his blue, blue eyes, the, the backdrop behind him was just thesernblood-stained eyes. And he looked up at me and he ran over and he dropped to his knees and he put armsrnaround me and he said, I’m so sorry, our baby is not gonna know who I am. Because we had just found out Irnwas pregnant. And at the time we didn’t know if we were having a boy or a girl. And I grabbed him on eitherrnside of his face. And I looked at him just like, he always looked at me with such intention and conviction. AndrnI said, no, I promise, no matter what happens, this baby’s gonna know exactly who you are. I promise.rnAnd then just as nontraditional, as every other part of our relationship, he stood on both feet and looked mernright in the eye, standing, and said, don’t answer me now. I have to go away for a couple of days to do somernpaperwork. But when I come back, I want you to marry me. But don’t, don’t answer me right now. And hernwent away for a couple days. And when he came back, we went down to the Lucas County courthouse inrnToledo, Ohio. And we got married in a hallway by a stranger and I was wearing jeans. And you look at thernpictures, which we only have one. And Andy was so happy that if he had smiled any wider, his face would’verncracked. And I looked terrified, which I was. OK? I was 21. I was pregnant. I was confident that my husbandrnprobably was gonna miss the birth of our first child and my entire pregnancy, which I was right.rnAnd I, I knew that I loved this person more than I’d ever loved anything in my entire life. And then he wasrngoing to war and also in the pictures, you’ll notice Andy had gone out that morning and he took horticulturernin high school. And so flowers and any type of greenery was very important to him. He went out and he got arnpale pink gerber daisy with some hot pink gerber daisies and had them put in a little bouquet. And I was like,rnthat’s so silly. Why would I take that to the courthouse? He said, you have to, there’s one flower for each ofrnus: me, you and the baby. And three means, I love you. And I can’t do much for you and this isn’t thernwedding you deserve, but I want you to hold these. And I did. And gerber daisies have become such a pivotalrnpoint in the whole timeline of our story in that, two years, two months and 11 days later, when all of us wererngathered, as Andy was being lowered into the ground, graveside, every single person that was there,rnhundreds and hundreds of hot pink and pale pink gerber daisies were placed on top of his casket.rnAnd in all of these years, since we’ve lost Andy, for every special occasion, for every school dance that he’srnmissed, for every major event, my children Marley and Myles both receive pale pink or hot pink gerberrndaisies. And every now and again, anonymously hot pink gerber daisies will show up at the grave or on myrnfront porch. I don’t know who puts them there, but I know that ultimately, it’s Andy doing it. So after we gotrnmarried on February 28th, it was less than a week later he left for his first tour. On March 6th. And he wasrnon a 17-month deployment. And just like we both feared, he did not get to come and see Marley born in July.rnShe was born on July 17th, 2003. It was one of the most wonderful and heartbreaking days of my life. Irnnever said anything to anyone, but the whole time, all I wanted was to hear Andy’s voice.rnAnd I was in labor for way longer than I should have been. It wasn’t until almost two days later after he gotrnhis Red Cross message that I had gone into labor, that Andy was able to call me on a satellite phone from therndesert to tell me that he loved me. And that’s all I needed. The call was less than two minutes becausernthings were so tough then. The satellite phone dropped the call, but he was able to tell me, I’m sorry, I’m notrnthere. I love, you know that I’m with you, I’m in your heart. I’m so proud of you. You can do this. And thenrnshortly after that, it was like, I felt this release and I was able to give birth to Marley. And I’ll never forget thernfirst time I met her, she was placed and I was so tired, but I looked down at her and I said, oh, there you are.rnI’m happy to meet you, Marley Freedom. I love you. And so does daddy. And then this beautiful moment wasrnoccurring. And my dad goes, Freedom? Marley Freedom? What? That’s not her name. I said, yeah, it is. Andrnthen I explained to my dad, Andy’s not here. And when Marley looks back at the pictures from when she wasrnborn, I want her and her dad, most importantly, but I want everybody to know the reason he is not in thernpictures wasn’t because he didn’t want to be, but because he’s fighting for her freedom, my freedom, yourrnfreedom. Her name is Marley Freedom. And I think she has the coolest name in the world. And her dadrnthought so too. So it all worked out and it ended up being almost prophetic, truly that she had that name thatrnshe has. Andy got to come home when she was 11 months old to meet her in April of 2004.rnAnd when he came home, he was a purple heart veteran who had been deemed non-deployable. He neverrnhad to go back to conflict again, ever. He still had shrapnel in his face, he still had shrapnel in his shoulder.rnAnd he narrowly missed never coming home to us. He had been impacted by an IED explosion on Marchrn15th, 2004. And the piece that was meant to take his life missed by a centimeter, missed his jugular. And ernwas saved in that moment. He was able to home to us. It was just a handful of months later down the road. Irnwas at his Army Reserve unit because I was the family readiness leader for his company. And he came to thernroom that I was in and I knew something was up. And he sat down and he put his hand on my knee and hernsaid, babe, they said, if I signed a waiver, I can go back. You know, my unit just got activated and these arernall the guys that I went to Basic and AIT with. And I don’t wanna leave you again. But I need to go. And yourndon’t have to say yes, and I’m not begging you to say yes. But this is very important to me. And I believe thisrnis what I’m supposed to do. And at that time we had just found out I was pregnant with Myles, so here wernwere again about repeat history. Here I was so young, 22 years old. And I l looked at him and I said, this isrnnot what I want, but I could never tell you no. If this is what you feel like you’re supposed to do, then yes, yourncan sign the waiver. I will support you. But when you come home, I can’t do this again. And he said, Irnpromise, I’m gonna make it home. And we’ll be America’s dream team. We’ll just get through this one morerntime. So I went with him, and I watched him as he signed the waiver. And coincidentally, every other soldierrnthat had been deployed in OIF1 that didn’t have to go again, not because they were injured but because ofrnthe timeline. His brothers went and they signed waivers too.rnAnd they went back together. They left for that deployment in OIF3 on Christmas Day, 2004. The onlyrnChristmas we ever spent together was in a hotel room in Indiana. I still have the little, tiny tree in the tiny bluernornaments, blue and silver bulbs that I bought at Walmart for Marley’s first and only Christmas ever with herrndad. And the only Christmas that we spent together as a family. And, you know, that’s what families like oursrndo is they make the most of what moments they’re given. And they’re the grandest moments. We were in arnhotel room. We weren’t in a huge house with a huge tree and tons and tons of gifts, but we had each otherrnand that’s all that mattered. And those are the things that I try to tell people about and share with them. Thernmoments that matter most in life are the ones that you don’t even realize they’re your first or your last untilrnit’s over.rnWe sent Andy away on Christmas day and he called me, Myles was born in March and he called me about arnweek before I was due. And he said, Hey, I’m in Kuwait. I think I’m gonna get to come home, but I don’trnknow yet, but I think I’m gonna get to come home and see Myles born. And he said, I’ll call you as soon as Irncan. And day after day after day passed, there was no call. And I was ready to have that boy. I had a crackedrnpelvis and I called my doctor on Thursday of that week. And I said, listen, I can’t be pregnant one more day. Irnam miserable. I don’t think I can walk anymore. I don’t know where my husband is. I did this once withoutrnhim. I can do it again. I think he’s on his way home.rnI don’t know, but I can’t physically do this anymore. And he said, OK, we’ll induce you tomorrow. Tomorrowrncame. It was Friday the 25th of March 2005. I got a call that morning and it was Andy. He said, Hey. I saidrnwhere the heck have you been, I haven’t from you for a week? What’re you doing? He’s like, I don’t think I’mrngonna get to come home, I’m really sorry. I said, well, I’m having this baby tonight. And he goes, just kidding.rnI’m in Chicago. Can you at 10 AM from the Toledo airport? So he made it just in the nick of time and as faternwould have it. I didn’t need to be induced. I went into labor on my own that night. And Andy got to be homernfor 14 days. It was the greatest 14 days that I’ve ever had ever. The only time that my family was togetherrncomplete as a family of four. And oftentimes I’ll recount the fact that I have one picture of all four of usrntogether.rnAnd that is in the moment at the hospital when Marley was brought up to meet Myles. And that’s important.rnAnd I, I share that often because oftentimes especially moms, we like to hide behind the camera. We like torndeny the opportunity to be in pictures because we think we don’t look good enough. Our hair is a mess, ourrnbody isn’t right. And we forgo the opportunity to be in these lasting memories. And so to anyone listening, Irnwould say, any chance you have to in a picture with your loved ones, your children, your spouse, anybodyrnimportant to you — you need to seize that moment and that opportunity. Because I literally have one picturernof my family together, only one. And none of us are looking at the camera. It’s a beautiful moment, we’re allrnlooking at each other. And I’m thankful for that. But I wish I had more because at the end of the day, whenrnsomeone’s gone, they’re gone. Death is permanent. And one day all you’re going have is photos andrnmemories and what you’ve stored in your mind.rnSo like I said, Andy was home for 14 days, greatest 14 days ever. Every morning I woke up and Andy andrnMarley were sitting at the kitchen table, eating either Froot Loops or Lucky Charms talking to each other. Andrnshe had crooked pigtails on her head. And the neatest part I found out about this after Andy had been killedrnwas that the weeks leading up to coming home to see Myles born, he had deployed his fellow female soldiersrnto teach him how to braid just in case Marley’s hair was long enough to do so, which it wasn’t, but he figuredrnout how to get her piggies in and they were crooked and they were perfect. And that is one of my favoriternmemories of my husband. He was so intentional and thoughtful and he planned everything out and he tried torndo the best he could.rnAnd he was present, although he was an 11-hour time difference. And so many thousands of miles away,rnAndy was a part of our every day because I promised him in that moment on February 24th, 2003, when hernwas deployed the first time that our kids would know who he was. And he promised from the moment I metrnhim, that he would be there a hundred percent. And he was. Last time I ever saw Andy alive was thernbeginning of April 2005 at the Toledo Lucas County Airport. Andy looked at me when we were standing therernwaiting to give the TSA agent his ID. Tears streaming down his face similar to the day he’d been deployed.rnAnd there’s a lot of things I don’t tell anyone. And I’ll only ever share with my kids, but oftentimes I dornrecount certain moments from this time. And that is that he looked at me and he said, this is the last time I’mrnever gonna see you. I know I’m not coming home.rnI know I’ll never be here again. And I’m very sorry, but I know that you can do this. And know that I’ll be withrnyou every day and that I love you and I’m proud of you. And I support every decision you make. It’ll be thernright one. Then he looked the lady who was standing at the podium and he said, this is my wife, Tiffany.rnShe’s the smartest, most beautiful woman in the world and the mother of my children. And this is Marley andrnthis is Myles. These are my kids. And I love them so much. And you could see she kinda teared up a littlernand handed him his ID back and said yes sir. And then he walked in the line and kept every five feet or so, hernwould stop and turn around, and wave to us. He’d walk and he’d stop and he’d turn around and wave to usrnuntil we couldn’t see him anymore. And that’s the last time I ever saw Andy alive.rnIt was on Mother’s Day 2005, May 8th. I woke up and it wasn’t the same wakeup that I’d had every day sincernMyles was born and Andy was back in country. Every day without fail between three and four in the morning,rnAndy would call me and be like, babe, what are you doing? And I’d be like, well I was sleeping. That call didrnnot come that day. Never came. I went about my day for the first few hours and all of my friends called. Thernother girls that had their soldiers deployed with Andy. And I remember telling my friend, Aubrey, I said,rnsomething’s wrong. I know something’s wrong with Andy, something’s happened. And she said, no, no, no.rnThey’re probably on lockdown. As soon as they can get to the phones, you know Andy will be the first in line,rnhe’s gonna call, it’s Mother’s Day. He’ll be the first in line. And I said, no, Aubrey, I know something’s wrong.rnAnd it was about an hour and a half later, I got to Andy’s foster parents’ house, they had raised him until thernend of high school so that he could graduate. And I just said to his foster mom, something’s wrong. I thinkrnsomething’s happened to Andy. And then my phone started ringing and the phone calls were toggling backrnand forth between Southfield, Michigan, where there was a soldier who was attached to Andy’s unit andrnDover, which if you’re getting calls from Dover, that’s not a good sign. That’s where casualty operationsrncome through. And the one guy said, I just need to know where you are Miss Eckert. I just need to knowrnwhere you are. They didn’t have the correct address for us.rnAnd then when I got on the line with Dover the second time I said to the woman, ma’am, is my husbandrndead? And she paused for what felt like a really long time, but it probably wasn’t and she said, I, I need tornknow where you are, Mrs. Eckert. And then it was about an hour later, a military vehicle pulled up in therndriveway and I was sitting on a rock at the end of the sidewalk. And when only one got out, I thought, okay,rnhe’s just injured. So we’re gonna go to Germany and bring him home and we’re gonna figure it out. It’srngonna be fine. And you know, I don’t remember that gentleman’s name. I couldn’t pick him out of a crowd,rnbut if I ever saw his eyes again, I would know, I would know exactly who he was, cuz that’s what I wasrnstaring at the whole time he was speaking. And I remember every word he said. And when I walked awayrnfrom him and oftentimes people in our situation, they imagine what would happen if I was notified.rnAnd I’m sure just regular people may be watching movies where there’s a notification and they think, oh,rnwhat would I do if I found out someone had been killed? Well I walked up the sidewalk and at that time I’drnhad time to call my friends in the area, my military friends and they were sitting on the porch and everyonernsaid what happened? And all I could say was Andy passed away today. And I walked up the steps and Irnwalked away from everyone. And I sat on a bench all by myself on the opposite side of the porch. I rememberrnputting my heads in my, my head in my hands. And I said, I can’t do this. I can’t, I can’t do this. And I startedrnto cry and my friend came over, her mom and she smacked leg really hard, which was good because shernwoke me up out of whatever I was at the moment, and she said, oh Tiffany, yes you will and yes you can.rnAnd she grabbed me by my chin and she turned my face very aggressively towards the other end of thernporch. And all I could see were Marley and Myles. And she said, yes, you can. And yes, you will becausernthose babies need you. You have to get up every day and you have to do this.rnYou have to do this, Tiffany. And I stood up. And I have never stopped standing. There was never a single dayrnthat I didn’t get outta bed because Marley and Myles needed me. There was never a single day that I feltrnsorry for myself to the point where I couldn’t function because Marley and Myles needed me. And I havernstood every second of every single day that has passed in the last 17 years since losing Andy. And I wouldrnlisten that if you have the opportunity to be a Miss Terry for someone, do it. Just like Dan had the opportunityrnto see out that window and see what he saw that has changed everything and started Folds of Honor. Yournhave opportunities to be Miss Terry for someone, you just have to be awake. You just have to be aware. Yournhave to be there for people. Life isn’t about you. You have one chance, one opportunity. Stop being selfishrnand be there in moments where you could be the only person. Ms. Terry changed the trajectory of my life.rn100%. I wouldn’t have made it this far. If she hadn’t been there with me in that moment. And I could recountrnso many memories and so many things that to some, you would say, you would classify them asrnheartbreaking. But for me, I would say, don’t let your heart be broken over the trauma I’ve experienced.rnHowever, when you hear stories like mine, let your heart bend, let your heart bend so that you can make arnpositive change and gain new perspective for your life and the opportunity that you’ve been given to live. Yournknow, I was 23 when Andy died, he was 24. Marley was 20 months old and Myles was one month old. ThisrnMother’s Day, May 8th will be 17 years since Andy died. And it just so happens, I believe it’s the third timernthat May 8th has fallen on Mother’s Day again, since he died.rnAnd I would say in all these years, I’m 40 now. I’m starting to get forehead lines. I’m starting to get crow’srnfeet. I’m starting to get gray hair. I’m a little overweight. But you know what? I am so thankful for thatrnopportunity. And the perspective that life is short and my husband will always, always be 24. He did not getrnto age. We were supposed to grow old together. I wanted to watch get laugh lines and I wanted to watch hisrnhair shift from black to silver. But that didn’t happen. And so I would say to people listening, embrace whornyou are in this moment because you get to be in this moment because of fate. And also because of peoplernlike Andy, who are willing to die for you, does that make sense?rnGreg:rnYou are amazing. We just need to breathe. I think, candidly, I wanna say thank you. It feels shallow. It’s notrnenough. You just need to know we’re grateful. I don’t think that’s enough. I just would say that what we allrncan do is just never forget that freedom isn’t free. Never forget Tiffany’s story. Never forget Andy’s story.rnLet’s realize the sacrifice that a very small percentage of people make so we can live our lives. There was sornmuch in there. I wrote like moments. I think you said moments don’t ha— like you don’t realize they’rernspecial moments until you look back on ’em. You’re not always aware pictures, pictures. I was at a surprisernparty on Saturday and they’re all the pictures I’m like, wow.rnThe pictures of this gentleman, who’s a really good friend of mine and his family, I thought were awesome.rnMs. Terry, there should be a, there should be a national Ms. Terry award, right? I mean that Ms. Terry, Irnmean, just be Ms. Terry. That also like listening to you when she turns your chin to your children, it showsrnyou whether you’re talking about Andy, Tiffany or Crystal, how powerful life can be when you actually focusrnon other people. One of my questions was it was gonna be like, how do you stay strong every day? How dornyou stand up every day? How do you stay so positive and committed to Andy’s legacy? But you answered it.rnTiffany:rnWell there’s more too. I would say, well, for me personally another very, very valid point is I never got to sayrngoodbye to my husband and every single thing I do every single day, especially this work, this is how I say, Irnlove you to Andy. This is my tangible way. This work and the way I live my life and the way I treat people now,rnI’m not perfect. Some, some days I have bad days or I get frustrated, but for the most part, I am genuinelyrnvery giving, very forgiving, very intentional, very present. And it all goes back to the fact that I will never havernclosure. I’m not getting to say goodbye. And I will never hear back at this point in my life, or for the last 17rnyears. I love you too, Tiff. I have to seek it out if that makes sense.rnSo especially in regards to any work I do with the military and awareness around the Gold Star communityrnand Folds of Honor. And anytime I tell our story, this is how I tell Andy, I love you. And this is how I showrnMarley and Myles that Andy and I loved each other. And we loved them. Because, you know, I’ve said forrnyears, I lost a lot and this was very traumatic. You know, I was when your frontal lobe isn’t even fully formedrntill you’re 25 years old. So a lot of things happened before I was medically fully sound, if that makes sense.rnThis is truly how I make sense of something that doesn’t make sense. It doesn’t make sense. Andy wasrnwonderful. He would’ve been the best dad ever. He would’ve been the best coach ever. He would’ve been allrnthe things. You know, Marley has never heard her dad say, you’re beautiful. I love you. Now I tell her thatrnevery day, more than she’d like to hear. Enough for three people let alone just him and I. Myles has neverrnthrown a ball with him. You know, I, I try to be, fill the void, but I can’t. I promised Andy, our kids would knowrnhim. It always goes back to that promise. And I promised Andy that I would love him forever, which I will.rnGreg:rnSo Tiffany, incredible. Could you make the connection between your incredible story and what educationrnmeant to Andy to you and how Folds of Honor have helped you fulfill that mission?rnTiffany:rnYes. So the night before Andy was killed, within hours of his death, he called home. And again, he said manyrnthings. I don’t share everything. He did reiterate again that he knew he wasn’t coming home. And the lastrnconversation we ever had was in regard to, Andy thought I was the smartest most wonderful person he everrnknew. And he knew that I needed to go to school. And he, he said, I know it might take a while because thernkids are young, but no matter what you need to get an education, it’s very important. And our kids need tornhave an education, that’s very important to me. I need you to promise that that’s gonna happen. And Irnagreed, and it’s taken a long time for me personally, to go back to school, but in the fall of 2020, in the cruxrnof the pandemic, I decided to quit my job and go back to school. And in doing so, not only am I fulfilling thatrnfinal and last promise, which I was putting it off because it’s the last promise I ever made to him.rnAnd there’s a big sense of finality in that. The last thing you’re hanging onto, you know, that’s over. But I’m,rnI’m glad I’m in school. I’m, I’m full-time in college and I’m doing very well, but number one, I’m, I’m fillingrnthat promise. But also, I found healing. My major is human development and family studies with a minor inrngerontology. So my major is the study of human development across the lifespan, which has provided mernwith an intense amount of healing in regard to my childhood, as well as the trauma of losing my husband atrnsuch a young age. And it has helped me to be a better person. When I say I have found healing, 100% I haverntruly found healing and that wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t go back to school. And Folds of Honor hasrnprovided that opportunity for me. Additionally, my children have been recipients for several years.rnMarley is now 18 years old. She graduates in just a couple of weeks and she has been able to go to a privaternhigh school for the last four years where she has excelled. Her cumulative GPA has been above a 4.0 for thernlast four years. She applied to multiple colleges and was accepted into every single one. Some big collegesrntoo. She’s in the National Honor Society. She’s the captain of her rowing team. You know, she’s done a lot ofrnamazing things, which she wouldn’t have done if she wasn’t at the school she was at. She just told me thisrnweekend, she declared yesterday, which was the college decision day. She’s decided to stay close to home. Irnhad a different idea of where I wanted her to go, but ultimately is her decision and she and I will be at thernsame college in the fall.rnAnd now I’m hoping we take Spanish together because I’m gonna need a study buddy. So that’s reallyrnspecial. And then my son, Myles, he is 17. He is a junior in high school and you know, school comes easy forrnsome and for others, it doesn’t. And oftentimes people forget that everyone has different skill. Now, when Irnlook at my son, I have always seen this amazing young man who has so much to offer the world, but school’srnbeen a struggle for him. Since kindergarten. And I remember when he was very young sitting in a meetingrnand I was told, you know, he’s got a lot of challenges you should probably come up with a less traditionalrnplan for him. College might not be in his future. And I said, oh, I beg to differ. I’m pretty sure if he wants to gornto college, he’s gonna go to college.rnAnd here we are, for the last several years, Myles has utilized his Folds of Honor scholarship for privaterntutoring, which has put him in a place that I was told. He’d never be and ending his junior year, for him,rnMyles has an excellent GPA and it’s looking like he won’t have to go full day for senior year next year. And hernwill also be going to the same college that Marley and myself are at. So that will be a fun time.rnGreg:rnWow. u0026lt;Laughu0026gt;rnTiffany:rnAnd it of first and foremost, it’s because I love my kids that they have succeeded so well, but also becausernFolds of Honor has come in, locked arms and shown us the support and love and additional resources thatrnwe need in order to be successful in regard to our education. And I would say, and I say this every time Irnspeak, you’re not giving a donation to Folds of Honor.rnThat’s not how I view it. I view it as an investment. And oftentimes people wanna see the return on theirrninvestments. And to that, I would say, you may not see it because our group, unfortunately, is bigger than itrnshould be. However, every night when you crawl into bed or every day as you walk around in life and you’rerncovered by that blanket of freedom, that is where you find your return. That is where you find the return onrnyour investment. And it’s immeasurable. You cannot go wrong by providing anybody an education, especiallyrnchildren like Marley and Myles or spouses like myself. You cannot go wrong by giving someone the gift ofrnlearning and a debt free education.rnGreg:rnTiffany, we’re in the investment business, but you’re one of the best investments I think anybody could everrnwanna make. u0026lt;Laughu0026gt;rnGreg:rnTiffany or Crystal who would like to step up and tell this story that I think is one of the best stories I’ve everrnheard about being awake about major Dan Rooney. Who’s got it?rnTiffany:rnThe long, long and short of it is Dan was on a flight and the pilot came over the speaker and asked that theyrnremained seated because they had hero traveling on board. And he was looking out the side window. He, herndescribes it as I believe, a starry night, looking out the window. And he watched as Brock Buckland’s bodyrnwas rolled out from underneath the cargo area of the plane. And he watched this entire scene unfold wherernBrock’s small son was standing there and they received his remains. And when he turned back around, afterrnwatching everything play out, most of the people on the plane had gotten up and gotten off the plane andrndisregarded the message that had come over. And in that moment, he had this pivotal, I would describe itrnfrom hearing the story so many times firsthand and via the video.rnHe had this awakening. This call to action, where he knew he had to do something as an American, as arnveteran, just as a general human being. He had to do something to change what had happened. And I willrnsay, hundred percent, in all of the years that have passed since he experienced that epiphany, he has maderna huge sweeper wave of change for my, the community that myself and my children are a part of. And Irnbelieve the ripple effect is immeasurable. What he’s been able to accomplish because he was awake and hernwas cognizant. And he was aware in that moment where other people were selfish and didn’t care and werernin a rush. And couldn’t take five minutes to show reverence to one of our fallen.rnGreg:rnThe reality is I ask everybody to listen to it again and take notes. And I think there’s so many lessons in therernon great investments we can make, and gratitude we can have, and pictures we can take. I remember on myrnwedding night, there was a manager of the brokerage firm I was at that day. And he said he gave me a $50rnbill, which was like back then a trillion. And he gave me a $50 bill. And he said, I’m gonna give you this $50rnbill, as long as you do one thing. And he said, make sure you kiss Lori before you go to bed every night andrntell her you love her. And, you know, he was that Mrs. Terry for me that day. And Tiffany, thank you forrnreminding me of that today. You, you really are a remarkable person.rnTiffany:rnThank you for receiving it, man. I’m just an ordinary person. Who’s been through some extraordinary thingsrnand I’m trying to make the most of my life, which is what we should all be doing. We just have to do betterrnand be better. So thank you for being open.rnGreg:rnI think you just did a pretty good job of explaining a hero but thank you for that explanation. I think it’s prettyrnwell done.rnTiffany:rnWell, too, I would say, I know you’re in the financial business. And so a lot of people listening are in realm,rnbut not everybody has the same skillsets or resources. So I would to anyone listening in the off chance thatrndoesn’t have the financial resources to support. Oftentimes people ask, well, what can I do? I’m just, what,rnwhat can I do if I don’t have money to give? And I would say, for me personally, I would never ask you forrnanything, regardless of who you are or what resources you have. However, at the end of the day, if you reallyrnwanna know what I personally, as a surviving spouse of a soldier who was killed in action, and the mother ofrntwo kids that were left behind, what I think is: you need to just be a better person, be awake like Dan was. Bernthere like Miss Terry was. Be present every day like I am. Be a better person. If you can’t give money, yournknow, there’s other ways. Make your life count for something.rnGreg:rnTiffany, would you feel comfortable telling Myles’ story?rnTiffany:rnSure. It was the beginning of February 2014. We had a lot of severe weather in our area and the kids hadrnhad multiple snow days in a row. And we had a day off from school that day, but the weather was nicernenough so that we could go out. And I asked the kids, where do you wanna go? Let’s go to lunch. And theyrnsaid, let’s go to Cracker Barrel. And so we were walking in the cracker barrel and unbeknownst to me untilrnwe were in the restaurant, Myles had found $20 in the, in the parking lot. And as we were walking in, he wasrnlike super excited and him and Marley were going back and forth and da-da-da-da-da. And we sat down andrnMyles was like, mom, I found $20 in the parking lot, our waitress is getting a really big tip today. I was like,rnokay buddy. He was like, don’t worry, I got the tip. I was like, alright buddy. So then, I don’t know, 15rnminutes or so later, Frank Dailey walked in with his wife and his grandson.rnAnd he was in uniform because he was airman at the 180th in our area, this Air Force base. And he, herncame in and he sat down and Myles’ eyes were just really big. And he was following him until he sat in hisrnseat. And then he looked at me and he looked back at Frank and he looked at me. And he said, mom, you’rerngonna have to take care of the waitress, cause I’m gonna buy that guy’s lunch instead. And I said, OK, that’srnfine. And so Myles at, I always have post-it notes and a pen on me because we, typically it would be Marleyrnand I, but we would leave random notes of kindness or pay it forwards and whatever, just scatter themrnthroughout our day, whenever we were, anywhere. Always based on being anonymous. And Myles wrote thisrnnote and it said, Dear soldier, my dad was a soldier, I found this $20 in the parking lot when we got here. Wernlike to pay it forward in our family.rnToday is your lucky day. And he signed it Myles Eckert, a Gold Star kid. And he wrapped the 20 up in thatrngreen post-it, and then it took him a while. Cuz Myles is very, very nervous. He’s very shy. And I walked overrnwith him eventually, cuz he kept trying to go and give it to Frank and he would run over there and run back.rnAnd so finally I walked over there with him and I said, Hey, my son wants to give you this. And he said, Hey,rnthanks. And that was that. And we went about the rest of our day. Well I think what had happened wasrnFrank’s daughter took a picture of the note and posted it online locally. And then all of a sudden, people, yournknow, the power of social media and Facebook people were like, oh I know that kid.rnAnd they were tagging me. They were like, Hey, that’s Tiffany, I know them, blah, blah, blah, blah. And itrnbecame just like locally, this organically wild story and local news picked it up. And then before, you know it,rnall these outlets were calling and Steve Hartman called and he asked if he could come out and do a story,rnwhich he did. And then it went super mega viral. And we were getting calls from every national outlet. Irnmean, I said no to Steve Harvey, Meredith Viera, Good Morning America, all these things. And then Ellenrncalled and it was partially like Ellen. And then also we were getting so much traction. People were sendingrnmail to the kids’ school. They were, our, our mail was just insane. People were finding my phone number andrncalling. People from all over the world. And I said, we gotta put the brakes on this because I don’t know whatrnto do. And so I said yes to Ellen because I felt that it was the most mainstream platform to get the word out tornsay hey, this is really great and nice.rnBut if you guys could stop sending stuff to my house or, you know, we were trying to redirect the pay itrnforwards to something else. And I’ll tell you, behind the scenes, I’m a single mom and life is, it’s hard to be arnsingle mom and financially I could have taken advantage of the situation, but I never felt I was supposed to.rnNever. And so we paid everything forward. We gave it all away and we directed it to a different charity at therntime that was before we knew what Folds was. And in one initiative in a couple of months we raised 1.8rnmillion. And in the time since, you know, 2014 we’ve raised, I mean, I don’t even know at this point, becausernit was never about keeping track, right. And we’ve continued to do things, you know, publicly. And thenrnobviously still tried to maintain, do anonymous things here and there as we can.rnAnd the beauty of Myles’ story is that it went, I believe so far and wide is because it was genuine. And I feelrnthat my job all this time has been to be the protector of Myles’ story. And so I said no to things that otherrnpeople would’ve said yes to, for personal gain. And I believe that’s truly why it has gone so far and wide. Andrnliterally across the globe and day that the publicist had sent Dan through, Frank called and he said, Tiffany, Irna hundred percent support that you are telling these people, all these people, no, I’m okay with it. He goes,rnbut if there is one thing that you could please say yes to, there’s this guy and he’s a fighter pilot. You know,rnFrank was in the Air Force. He goes, he wants us to come to this outing in Owasso at the Patriot, which is,rnyou know, the golf, the club.rnAnd he goes, I, you know, in order for me to go, you guys have to go. So could you consider saying yes tornthis? I said, well, I’ll give the guy a call. How about that? And I knew, I called Dan Rooney on his cell phone.rnAnd I knew the minute that we were on the phone, that he was genuine, authentic. It was real that he wasn’trntake advantage of my son, or our family, or exploit our story, or exploit Andy or Myles.rnAnd, you know I can’t say enough, enough good things about Dan in particular, but also anybody that I’vernencountered who is a part of the mission. They, I have not met one person who does not genuinely standrnbehind our family and the fact that they’re educating these kids. And I’ll tell you, because of Myles’ story andrnthe exposure we’ve had and things that I’ve been privy to, it is exceptionally rare. That’s why I’ll always standrnwith Folds.rnrnGreg:rnTo sit here and listen. And just so thankful for your commitment, your sacrifice, the lessons you’ve taught allrnthe listeners today. You know, when Dan says, who I do not know, Dan Rooney, but just watching him andrnlearning about him, truly is a hero.rnAnd please everybody, in listening to these stories, let’s remember 1% of our country fights for the freedomrnof the other 99%. And let’s make sure we understand that freedom isn’t free. And if we’re ever in a situationrnlike that airplane, let’s stay seated and let’s give our heroes the respect they’ve earned and deserved. Godrnbless both of you and God bless our military.rnThank you for listening to the Imagine That podcast. We hope you enjoyed this episode and welcome you tornreach out to Confluence Financial Partners with your questions and comments. If you’d like to hear morernepisodes, head over to confluencefp.com/podcasts, or find us wherever you get your podcast.

  • Folds of Honor – Passion Into Action, Crystal Popella’s Story

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    Some investments serve a higher purpose. In this episode, you’ll learn about Folds of Honor, an organization that gives back to a community to whom we owe an unpayable debt.

    Since 2007, Folds of Honor has provided scholarships to the families of America’s killed or disabled soldiers. Join host and Confluence Financial Partners CEO, Greg Weimer, as he interviews Folds of Honor–Western Pennsylvania board member Crystal Popella (Episode 27) and Gold Star Wife Tiffany Eckert (Episode 28). You’ll hear their stories and learn about the incredible impact Folds of Honor has made in the lives of military families across the nation. You’ll also find out how you can turn passion into action by becoming a part of this important mission.

    u003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnHello, and welcome to the, Imagine That podcast. I’m your host, Greg Weimer, founder, partner, and wealth manager at Confluence Financial Partners. Each month, we’ll explore new ways to help you maximize your life and your legacy and meet some extraordinary people along the way. So if you’re looking to get more out of your life today and legacy tomorrow, let’s get started.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnFor the first time, we’re releasing a podcast episode in two parts about an organization called Folds of Honor.rnrnFolds of Honor is a nonprofit that provides scholarships to the families of fallen and disabled service members. We spoke with some incredible people involved with Folds of Honor, and their stories were so powerful, we wanted to share them with you in their entirety.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnToday, I’m here with Crystal Popella and Tiffany Eckert. Let me explain to you who they are and why you should listen. Crystal put her passion into action and she started the Folds of Honor chapter locally. She also has a success successful business career, but she, she started Folds of Honor locally. And we’re gonna tell you all about that. I think there’s lessons to be learned here, folks. And then two, Tiffany Eckert, Tiffany. I was impressed with her. I was blown away by her. I met her six months ago. Tiffany’s husband was, is a hero and gave the ultimate sacrifice. So all of us could continue to live in freedom.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnThere’s three lessons I’m positive we’ll learn. The first one we’re gonna learn is if you’re awake on a daily basis and you’re just awake to go, what’s going on around you. There are lessons that come to us that can literally change your life. And we’re gonna tell you about a guy by the name of Major Dan Rooney, who is awake on a flight. And he literally changed over a hundred thousand people’s lives by just being awake.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnSo the question I have for all of us, are we awake and how can we be better and be more intentional? Second, we’re going to learn when you have a passion, how you turn it into action. And, and really so many people have this whole “gonna” call him. I’m gonna do this. I’m gonna do that. You’re gonna hear loud and clear from Crystal, how you do it. And she turned passion into action. And then also, and then also freedom isn’t free. Let’s start with the first one. And that is Major Dan Rooney.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eTiffany:u003c/strongu003ernrnThe long, long and short of it is Dan was on a flight and the pilot came over the speaker and asked that they remained seated because they had hero traveling on board. And he was looking out the side window. He, he describes it as I believe, a starry night, looking out the window. And he watched as Brock Buckland’s body was rolled out from underneath the cargo area of the plane. And he watched this entire scene unfold where Brock’s small son was standing there and they received his remains. And when he turned back around, after watching everything play out, most of the people on the plane had gotten up and gotten off the plane and disregarded the message that had come over. And in that moment, he had this pivotal, I would describe it from hearing the story so many times firsthand and via the video.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnHe had this awakening. This call to action, where he knew he had to do something as an American, as a veteran, just as a general human being. He had to do something to change what had happened. And I will say, hundred percent, in all of the years that have passed since he experienced that epiphany, he has made a huge sweeper wave of change for my, the community that myself and my children are a part of. And I believe the ripple effect is immeasurable. What he’s been able to accomplish because he was awake and he was cognizant. And he was aware in that moment where other people were selfish and didn’t care and were in a rush. And couldn’t take five minutes to show reverence to one of our fallen.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo Major Dan Rooney, by the way, if I understand correctly, he spent two tours of, of duty in, in Iraq, right? And one of the, one of the things that when he first told, when I first heard him tell the story, he was walking on someone in the military in first class. And when they, and as this right, Tiffany, when they heard him say like, there’s a hero on board, he, he immediately went to, what did that guy do? I mean, he is a hero because he is in the military, but is there more to the story? And the fallen soldier was his twin brother. And so, you know, you put yourself in that story and you say as Major Dan Rooney turned around and 50% of the people on the airplane left, which one would you have been? Like, like, are, are we so busy in our daily basis that we’re like really running to a flight or are we awake to the fact that someone just gave their life?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnSo we had the privilege to be on that flight. And if any of us were really honest, some days when we’re, you know, I mean, and it’s just, but anyhow, he, Major Dan Rooney went on to create, is that the origination of Folds of Honor. Right? So he created Folds of Honor and Folds of Honor they give scholarships to the family of injured and fallen heroes. And, and I tell me if these numbers are right, they may be a little outdated. I, I, I did some Googling. And it’s because of that one person being awake that day folds of honor have given, has given 35,000 scholarships, is that right? Like, that’s amazing. So then I thought like, I can’t really visualize 35,000 scholarships. So I thought, okay, so at Google, how many people fit on a school bus? And you know, that’s 486 school buses.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnSo here’s one guy on one flight and 486 school buses of students later, adults and children, was what this person was way able to create. So really remarkable, just being awake that day made a difference. Changing one family one day at a time. So that takes me to Crystal. Crystal, one of the things that I think is really exciting and, and, you know, I ran into a gentleman that helped me think through this years ago is when you really figure out what your all about is all about. And, and, and, and, and, and that’s true in finance also. When we’re doing financial plans for people, what we really try to figure out is: what’s your all about, all about. And then we help you maximize your life and legacy with a financial plan. You figured out what your all about is all about, and that is Folds of Honor. And what I think is really amazing is you didn’t put it in that “gonna” column you, you immediately created it, created into the, in Western Pennsylvania, that we’re gonna do this. And do you wanna just take us through how you did that and how you turned it into this charity locally that’s making, that’s changing people’s lives?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnAbsolutely. So my husband was at a work conference back in 2013 and had the great opportunity to listen to, now, Lieutenant Colonel Dan Rooney, and he was blown away. So not only back in 2007, when Lieutenant Colonel Dan founded Folds of Honor and changed lives one at a time, he is now touching people in the food service industry, talking to them and encouraging them to find their purpose, find their passion, talks to them about Folds of Honor. My husband was like, I gotta meet this guy. He’s calling me. So he took action, you know, and he said, what can we do?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo he picked up the phone.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnNo, he walked up to him after the conference and, and shook his hand and said, Hey, I’m Mike Popella. Tell me, tell me what I can do here in Western Pennsylvania.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo how many people are in that audience and don’t go up, do you know what I mean? Like everybody, again, they’re gonna, there’s like, I really should meet this person. I really should see how I could help. And, and instead you don’t, right. They just, they just, they leave. And they’re like, oh, you know, I, cause that’s what I thought you wanted. He called him the next week or something. No, he went up and he shook his hand.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnYep. And from there that built a friendship and a relationship to this day continues to grow. So at that point, you know, we supported the mission, Folds of Honor, financially. But then Mike had the opportunity to listen to him again. And the calling was much deeper and the call to action, like you need to do more. And so Mike came home from that conference back in 2019 and said, there’s no Folds of Honor chapter here in Western Pennsylvania, and we’re gonna start one.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo he went down the road of investigating, what does he need to do to get the LLC set up, you know, all the tax documents and, and then forming that team.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnOkay. So when did it actually start in, in Western PA?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnWestern Pennsylvania chapter launched in October of 2019, our very first fundraiser event was at Top Golf, March 14th, 2020, the day before COVID shut everything down.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnOh man. Yep.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnYou know, so we had all these people that were like, oh, COVID’s coming, we don’t wanna come. But it was still a great, great success. But back to the formation of Western Pennsylvania Folds of Honor, we, we knew we needed a team, you know? So how do you build a team to be successful? And when Tiffany said, it’s the ripple—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnIn the middle of COVID.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnIn the middle of COVID, we, we needed that ripple effect. So we, we knew that we needed to build a diverse team. So we have marketing people on our board. We have real estate people. We have folks in the financial industry to really kind of pull out key pods of people that could help drive the success of the organization here in west Western Pennsylvania. So I feel like that was the critical first step. After the call to action of meeting Dan Rooney and saying, I’m gonna do more.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnAnd, and by the way, you, you had never started an organization like this before.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnNever.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo you made the commitment and then figured out how to do it. I think so many people think they know how to do it before they make the commitment. And it’s, it’s not how success works.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnOr the fear of not knowing how to do it. So that holds them back.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnFor sure. I mean, there’s a myth of success. There’s the myth of accom, myth of accomplishment that, you know exactly what you’re doing before you do it. Untrue. You had probably more variables, you’re in the middle of COVID, and you build a team. And, and how, and tell us about the success.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo our very first event you know, people were canceling and, and I’m panicking because Mike is the sales guy.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnHe sells the dream and he says, we’re having an event and I’m the operational person. Yeah. Like I gotta figure out how to make it happen. I’m a nurse by trade, but I do consulting work and teach people how to identify, you know, the bumps in the road. And how do you improve that process to, you know, drive quality over time?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnMm-Hmm u0026lt;affirmativeu0026gt;.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo again, we had challenges with people canceling, but we still walked outta that very first event in March of 2020. And we raised enough for two and a half scholarships.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnAnd how much is the scholarship?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrn$5,000,rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrn$5,000.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo we raised in 12,500 or below 10,000.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnThat was great. Oh, really? Yeah. That’s awesome. And what’s, what’s really cool about a, a scholarship. I think when you think about education, so many things, and there’s a lot of great charities, but it’s temporary. You give someone a coat; you know what I mean? You and I, I, I, I mean, we’ve all done those and, and they’re necessary cuz people need coats, but you do go home and you think I didn’t really solve that. And I’m not saying a, a scholarship solves it for everyone, but if you give someone an education that no one can take that away from them and that’ll go on to affect them and I, and, and impact them forever. So that’s what I’d love about Folds of Honor. Not only is it helping our heroes, but also in their families, but also, it’s lasting.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnAnd it drives the success of our great nation. You know, like, let’s talk about putting an education in front of these spouses and children who have made that ultimate sacrifice and, and losing a loved one. I mean, you look at Tiffany’s family you know, they’re making a difference. And when you look at that long term effect of what that scholarship is gonna do for not only Tiffany, but each of her children and the legacy that they carry out, you know, it, it, it just continues to grow legs.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo, yeah. So when you, if you think about those 35,000 people, you think about a family of four, you think about Penn state stadium, you think about that on a Saturday, 110,000 people, all of the people that this one person on an airplane being awake, changing the world, you implement it locally. They would, all the people that were affected would not fit in that stadium. And that’s one generation. You multiply that out.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnAnd then when you think about Crystal, she heard this and every, and you know, you hear this and it’s moving, it’s moving. But Crystal and Mike took these moving moments and said, how can we make more investments? And how can we raise money? And I do think it’s, you know, from what two years ago now, is that right? Yeah. So how many scholarships through your work and Mike’s work, have you been able to provide in this area? Over a hundred. Over a hundred. So over a hundred. Yeah. And, and, and there’s a lot of ways to get involved and there’s a lot of ways to make investments and really understand that freedom’s not free and get behind this cause. And I’ll tell you, and, and is your major fundraiser across the nation golf outings, is that like where you raise a lot,rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnThat’s the primary focus primary, but we really try to engage other interests, you know, because not everybody’s involved in golf. So how do you engage folks who wanna do a fundraiser around horseback riding,rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnRight.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnOr around cooking classes or so we have a lot of different people that say, here’s my passion and purpose. I also love Folds of Honor. How can I tie the two of them together? We wanna raise money for Folds of Honor, but here’s how we wanna do it. So we certainly encourage those people who raise their hand and say we wanna help.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo if someone has an idea, they should put forward the idea, give you a call and go.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnAbsolutely. We are always looking for volunteers who wanna make that difference and invest in a family like the Eckerts.rnrnu003cstrongu003e u003c/strongu003ernrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnFirst time I heard of Folds of Honor, I dunno if it was an email call, text from Chris McKnight up at Laurel Valley: Putting together this golf outing, can you grab a foursome? The pro at St. Clair Country Club is also a friend, Jay Mull, he’s a veteran. He would be our pro. There would be four of us. Come on up. I hear it’s a nice event. Okay. We go. First of all, if you haven’t been to a Folds of Honor event, I know everybody’s been to a lot of golf outings, so have I. We all have been. But it is amazing. I have the ball marker in my pocket. It’s an amazing event. It, if you aren’t moved at that event, you’re not alive. Just go and be awake. It’s it is a, it is an amazing day. And then that night we sat there and, and Tiffany spoke. And I, and I remember when Tiffany spoke and I’m like, holy cow!rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnLike, I, I, I couldn’t believe this story. And, and, and really, I mean, and we’ve done other, we’ve heard, done other podcasts and other things about gratitude and about, about Veterans Day and right. I mean, we’ve done all because it is, it is truly a remarkable story. And just, can’t just can’t thank you enough. And encouraging people to, to get involved. I know there’s a lot of great charities, you know, and, but, but if it’s in your heart to, to really invest in people like Tiffany and it, and, and you know, the charity, what percentage of the money goes to towards scholarships?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrn91 cents of every dollar.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt’s crazy.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnGoes back to scholarships.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt’s really good.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt’s unheard of.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt’s really good.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt’s an incredible organization.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt’s really good. Now, let me ask you, are we, are we, are we filling the need? Are we, do we need to find more like if someone needs a scholarship today, do they get it? And how do you build awareness for people that need a scholarship and don’t even know it exists?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnGreat question. So our mission is twofold here in Western Pennsylvania, first of all, to raise awareness, because when we set out on this mission back in 2019, nobody had ever heard of Folds of Honor. So we’re like, how are we going to raise awareness? So we embedded ourself in the military community. We built a military committee to really showcase what the mission is, who do you know that really would qualify for a scholarship? So that was the one mission. And then the other mission obviously is to raise funds because at that time we were not raising enough funds and we had qualified applicants that were getting turned away because of lack of funding. So we said, okay, we will not turn away any qualified applicants. Parallel to the goal of raising awareness. So everybody in Western PA knows about Folds of Honor. So last year, Folds of Honor, nationally, there was no qualified applicant that was turned away.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnEvery single applicant who qualified, received a scholarship. Mission accomplished.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnMission accomplished.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah. So we feel really, really good about that, but we still know that we have to continue. As Tiffany said, their community of folks who have been injured, disabled, or paid that ultimate sacrifice of death continues to grow every single day. Let’s look about what’s going on in the world. You know, our military, unfortunately, we’re losing them. And we don’t want that to happen, but we have to continue to take care of those families. So yeah, we have to continue to push forward.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnHopefully everybody really appreciates that freedom isn’t free. And because Major Dan Rooney was awake one day. And because Crystal, you had a passion and you actually turned it into action. And Mike walked up on the stage that day.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnWhen you talk about doing better and being better you know, and, and being an investment for people. Certainly there’s the investment that we all think about financially, but we talk about that legacy that you wanna leave behind. And you talk about the investment in other people. I feel like giving to other people constantly fills your giving bank again.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnMm-hmm, u0026lt;affirmativeu0026gt;.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnYou know it, it may not be a financial reward. For Mike and I, we, we have a full-time job, our careers, and that gives us the financial opportunity to do what we do here today to invest in other people. But that keeps our giving bank full. You know, we’re, we’re not spending all of our money. We, we we’re spending our, our passion to take care of other people. And I think that that’s sometimes what people miss in life. Take action, be an investment in other people and your giving bank will never go empty.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnI think that’s philosophical. I think people think that’s philosophical. I think it’s gonna end up being scientific. I actually think someday some scientists will prove that the brain, the more you give, the more you get. I just think that’s absolutely true. And what you said about legacy is — so many people think of it in terms of like there’s, there’s life, there’s death, and then there’s legacy. Untrue. You’re building your legacy as you live. Like what we spend a lot of time with, with our clients is: what are you all about? And, and that is helping them build their life and their legacy, and really being intentional about what they’re doing and having their portfolio support it. And, and legacy is built while you’re alive. I mean, I would challenge anybody that Crystal and Tiffany are building their legacy today, much greater than, right, than anything you’re gonna leave. You’re gonna leave these members. Andy’s legacy is, will go on for a really, really, really, really long time, you know, because of the sacrifice he made and because of Tiffany and because of Folds of Honor. So I think you could, I couldn’t, I don’t think you have said it better. I think that legacy is built based on the things you do when you’re alive.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnI think it’s well said. And I think a lot of the other ways are, you know, more powerful. I’m sure there’s ways to support financially, which, you know, you, we, we do need someone to fund the scholarships. But at the end of the day, it’s, it, it can’t just be checkbook charity, right? There’s more to it than that.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnWell, and I think when, when you talk about diversity in your investments, there’s also diversity in each one, we’re, we’re all a different mold. And as Tiffany was talking about her son Myles and that, that counselor who said, you’re gonna have to think about a different path for Myles. He’s not gonna be able to go to college. So you think, you think about that message. And then you think about the skillset that everybody has. How can, how can you tap into everybody’s unique characteristics and, and drive it towards one singular mission to be successful and impact millions of people every single day? I think that’s what life is about. You know, we’re not, we’re not just here. There’s a reason why my husband Mike was at a work conference and was introduced to now Lieutenant Colonel Dan, there is a reason why we brought together a great team of people here in Western Pennsylvania to share the mission of Folds of Honor. There is a reason why Chris McKnight called you and said, Hey, you need to come to our golf outing. There is a reason why Tiffany was selected to be our keynote speaker that night. And here we are seven months later talking about that. And how do you drive those connections and those relationships that we have now built forward into the future to impact other people.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnLook at the look at the ripple effects. I mean, it’s, it’s, yeah, it’s a pebble in the pond, but the ripple effects are incredible. So, you know, when we, we talk about it’s more than just money and we would, you know, u0026lt;laughu0026gt;, money’s good. Like we, we, we like people to participate by donating. So clearly, donations are important, but if I think about the charities I’m involved in the MVPs of the charities, candidly, now we appreciate all the donors, but candidly, it’s not the largest donor. The MVPs are the ones that live and breathe the charity and actually forward the mission, like, right? They, they’re, I mean, maybe you and Mike are the largest donors, I have no idea, but, but like your, what you’ve been able to create, right? Tiffany, what you’ve been able to do, it’s bigger than money.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnAnd so you think about what Dan Rooney did and how he was able to duplicate and replicate out of his garage, one day formed Folds of Honor to now 32 chapters across the country, carrying out that ripple effect mission, and always attracting new volunteers that again, can host a fundraiser event or share the mission of Folds of Honor. And again, it doesn’t have to be about Folds of Honor. Find what really makes you tick and drive it home, find people likeminded or not likeminded, skill sets that are the same, skillsets that are different. And how can you make an impact moving forward?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnAnd the weirdest thing, you know, people are like, oh, that’s so unselfish. And it is, but it is amazing when you focus on other people, you focus on helping other people, you have a greater purpose other than yourself, and you really worked on, you knew who it helps the most? You! Like it’s a, if by focusing on others, it reduces anxiety. It makes you better at your career. It makes you a more complete person. It makes you a happier person. It, it is it is, it is, it is, it is really powerful for because you’re changing people’s lives, but it also has a huge impact when people have a purpose, you know? And, and, and then they, and, and, and you may have a purpose, but, but like you did, you built the canvas, right? You built the platform of which you now get to have.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo, you know, now in October, up at Laurel Valley, there will be, you know, a couple hundred people there that you’re gonna tell the story to again, and it’s gonna have another ripple effect. So, you know, if you have a — you have to have two things. If you really have a passion out there, I give you get it. You you’ve gotta have the passion and you gotta have the audience. So build that. So you have to, you have to have a passion and an audience. And if you can build both, which we can help you do, if you build both, you can really make an impact on people’s lives. Like when you hear either Crystal or Tiffany speak, they have the passion and they’re building the audience and go on and change 35,000 people’s lives.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnEverything falls into place after that. So—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnIt falls into place.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnAnd, and then piggyback that with how do we make it bigger and better? How do we continue to process improve things? So when we talk about two years ago, our first event, Top Golf, the day before COVID changed our world, $12,500, we raised to just two months ago, we raised $34,000 for scholarships for our military families. So again, sharing the mission, bringing new people to the fold who also have that passion and wanna share it. Yeah, we’re super proud of what we’re doing here, but I think you have to also you know, not always be asking for money and, and we become humble with that. And I think people are attracted to that passion and that excitement and, and Mike and I talk all the time. We probably work harder and longer hours for Folds of Honor that doesn’t give us a paycheck because that’s where our heart is.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnBut as I said earlier, that giving bank we’re, we’re still always full. We’re still always giving. We’re still, you know, donating our time. And, and then we now have other nonprofits reaching out to us saying, can you help us? Like, we’ve been doing this for years and, and we are not as successful as you. Can you, can you teach us something?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo, so, you know, I’m just saying like, your success is amazing. So based on, based on Mike going to a conference, okay. Gets involved, walks up, shakes hands. Top Golf event, which is $12,000. Okay. 12,000 bucks. COVID. How much do you think you’ll raise this year at Laurel Valley? So Top Golf to Laurel Valley, two days. That that’s, I mean, that’s a, that’s an evolution of golf, right? So you go u0026lt;laughu0026gt;. So now you’re two days at Laurel Valley. What’s the goal on how much money you’ll raise and how many scholarships you’ll be?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnSo, so two years ago, Laurel Valley, we, we got eight teams there last year, we sold out this year, we’ve moved it to a two-day event because there’s a waiting list of participants. We can’t handle enough.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnWith a potential overnight. People can do that. I saw that.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnPotential overnight. And we are looking to net over $150,000.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnTwo years, 12,000, 150,000, because you have passion, you have purpose and you started the, and you started the mission before you thought you had all the answers. But your heart was in the right spot.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnOkay. Crystal, you Mike have had incredible success and I, and I get that you made the commitment and then you figured it out. But now that you’ve figured out some things and you’re working on it for other people that want to duplicate your efforts, either in the same field or in a different field or a different passion, there have to, there, there, there, there’s gotta be lessons you’ve learned. So could you do a little bit of a cheat sheet on things you learned and things you’re working on to make sure Folds of Honor survives the test of time?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnI think there’s lots of different lessons that we’ve learned. You know, first of all, it was just do it. Don’t figure it out and then do it, just do it, jump in. And you’re always going to learn from, you know, your successes and your failures, first of all. But then, meeting the right people was key and critical. Continuing to grow, continuing to spread the mission. But then we have to think about that succession plan. What happens when Mike and I are no longer carrying that torch? Who do we pass that torch onto? Certainly we have a great team of volunteers, a great board of directors that we share a lot of the load with, but who are we gonna pass that torch to? We have formed a young professionals board, really trying to identify the, the younger generation. You know, we, we got into Folds of Honor as kind of our after-career.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnWhat are we gonna do with our life after our career to give back? But now we have to think about what are we gonna do to pass this torch for Folds of Honor. So we have a young professionals board, always looking for new people to bring into the fold and to share the mission and to kind of teach them our lessons learned so that they don’t have to fall or stumble as we have.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnSure.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnOver the last two years, you know and we’re really trying to make that footprint and, and roadmap for them that they can kind of even travel farther than we have. You know, certainly over the last two and a half years, we’ve gone from in our first year raising a hundred thousand dollars to this year, $400,000. So we know that that trajectory is not gonna continue. How can we sustain it and then teach other people how to do that same thing?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnI think that’s really, really critical because as you talk about the legacy, what legacy do you wanna leave behind? If people don’t remember where you’ve been and what you’ve done, they will never learn lessons from it and be able to choose to duplicate it, replicate it, or to carry on a new mission. You know, I think that you have to have that succession plan in place. And so that’s something that we’re really starting to build the introductory or foundation for. As we continue to grow Folds of Honor here.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnI actually think that’s really, really thoughtful. And I think that lessons it’s simple. Like it, that’s not, like that’s simple. But it’s amazing how many people that don’t. And I don’t wanna make this about Confluence, but like parallel lives on this, right? So we, we’ve grown a lot. We, as we’ve grown, we’ve enhanced what we’re doing. I, I would say any of our clients would say that we keep, continue to improve on their behalf, but then the real mission, the real thing we think about is how do we continue to get better for the next 50 and 75 and 100 years? How are we when, when, when, when Greg has all gray hair and is gone and Jim, and how does the next generation or any of our advisors, how do we, how do we continue our legacy of helping families and taking care of grandchildren?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnIt’s easy to build a firm for 10 years. It’s easy to build a charity for 10 years. It is harder to build a firm or a charity that survives the test of time. That takes care of families, whether it’s through scholarships or through taking care of families’ lifetime savings, wealth, it, it, it’s harder. And, and so we think about this, not in the next five years, we think about this as the infinite game. How are we building this for the next 50 and 100 years? It’s amazing how many people don’t think about that when they pick an advisor. It’s amazing when people don’t think about that when they pick a charity. It’s really refreshing to hear you say that you and Mike are thinking about the infinite game of how to think about this 10, 20, 30 years. So people like Tiffany continue to be helped.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eCrystal:u003c/strongu003ernrnYep. And, and again, even outside of Folds of Honor, we, we’ve had three other local nonprofits reach out to us to say, how are you doing it? And can you, can you help us? And I think that’s a testament to success that people a took the action to reach out for help. But also wanna carry on their legacy for their nonprofit. So we also do kind of pro bono consulting with three other nonprofits. Have you thought about this? You need to consider this. Moving forward, you should do this again. It’s not just about Folds of Honor, but as a whole community, we have that social responsibility.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu003cstrongu003eGreg:u003c/strongu003ernrnI think that’s great. I hope hopefully, you know, people listening, you planted a seed. And so it’s not just for Folds of Honor, which is awesome, but there’s, there’s other charities out there right now in people’s minds that could, that could, that could have the same ripple effect that, you know, that Folds of Honors have had for the 35,000 scholarships. There’s, there’s, they’re in people’s minds, they’re just in the “gonna” side. And, and hopefully in listening to you, you know, they take that one action, cuz you know, when you go into the gym, the hardest thing is opening the door. That’s the hardest part of the gym. After, once you get open the door, you’re good. So hopefully what you did today is inspire people to open the door to a charity, to then go on, to help a lot of lives. And so thank you so much for sharing.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnAnd please everybody, in listening to these stories, let’s remember 1% of our country fights for the freedom of the other 99%. And let’s make sure we understand that freedom isn’t free. And if we’re ever in a situation like that airplane, let’s stay seated and let’s give our heroes the respect they’ve earned and deserved. God bless both of you and God bless our military.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnThank you for listening to the Imagine That podcast. We hope you enjoyed this episode and welcome you to reach out to Confluence Financial Partners with your questions and comments. If you’d like to hear more episodes, head over to confluencefp.com/podcasts, or find us wherever you get your podcast.

  • Becoming the Architect of Your Future | Episode 26

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    Join Confluence Financial Partners CEO, Greg Weimer, along with Confluence Director of Marketing and Communication, Katie Montagazzi, CFP®, for an inspiring conversation on goal planning and the importance of living an intentional life.

    In this episode, Greg will share his strategies for becoming the “architect of your future” and how to develop the ability to turn “someday” into “today.” For individuals and business owners who would like to build discipline and focus in aligning your day-to-day activities with your long-term goals, this is an episode that can help you get there.

    u003cstrongu003eKatie:u003c/strongu003ernrnYou are 42% more likely to achieve your goals that they are written down, and you are 76% more likely to achieve those goals. If you write action commitments and share weekly progress reports, imagine that.rnrn(SOURCE: Gail Matthews, Dominican University, 2015)rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnHello and welcome to the Imagine That Podcast. I’m your host, Greg Weimer, founder, partner, and wealth manager at Confluence Financial Partners. Each month we’ll explore new ways to help you maximize your life and your legacy and meet some extraordinary people along the way. So if you’re looking to get more out of your life today and legacy tomorrow, let’s get started.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnHello everybody, This is Katie Montagazzi here at Confluence. I’m the director of marketing and communication. Today, I have the privilege of having a conversation with Greg, who’s usually the host of the podcast. We’re flipping seats. Today I have the privilege of sitting in the room for all the podcast recordings and over the few, over the past three years we’ve been doing this. It’s been very obvious to me that Greg is a great podcast guest. So I’m taking the role of host today. Greg is a guest, if you will. And we’re going to talk about becoming the architect of your future. So this is a phrase that we’ve thrown, not thrown around, we use in internally here at Confluence. And it’s essentially the framework we use for, we’ll say, dreaming, understanding your why in creating, in, you know, five-year goals, one-year goals, quarterly goals, daily initiatives, and how that drills down into every single day what you do.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnSo Greg is a great example of somebody who uses this framework very well. So we’re going to walk through what it is, how to use it. And then I know Greg has some real-life examples of how he’s done this over his career.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnSo welcome Greg. Hey, that u0026lt;laughu0026gt;, that sounds so weird. The becoming an architect, becoming the architect of your future. This is sort of the framework that we’ve been using internally for associates to plan both professionally and personally. I guess to start off, do you want to walk through the actual framework?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernEverybody wants to do goal setting, like, hey, okay, I’m a goal setter, but, but you have to ask like, why is it important? Like, you have to go back and say, and, and I’m sure there’s a gazillion of them, but there’s a couple moments in my life when I realized then, you know, one wasn’t that long ago, maybe a year or two ago, year ago maybe I was on social media and there’s this guy, Gary V and there was a woman that came running up to him in a cab and said like, Hey, gimme some of the greatest advice you can give me. And he looked at her and said, You’re gonna die. And we all know that, but I think when you start, and I don’t want to start it low, but, but I find it motivating. Like, because you, you have to allow it to motivate you.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnYou’re gonna die. And so that just helps you with the concept of life short. And you know, at my age, do I have 25 more Christmases with my kids? I don’t know. But I know if I only have 25, I’m gonna make sure every one of ’em is sort of special. So I think about, you know, how many days I this weekend, it’s so pathetic. I was calculating if I live like 20 more years, how many days I have in my life and what. So, so you start with that motivation of life is short. And there’s cert, there’s certain things that I feel like there’s certain things that are so true, but we, we just say so often we don’t really hear. And one of them’s like, grandchildren are the best. And I’m gonna tell you grandchildren are the best, but, but two is life is short.rnrnAnd I think when you really understand that, that gives you a different motivation to make sure you maximize it. That gives you a different motivation to make sure you’re living your intentional life.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernYou always say, and I think everybody can agree, a lot of people are really good at dreaming about someday, you know, someday I’m going to do X, someday I’m gonna do this, I’m gonna do that.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernGonna, they’re gonna.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernu0026nbsp;rnrnI’m gonna, they’re gonna, and then, so that’s cool. I like to dream.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernAnd then there are folks that do daily tasks really well, but those daily tasks are just tasks.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernIf they’re not really connected to your dreaming about someday, you’re gonna have some issues, and in 20 years—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernGroundhog Day, they’re just doing Groundhog Day.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernAnd you wonder how you end up where you are. This framework does a really good job of connecting the dreaming with the daily tasks and everything in between. Can you share with us, back in your career, I think it was American Funds, you had this manifesto—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernI wanted to fundamentally change the way people thought about investing their money in western Pennsylvania, West Virginia. And if I did, so if I did that appropriately, I would help people retire without worry and become educated without limit.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernSo that was your dream.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernI mean, I that yeah, that’s been a long time and we had not planned this. And it’s there. It’s, it was my passion.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernYeah. So I just wanted to note or put into perspective, you have done that really well. Like I think in your career at American Funds, in your career here at Confluence, you’ve done that really well and you do it every day. And—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernI don’t know if we become lazy or more precise, but now at Confluence, it’s real simple. We wanna help people maximize their lives and legacies, I mean, right? I mean, that’s what we wanna do. Yep. And so we’ve a little more precise than that long paragraph I wrote, so, you know, back in the day.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernYeah. I thought it was, I thought it was good though. u0026lt;Laughu0026gt;. Yeah. So finding your why, so that was your why back then.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernFinding your why now, how, maybe share a little bit of your why even though it can change, but—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ern—most of the times it’s the same thing. And then maybe Confluence our why.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernLike, it’s sort of the same because — it’s all the same. Like I don’t really have Confluence and my life, it’s just — I may have told this story on a different podcast, but my wife and I were in Turks and Caicos and a really cool dude, like 80 years old with a bandana that was really successful. We were one of those huts on the bar at a bar having a drink. And, and he said to me, son, he said it, it’s all about figuring out what you’re all about is all about. And that really caused me to think about what I’m all about. And it’s changed over the years. You know, you, you just get a different vision and you get something that motivates you and you and, and you and you probably get a burst of precision. So I thought, you know, I wanna be an impact.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnI wanna be an impact in people’s lives. Like, I, I wanna be, you know, like, like there’s hock— we’ve been blessed in Pittsburgh with great hockey players, whether it’s Lemieux or Crosby, and they make everyone around them better. And I don’t want that to sound arrogant. I really want to be that person that makes everyone around me better. And, and, and I, and I want, I want their lives to be better. And in Confluence, I think that can mean, you know, help people literally maximize their life and the portfolio should support their very best life. And they’re going to have a legacy. They might as well design it and be the architect of it. So let’s have ‘em let— And by the way, part of your, part of your legacy is, is exists while you’re alive. You’re creating it, you’re creating it in moments. So yeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnSo it’s really about making an impact and helping people maximize their lives and legacies. And when you can get— And, and by the way, I really, I really force myself to be, to be vivid in what that looks like in 10 or 20 or 30 or 40, 50 years. Because the more specific I get and what it looks like, the more passion and motivation I have about creating it. So, so, so I, I was listening to some stuff over the weekend. I realize I probably could get a little clearer on that. Like, what does that mean in, in 50 years I won’t be here. But you never know. So yeah, so it’s, it’s, it, it, it’s, you just, you get that vision of the future then you just keep working on, on making it better and crystallizing it.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernI will mention when we talk about your why and dreaming you all like, it’s you, you will say, but you will fight and get bloody for your dreams.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernYou won’t do that for your goals. Yeah. So the passion and the emotion you just shared in that little two- minute rant, you just said like, that is super important.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernThere’s a sports psychologist, Bob Rotella, he does a lot of the pro golfers and and I, I heard him speak. We were at Pebble Beach and so Bob Rotella came out to speak with us which was sort cool. And he said, Martin Luther King said, I have a dream. He didn’t say I have a goal. So you will get bloody, you will fight, you will have motivate, you will be motivated, you will be inspired to meet your dream. A goal, you’ll, you’ll work at it. Goals are good, dreams are better.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernYeah. So finding your why dreaming, it needs to be emotional and really get you fired up inside, which is very obvious. You’ve, you’ve done that. Okay. So you have this massive dream, you have this idea that you want for your life, for your family over your lifetime. How do you filter that down to we go down to five year?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernThat actually seems like it goes from really big to really small, really quickly, but we always say, what does great look like in five years?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernSo how do you think about taking that big dream, putting it down into five-year increments?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernWell, the reason it’s five years is because 20 felt long. I started with my, my my 20-year goal. So I really started, I think I, I think I was, if you don’t have “beach it” time, you gotta have “beach it” time. And I don’t know where your “beach it” time—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernWhat’s “beach it” time?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ern“Beach it” time is like it when we go away. I have a, I have a little picture in our house in Naples that says, you know, my other office. And it, and it’s a, it’s a, it’s a chair on the beach and, and you need dream time. So I had “beach it” time and at a family vacation in Hilton Head. And I sat there and I thought about, okay, so what do I want the next 20 years to be like and what do I need to do like, you know, daily to make that happen? Which is cool. And I still do that, but, but for a lot of people thinking about 20 years is like way too. Like it’s just, it’s just like too much. So you should have that. But then what we really do personally and professionally in Confluence is we say, Okay, five years, you start with the end.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnYou don’t take your current whatever and multiply times whatever. You say like, okay, for me to like kill it, for me to be like high fiving in five years, like what, what is my, what do I need to look like? What is it? It could be your health, it could be your wealth, it could be what, it could be whatever that is what has to happen in five years for it to be awesome. And so you have to have quantitative, qualitative. And so we put together our five-year goal and say, okay, in five years, I think, I think all of Confluence knows what our five-year goals, I hope. But we have a pretty specific, here’s what we want to be in five years. And, and I and our clients will benefit from that and our associates will benefit from that. But, but we’re pretty precise on where we want to be in five years from service, et cetera.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernI think this is a good point. A good time to bring up the art of pivoting. Oh yeah. That’s a, I don’t— a buzzword that you use a word that you like.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernA theme. When we set five-year goals, once you identify those five-year goals, it’s probably, it probably behooves you that you need to pivot. You have to pivot. If you want to accomplish things, you have to understand that you have to, there’s different seasons of life in between those seasons is pivoting.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernLife happens and things happen. A great running back, you know, a great running back can pivot and go in a different direction if they have to, to find the open space so they can score. And you have to be able to pivot. You have to be able to change speeds. And I think if you’re gonna lead a business or if you’re gonna be successful, you have to know when to pivot and, and in, at Confluence I think we pivot pretty well. And I think we change speeds pretty well. You know, I mean hopefully by the time people are listening to this, the down market is over. But my guess is it may not be. And we’re pivoting. I mean, we are, we are really thinking through our — we’re thinking through everything. And making sure that we’re doing everything humanly possible to communicate well and invest well for our clients. You gotta pivot.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernYou have your, your dream, five-year goal. Now we’re talking about annual initiatives, annual goals. At Confluence, I’m thinking about our five-year plans and me being marketing, understanding what my one-year initiative needs to be over the next — well we haven’t drilled down into quarters even right now. But annualrnrnu0026nbsp;rnrngoals, how, if you give some advice on how to take the five-year goal and then understand each year what do I need to do?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah. So you have to like take that, that that five-year big vision and you say, Okay, so what does that mean mathematically has to happen? What does that mean, like initiative-wise has, has to happen? Listen, I’d like to do all of the— I’d like to my— I don’t like— I’d love to take the whole five years and put it in the next quarter. And people try to do that and they get nothing done. So you say, Okay, these are, these are all important, but when you build a house and you’re the architect of your future, you, you build certain foundations so then you can ultimately do the decorating.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnSo what we do then is we, we take the five years, we break it up into annual into the, the, into the individual specific years. And then we put the big rocks that we have to accomplish and every year to get to the five- year vision. So and, and then by the way, in the next, the ones that are going to happen in the next year, like fourth quarter, good news, and I, I know this may be over already, but in this quarter, I think we have all of our rocks pretty well met. And it, it, so I think we’re good. But, but we, but we put together our rocks and so then if if it’s in, if it’s over the next year, we will, we will then break it down quarterly. And so, okay, so in the next year we can’t do all of ’em in the first quarter like we want. What do we have to do quarter by quarter when you’re one year out? So, so we’re taking our, our what’s it all about? all about.We’re saying what does five years look like? So we’re on that trajectory and what do we need to get done annually to get to five years? So we’re matching our activity with our vision.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernThis seems like it’s like Pandora’s box, but annually goes down to quarterly—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernNo, no, you know those little dolls they open up, keeps getting—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernRight, exactly.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernu0026nbsp;rnrnWell it is like that.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernI dunno what that’s called.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernI don’t either, but it, but it’s what it is.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernYes, yes. So quarterly initiatives. So I will, so obviously when you identify the annual goals, initiatives you need to accomplish that are like, just need done, it’s a, it’s a fact of life. Quarterly, quarterly accelerators is what we call them here at Confluence.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernIf you pivot, you gotta start to accelerate?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernRight, yeah. So they’re—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernOr it’s a stop.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernRight there are goals, but you’re accelerating into the quarter.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernSo for example, and I’ve never done this, but a lot of people like have a word of the year.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernu0026nbsp;rnrnType thing. That might be like the theme of the year.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernBut we have for, when we’re recording this now, it’s the fourth quarter of 2022. And we think it’s really important for us to engage with our clients and our network and our friends and whoever because the market’s not great right now. We can all agree if hopefully this’s not the case when this podcast comes out, but who knows. But our word is engage. So that word triggers in our heads how we are going to accelerate in the fourth quarter and help our clients get through this time. We don’t always have a word, but that’s the word for the quarter.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernAnd that’s engage.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernThat word informs all of us at the Confluence, whether it be the advisor level, associate level—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernFeel like I need to go into the engage—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernRight.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernEngage Maverick.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernThat’s a good example. Okay, we won’t do that. But anyway, that word really helps us understand—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernWe do that internally, right? Engage Maverick. It’s time to engage.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernu0026nbsp;rnrnYes. It’s time to engage. So as a team, that word to us for the team means something for everybody differently in, in the team, but the whole theme of the quarter is engage. So I don’t know if that’s helpful for on a personal level, if you’re listening to this and you’re not a part of Confluence internally, but—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernBy the way, we wanna, we wanna have a thousand engagements. And that’s the, this quarter. So then we will, we’ll engage. And then we all be at Nemacolin celebrating in, I think it’s, I forget when it is, April. April or something like that.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernYep.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernWe’re gonna take all of our associates, all of them and their spouses are significant others to Nemacolin to celebrate that we engaged. And we’re gonna celebrate the fact that hopefully those engagements helped a bunch of investors.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernThat’s right. What are quarterly accelerators?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYes. What are the three things that I really need to change, accelerate, pivot this quarter? I think if you get 4, 5, 6 sevens too many, what are the three things you really need to get done this quarter? It’s not your normal activity. That’s a change. It’s an acceleration of something or something you’re doing different. What’s your, what’s your three things that you need to get done that, that are really gonna be game changers in your life, your career or business, whatever that is. So everybody has three of those that are by the way, in line with your annual goals. So it’s all, it’s like, you know, you can see how it’s that thing, right? So it goes to your quarterly goal. So what you’re doing is you’re taking your five-year goal, you’re looking at it, you’re looking at your year and you’re saying, Okay, I get it. Now what do I need to do in this, this quarter for the end of the quarter for me to make significant headway on that five-year goal?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernAnd if you do that four times a year?rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernu0026nbsp;rnrnMagic.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernMagic. Three things you’re doing this quarter, how do you filter that down into your daily activities.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah. So own your calendar. Like if people are like, it amazes me, people don’t own their calendar and they just let it happen. Your calendar, and if you think about it, it’s true. Your calendar is your life. And a day is part of that calendar. And it amazes me how many people are not intentional about what they do that day. And it could be a date with your spouse, it could be something business oriented. But we encourage people to really come to the office and enter the day with intention. And that means that you should be doing things that are in line with your quarterly, five-year and what’s it all about. Now we all have to go to the grocery store. And I understand that’s not like, you know what, like what you’re all about. But we all have time to make sure we plan the day.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnSo, so I put on my daily goals every day I write my things, I need to do my tasks across the top every day. I put I put my three goals. So my three accelerators, every day are across the top, so they’re top of mind. I put some things I’m measuring there, every day, certain amount of things I want to get accomplished, they’re there. And then I think the most important is the N.M.W. My “no matter what.” My “no matter what” is the one thing I need to get done that day, that if I only did one thing, it would, it would put me on the trajectory of my five-year goal or the firm’s five-year goal. So by the way, if you do your most important thing, if you just did that one thing, the most important thing every day. If you’re working on spiritual, maybe it’s reading the Bible, whatever your thing is, and it can be different every day.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnMine is different virtually every day. If not, it’s just the normal stuff. But you know, you put your “no matter what,” but if you, but if you, if you really, really think about where you wanna be and you realize life is short and you realize you’re gonna die. And so you really realize that when you look out 20, 30, 40 years, that you’re gonna look back and when you look back, how are you gonna be remembered? What did you do? Did you make an impact? Did you live your dream? And then you have, okay, so what do I need to do to get on the right way? Go in the right direction in the next five years? And then when you break that down from five years to your “no matter what,” you have a way better chance of getting to the end and feel like, you know, you, you did your very best, you did life. It didn’t do you.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernu0026nbsp;rnrnSo listening to you go through that framework again, I think it’s, somebody might be listening this might say, Wow, he sounds really obsessed with goal planning—rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernHe is.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernNo, he is, I can attest that, but that kind of reverts back to when I said the beginning, the sports psychologist, Martin Luther King said, I have a dream, not a goal. You’ll get bloody, you’ll sweat, you’ll get your uniform dirty for a dream. So being obsessed is part of that. You have to be obsessed.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah, and it’s, you know, we talk about all the time in Confluence, I I probably mentioned on a lot of podcasts. I mean, we don’t work and we don’t play, we just live. So I’m also obsessed at enjoying getting a break and being in Naples. Now, do I still think about work? Yeah, I love it. I mean, I love it. But part of my goal was to have a place in Naples so I can share Thanksgiving with my entire family this year in Naples. So it’s not just, you know, growth of a business or proving our experience in the business. It’s, it’s also, I, I mean the house in Naples, for me, was about sitting around the table at Thanksgiving by the pool, enjoying time with my children and grandchildren. So it’s not just an obsession with the five-year business goal. It’s just really trying every day, you know, to, to understand I’m gonna die.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernThanks for sharing all that. Not only we do this internally at Confluence, but we help clients understand the importance of life is short, you’re going to die, let’s help you plan, you know, a plan that maximize your life and legacy. We would love to help anyone listening, our clients, community, friends, network. We really live by this. We think we’re good at it, but we’ll always get better. We’re not, we haven’t really figured it out.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah, so I it’s for clients, listen, it’s like, I don’t wanna go in there, we’re gonna have to dream about 20 years and like everybody, like, Lighten up Frances, like that movie Stripes. No. You know, everybody thinks about it differently and, and, and like fly fishing, we, we can match the hatch. I think, I think the most difficult part of our job, and yet the most rewarding is when you can see a client light up. And when you can really, you know, talk to client about what the money’s about and what their portfolio is about and what, what their life’s about — without, you know, we’re not, we’re not overdoing it, but you know, you really say, Yeah, I’vernrnu0026nbsp;rnrnworked hard. This is what I, or I this is, I wanna work hard. This is what I wanna accomplish. You can see it in their face.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnLike when you can see, when I wanna educate my children, I wanna change this charity. I want to like I wanna be able to retire and have freedom. Like I, you know, whatever. I I remember my mom when she lit up, she said she wanted to retire cuz she wanted to be able to get up in the morning and have a cup of coffee and not rush outta the house. And I remember that moment. I haven’t thought about it for a while, but I remember that moment. And when you can see that in someone’s face, it’s pretty special. And in our firm, we have the ability to see that in people’s face and help ’em accomplish it.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernYou’ve said before it’s a really, really good meeting if a client laughs and cries.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernYeah.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernWithin the same meeting. So thank you Greg.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernWe will not make you cry Nornrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eKatie:u003c/h1u003ernu0026lt;Laughu0026gt;. Unless you really want to. If you get the, you know, the emotions rolling. But yeah. Thank you, Greg. This was, I think this is helpful for listeners. It’s always helpful to have a conversation with you, so thank you and thanks for being my guest.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnu003ch1u003eGreg:u003c/h1u003ernHey, thanks. I enjoyed it u0026lt;laughu0026gt;.rnrnu0026nbsp;rnrnThank you for listening to the Imagine That Podcast. We hope you enjoyed this episode and welcome you to reach out to Confluence Financial Partners with your questions and comments. If you’d like to hear more episodes, head over to confluencefp.com/podcasts or find us wherever you get your podcasts.